Why Do We as a Society Still Spank Our Children?

By now, you've probably heard about the new spanking study published in last month's Journal of Family Psychology. AUSTIN, Texas ­ — The more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents and to experience increased anti-social behavior, aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties, according to a new meta-analysis of 50 years of research on spanking by experts at The University of Texas at Austin and the University of Michigan....“Our analysis foc … [Read more...]


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How Do You Explain the Rapture to a Secular First Grader?

I grew up in an evangelical home. My daughter is growing up in a nonreligious home. One of the weirdest things about this situation is attempting to explain concepts that made perfect sense to me as a child---because they were all I knew, and all the adults around me believed them---too my children, who have no context for any of them. My son, Bobby, is still a bit young for such discussions, but my first grade daughter, Sally, is not. She is becoming more and more curious and more interested in … [Read more...]


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Smartphones, the Parental Boogeyman

I am no technophobe, and I tend to be more okay with screen time---with balance, of course---than other parents. But there is one area where I have sometimes become concerned about technology and my parenting, and that is my smartphone usage. Smartphones have made it that much easier to always be doing something---answering email, reading articles, interacting with friends on social media---and that much easier to be distracted and not paying direct attention to my children. Fair warning---as I g … [Read more...]


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Let’s Talk Parenting: Size Matters

I remember when I first realized that, from my children's perspective, I was a giant. It was that moment that I fully understood how important it is to get down on my children's level when speaking with them. Like, really really important. If you talk to your children without getting down on their level, you're usually talking down at them rather than fully talking with them. Understanding why size matters---and how our relative size should effect my interactions---has become central to my par … [Read more...]


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How I’ve Learned (and Unlearned) Parenting

I was raised in a strict evangelical home, and was taught that children must learn to respect their elders and obey their parents. As a result, I learned to view parenting from an obedience-focused punitive mindset. I left my evangelical upbringing behind just before I gave birth to my first child, my daughter Sally, and that meant I had to reinvent parenting. Over the years I've found the website Aha Parenting helpful, and I've learned a lot from the authors there, but I've also spent a lot of m … [Read more...]


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Time for This Millennial Mom to Buy Some Barbies!

Okay, okay, so the title of this post is slightly over the top. This past Christmas was a bit more heavy on consumerism than I'd planned and I've sworn off getting my children new toys until their birthdays, but I have to say, I am pleasantly impressed with the new direction Mattel is taking Barbie. The toy company has just announced  a move away from its classic look toward a greater embrace of diversity in body shape. The dolls in the image below are only some of the 33 new Barbies the company … [Read more...]


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Guest Post: I Am No Longer Afraid

By Darcy. Originally posted on Darcy's Heart Stirrings."You're different these days."It was a compliment this time. Though I usually hear it in a chiding tone from someone who thinks it their right to comment with displeasure on my life-journey. But this time, surprisingly, it was in admiration from someone who has known me a long time. It made me smile.I am different these days. I am....happy. Confident. Free. Comfortable with myself and my place in the world.But mostly, I am u … [Read more...]


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