Jill and Jessa Duggar Have “Covenant” Marriages


As some of you may have noticed, both Jill and Jessa Duggar have "convenient" marriages. Arkansas is one of three states a covenant marriage law. No-fault divorce laws have allowed couples to divorce without having to prove abuse or unfaithfulness, but Arkansas' covenant marriage law rolls that back. Couples with covenant marriages cannot simply get a divorce---and that now includes both Jill and Jessa.How does Arkansas' covenant marriage law work? Like this:Under a Covenant Marriage, a c … [Read more...]

Karen Campbell: Cover for Your Abusive Parent


Karen Campbell of That Mom says that "what homeschooling moms really want" is respect. But after talking about being content with your situation, listening to God's desires for you, and respecting others' life paths as well, she turns to children respecting abusive parents. Often it is difficult to show respect to others, especially to our own parents or other family members. Many people were raised in homes where physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, or spiritual abuse was a daily occurrence. … [Read more...]

Matt Walsh Doesn’t Get Historical Marriage Rate Trends


Matt Walsh recently published an article urging early marriage.I was 24 when we met and got engaged and 25 when we tied the knot. That would make us pretty run of the mill by our grandparents’ standards, but not anymore. These days we’re practically a Ripley’s Believe It Or Not exhibit. People are downright befuddled to come across a 20-something with a wedding ring, much less a couple of carseats in the back of the sedan. There’s a good reason for their shocked amazement. Indeed, y … [Read more...]

Pastors and Secretaries: Enemies of a Gothard Marriage


I've been under a lot of stress lately and I'm really tired. But I try to put up a post each day to keep things active and maintain the community here, so today you get more from the Bill Gothard textbook I got my hands on. He's just so out there that blogging against his teachings is easier than many other topics, somehow. It's also familiar, in a way. So today you get to find out how pastors and secretaries can be enemies to good, godly marriages.Both of these passages are from the chapter … [Read more...]

“I See Things That Nobody Else Sees”


Melanie Martinez's music video "Dollhouse" is really getting to me. I've watched it multiple times since writing about Cynthia Jeub, and have been struck by how much it speaks to me. Why, you ask? Let me explain. First, the video:Before I get into my story some more, I want to quote from a recent blog post by homeschool graduate Lana. Lana's writing has long spoken to me, and is a story only too common in the Christian homeschooling communities we grew up in. Our family was the center o … [Read more...]

Growing Up Jeub


I have written several blog posts about the Duggars and their beliefs, and each time have had commenters defend the Duggars and tell me that their family must be happy and functional because they look happy and functional on screen. This is a problem. As I've noted, the Duggars follow and promote the parenting methods of religious leaders who teach that corporal punishment must be used to break children's wills, that children should be required to smile and not allowed to show the slightest neg … [Read more...]

Has Gay Marriage Harmed this Writer and Her Children?

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I recently came upon an article titled "Breaking the Silence: Redefining Marriage Hurts Women Like Me---and Our Children." I was intrigued, because I often hear or read that allowing gay and lesbian individuals to marry harms opposite-sex marriage, but I rarely find any case made for what that harm actually looks like, or how it is caused. The article, by a woman named Janna Darnelle, begins like this:Every time a new state redefines marriage, the news is full of happy stories of gay and … [Read more...]