Obtaining Consent Doesn’t End with Marriage

I am deeply troubled by She Only Said "Yes" Once, an article I recently came upon on Faith It by Pastor Reggie Osborne. It's very long. Let me give you a sample: I stood on a stage in the church I’d grown up in.  I can only vaguely remember my wedding, but I’ll never forget seeing Allison emerge from the hallway at the back of the sanctuary. Beautiful. . . .We stood before the pastor, and we went through the motions of the service.  It feels sacrilege to says this, but they were jus … [Read more...]


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From Traditional Daughter to Feminist Mother (and What That Means)

I was recently explaining to my daughter that Hillary has to work twice as hard as Trump does and be twice as organized and as competent as Trump is, because she's a woman. My daughter, Sally, was nonplussed. She didn't think that sounded fair. We talked a bit more about women's rights and the history of gender relations---all things we've touched on before---and my mind was drawn to the many studies and books I've seen and read on these issues, from Lean In to studies on how often women ask for … [Read more...]


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Women Who Murder Their Husbands Are “Wicked” While Men Who Do the Same Are Ordinary Blokes

After writing yesterday's post, I came upon something very interesting. A study by Australian researchers published last year evaluated judges' sentencing remarks in 72 cases of domestic murder---67 involving male perpetrators and 5 involving female perpetrators---and found stark differences between the way the judges talked about men who murdered their domestic partners and women who murdered their domestic partners. While the study looked at cases in two provinces in Australia, many of the … [Read more...]


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Why the Ghostbusters Women Are the Role Models My Daughter Needs

So, Ghostbusters! The much-awaited movie is now in theaters. I took my second grade daughter to see it this past weekend---yes, Sally really is in second grade now---and she loved it. Well, she mostly loved it. She found it a bit scary at moments, and I have yet to convince her to go back to sleeping in her own bedroom. But overall, Sally gave the film a big thumbs up. She even expressed a desire to see it again, noting that "it won't be as scary now that I know what happens." One of the things I … [Read more...]


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Donald Trump, Roger Ailes, and Bill Gothard

Roger Ailes, the long-time chief executive director of Fox News, announced last week that he was stepping down amid sexual harassment allegations lodged against him by Gretchen Carlson numerous and other female Fox News employees, including the popular Megyn Kelly. Donald Trump responded as follows: "I can tell you that some of the women that are complaining, I know how much he's helped them, and even recently. And when they write books that are fairly recently released, and they say wonderful … [Read more...]


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The Invisible Labor of Mothering

I've been thinking, lately, about the amount of labor mothers perform that is rendered invisible and often taken for granted. Blogger Elizabeth Esther recently wrote up this list of the things she did as a stay-at-home mother: My main job was providing high-quality, full attentive, deeply intuitive child-care. But that was just my 9-5, so to speak (although it was really like 6am-5pm). What makes at-home work so exhausting, though, is all the OTHER WORK on top on top of the regular, child-care w … [Read more...]


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Gender, Gender, Everywhere

I was recently at an appointment in a medical office with my preschool son, Bobby. As he is sometimes want to do, Bobby was wearing a dress. The dress was flowered, with a wide skirt that swirls out when he twirls. He usually wears pants or shorts, but he loves dress-up and has a small collection of dresses of his own, and I figure, if girls can wear pants as well as skirts, why shouldn't boys be allowed to wear skirts if they so desire? It wasn't his appointment and we hadn't been there before, … [Read more...]


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