My Pregnancies Cost Me My Hearing

I recently came upon a fascinating article from Mother Jones: Depending on the study, 50 to 80 percent of women who give birth experience tearing of the pelvic skin and muscles. For more than 1 in 10, the tearing is severe enough to damage the anal sphincter muscle, which often leads to the loss of bowel and bladder control. In a 2015 Canadian study, a whopping half of all new mothers were still reporting urinary incontinence a year after the birth, and more than three-quarters had residual b … [Read more...]


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About That Burning Children’s Christmas Presents Meme

Image text: Christmas tip: Wrap empty boxes for presents and when your child misbehaves or doesn't listen throw one in the fire. The above meme is one of many that was going around Facebook last week. As someone who strives to practice positive parenting---or peaceful parenting, or gentle parenting---I found it upsetting, and I wasn't the only one. A number of my Facebook friends posted about the meme in concern, sharing stories of times their parents destroyed or otherwise threatened their p … [Read more...]


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Rudolph the Bullied Reindeer

It's mid-December, and that means there's Christmas music everywhere. Some traditional Christmas songs have come under scrutiny lately, and conversations about whether Baby It's Cold Outside is a song about date rape (and the song's relationship to rape culture) have proliferated in recent years. I want to talk about another Christmas song---Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. You know Dasher, and Dancer, and Prancer, and Vixen, Comet, and Cupid, and Donder and Blitzen But do you recall The … [Read more...]


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“What Would Jesus Say if He Saw You Fighting Like That?”

When I was a child growing up in an evangelical household, my mother would frequently admonish my siblings and I when we were fighting by telling us to imagine that Jesus was standing right there with us. Would we fight in front of Jesus? What would Jesus think of our squabbles, and of how we were treating each other? We would look at each other guiltily and stop fighting---at least until later, when mom was out of the room. Today, for the first time, I found myself tempted to ask the same thing … [Read more...]


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Who Wants the Pink Cloth?

Like many of those who sew, I have a box full of cloth that leftover from previous projects. I recently went through this cloth, picking up each piece and brainstorming what I could make from it. I ended up with a stack of cloth remnants that were big enough to be made into pajamas. I called the children and began going through the stack, asking which one of them wanted which color."Okay, who wants the pajamas made with the pink cloth?" I asked finally.Both children answered at on … [Read more...]


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Parenting Survey Request!

Wendy Thomas Russell is the author of a book on offering nonreligious parents advice on talking to their children about God. I recently received this email from her: I am in the midst of writing a book about how science (specifically neuroscience) is helping to inform how we ought to be parenting (if only we'd listen!). I know you and I have very similar thoughts when it comes to child-rearing, and I believe much of the advice in the new book will very much appeal to your sensibilities and phil … [Read more...]


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No, Minecraft Does Not Have a “Sex Mod”

As I write, a new rumor is spreading across the mommy blogosphere, and thousands of mothers are starting to panic. Minecraft has a sex mod. You may think Minecraft is a safe, creative, healthy activity for your children, parents everywhere are being told, but it's not. Have a look at this piece by Amy Betters-Midtvedt on a parenting website: Take a minute to Google “Minecraft + sex mod.” I’ll wait.Did your brain explode? Because when I found out that this was a thing, not only did my brain e … [Read more...]


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