Lost and Found: A Friendship, a Shunning, and an Apology

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While I talk a lot about my background here on the blog, I generally maintain some level of distance. Today I want to narrow that distance by sharing an email from a young woman who was a good friend of mine growing up. We'll call her Kate. Her email reduced me to tears and reveals a lot about just how this sort of culture functions---and about how and why shunning occurs.Kate was a good bit younger than I but was one of my closest friends during my high school years. She was homeschooled … [Read more...]

Forward Thinking: What We Owe Our Parents

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Forward Thinking is a values development project created in collaboration with Dan Fincke of Camels with Hammers. Dan is introducing our next prompt today (head on over to see it!), but in this post I will pull together some of the responses to this month’s prompt: “What do we owe our parents?” A total of five bloggers wrote posts in response.I want to start with this succinct summary by B. of Celebration of Gaia: We owe our parents everything. Without them, we would not exist. We wouldn’t b … [Read more...]

Homeschooling under the Influence

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After I wrote my posts on academics and socialization, I realized that there is another way homeschooling affected my life---and it's no less significant. In fact, it's a whole lot more significant. Quite simply, homeschooling affected my life because it changed my parents. When I was born, my parents were fairly ordinary evangelical Christians. That didn't last. Their involvement in the homeschool movement introduced them to new ideas they had not before been exposed to---ideas put forward by … [Read more...]

Forward Thinking: What Do We Owe Our Parents?

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I’ts that time of the month again! Head on over to Camels with Hammers to see Dan’s roundup of the posts written in response to his prompt on punishment and moral failures two weeks ago, and with that said, it’s time to turn to our next Forward Thinking prompt.Nearly two weeks ago, an article on Slate asked an interesting question: When terrible, abusive parents come crawling back, what do their grown children owe them? This got me thinking. Given that one of the ten commandments orders child … [Read more...]

A Day in the Life

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I told Sean earlier that I think today pretty much sums up our lives. Marriage and parenting are things that are beautiful and enriching when you zoom out and take a long view, but will naturally have bumps and turbulence along the way. Just like life. And in many ways, today was a picture of that.We had been planning for a while to go to a children's museum in a city about an hour away, and so had decided that today would be the day it would make it happen. Still, we treasure our lazy S … [Read more...]

Jonathan Last, Race Suicide, and Demographic Collapse

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Forget the debt ceiling. Forget the fiscal cliff, the sequestration cliff and the entitlement cliff. Those are all just symptoms. What America really faces is a demographic cliff: The root cause of most of our problems is our declining fertility rate. Apparently my IUD is the cause of the fiscal cliff. Yay me.Can I say how much I hate articles like this? This particular one, by author Jonathan Last (whose new book, What To Expect When No One's Expecting, just came out), was published in the … [Read more...]

Creating Spaces for Collective Mourning

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Last week Dan Fincke introduced this prompt for Forward Thinking: If it were up to you to design one or more basic models for messaging and for ritual through which people were to regularly mark deaths together, what would such ceremonies be like?  This isn't a topic I've thought very much about, or had much experience with, but I'll try to pull together a few tentative thoughts nonetheless. Funerals, even more than weddings, can be complicated when there are people of a variety of religious be … [Read more...]


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