House Passes 15 Year Minimum for Teen Sexters

My children are still small, but I'm already anticipating the conversations I'll need to have with them about sexting. That conversation is simple and goes like this: Don't. Sexting, or sending sexually suggestive or explicit images or videos of yourself, is unwise in part because, in this age of smartphones, it's impossible to know who may gain access to the content. Many cases of horrendous teen bullying involve the spread of images that originated as sexy shots sent to a boyfriend in a … [Read more...]


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Cultures of Violence Die Hard

Last night, Montana Republican gubernatorial candidate Greg Pianoforte assaulted a reporter. According to individuals from Fox News, who were at the scene: [Jacobs] walked into the room with a voice recorder, put it up to Gianforte's face and began asking if he had a response to the newly released Congressional Budget Office report on the American Health Care Act. Gianforte told him he would get to him later. Jacobs persisted with his question. Gianforte told him to talk to his press guy, Shane … [Read more...]


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Relationship Parenting

I want to preface this post by saying that every child is different. My child---the child this post is about---is an individual, and nothing I say here is a formula. Parenting my eight-year-old daughter without punitive parenting has been---and still is---revolutionary. Growing up, my siblings and I were expected to obey, immediately and completely and without question or complaint, and if we didn't, we were walloped with a paddle. Spare the rod and spoil the child, my parents believed.It's … [Read more...]


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My Pregnancies Cost Me My Hearing

I recently came upon a fascinating article from Mother Jones: Depending on the study, 50 to 80 percent of women who give birth experience tearing of the pelvic skin and muscles. For more than 1 in 10, the tearing is severe enough to damage the anal sphincter muscle, which often leads to the loss of bowel and bladder control. In a 2015 Canadian study, a whopping half of all new mothers were still reporting urinary incontinence a year after the birth, and more than three-quarters had residual b … [Read more...]


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About That Burning Children’s Christmas Presents Meme

Image text: Christmas tip: Wrap empty boxes for presents and when your child misbehaves or doesn't listen throw one in the fire. The above meme is one of many that was going around Facebook last week. As someone who strives to practice positive parenting---or peaceful parenting, or gentle parenting---I found it upsetting, and I wasn't the only one. A number of my Facebook friends posted about the meme in concern, sharing stories of times their parents destroyed or otherwise threatened their p … [Read more...]


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Rudolph the Bullied Reindeer

It's mid-December, and that means there's Christmas music everywhere. Some traditional Christmas songs have come under scrutiny lately, and conversations about whether Baby It's Cold Outside is a song about date rape (and the song's relationship to rape culture) have proliferated in recent years. I want to talk about another Christmas song---Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. You know Dasher, and Dancer, and Prancer, and Vixen, Comet, and Cupid, and Donder and Blitzen But do you recall The … [Read more...]


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“What Would Jesus Say if He Saw You Fighting Like That?”

When I was a child growing up in an evangelical household, my mother would frequently admonish my siblings and I when we were fighting by telling us to imagine that Jesus was standing right there with us. Would we fight in front of Jesus? What would Jesus think of our squabbles, and of how we were treating each other? We would look at each other guiltily and stop fighting---at least until later, when mom was out of the room. Today, for the first time, I found myself tempted to ask the same thing … [Read more...]


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