Beyond Civility

comment policy

A comment section dispute between individuals who will go unnamed turned extremely ugly this weekend. As my regular readers know, I have a comment policy for my blog. This is not a public space where anything goes. This is my personal blog and I set the rules. I feel the need to take a moment to go over my comment policy again, because I think some of you need a reminder.While my policy states that sexism, homophobia, etc., are prohibited, this is mainly because I reserve the right to ban eg … [Read more...]

My Top Nine Posts of 2014


This year Love, Joy, Feminism had over five million pageviews. Today I want to share my nine most popular posts. I'm always excited to tally this up at the end of the year, and this year is no exception!9. Teaching Consent to Small ChildrenI'm not really surprised by this one. People generally seem to like my posts on teaching consent, along with other posts on parenting without fear.8. A Letter to My ParentsNow this one did surprise me. Why? Because it's not even a post! It's … [Read more...]

People! I Have a Comment Policy!


Over this past week I have been growing increasingly frustrated at the growing number of people violating my comment policy. Some of these violations are committed by newcomers who may be unaware that I have a comment policy, but others are committed by regular readers. I have a lot on my plate right now, and stepping in and moderating all of these conversations to warn or ban those who violate my comment policy is really starting to take its tole. You've noticed that I don't have my Created To … [Read more...]



I suppose I should have expected this when I posted several days ago about seeing an offensive sexist shirt at my local YMCA. Some MRAs descended on the post's comment thread and everything went downhill from there. It's worth taking a moment to do some housekeeping and lay down a few ground rules.First, do not flag comments frivolously. If a commenter violates my comment policy, please inform them that they have done so and that further violations will be flagged and could lead to banning. … [Read more...]

Disqus Switch and Disappearing Comments


Okay all, sorry for the confusion. The old wordpress software apparently became too clunky as Patheos grew, so every blog is being switched over to the disqus commenting system.The Awesome Stuff:Conversations should be easier to follow now, and you can now "like" comments by up voting them---something some of you have wanted for some time. You can also flag comments as inappropriate, which helps me ensure that everyone follows my comment policy. You can edit your comments, another … [Read more...]

Commenting Problems!


Many apologies to everyone who has been having problems commenting here, which I understand have been accelerating recently. The "you're posting too fast" message is something a lot of people are getting.It seems this is a problem with the Patheos commenting system---it's that there are too many comments total being posted on all Patheos blogs in that moment, not that an individual commenter is commenting too quickly. I am told that they will be doing a system-wide fix to resolve this … [Read more...]

Housekeeping and Ongoing Projects


I just spent the better part of my morning doing some organizing here on the blog---namely, organizing some of the ongoing projects I feature here at Love, Joy, Feminism. I'd encourage you to take a look at them and also to consider participating in them. Each project has a main page that I've put some work into and is hopefully both inviting and easy to navigate. I'm going to take a moment to give a quick rundown:Raised Quiverfull consists of both a panel and a project. The panel involves … [Read more...]