Why I Let My Children Eat (Almost) Whatever They Want

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I wrote recently about why I give my daughter Sally unrestricted access to her Halloween candy, and that generated some interesting discussion as people reminisced about their own childhoods or explained their own parenting decisions. But one comment, left by a reader named Brandy, got me thinking about teaching children about healthy eating. Brandy offered this concern: I guess I am struggling with this because of my own past. I was brought up with full access to junk food. My Halloween candy … [Read more...]

Let’s Talk about Halloween Candy

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When I was a child, we didn't do trick-or-treating, but we did go to our church's harvest festival each year, which means we children did end up with piles of candy. Each year my parents put all of that candy up where we couldn't get it and let us eat it for only one half hour each Saturday over the next couple of weeks, until it was gone. This was a terrible idea. Not only did it reinforce that nothing was really ever ours, it also meant that every Saturday for a month we would cram ourselves … [Read more...]

“Would you like me to hold you while you cry?”

Mother comforting her crying little girl

I knew the moment I saw Sally's face that there was going to be a problem. Her face was crumpling, and I knew tears wouldn't be far behind. Sally had just finished her dance class. Her teacher had just given her and her classmates each a certificate of participation, but one girl, who had fulfilled all the requirements and was ready to move up to the next class, got a ribbon. And Sally didn't. And in Sally's four-year-old mind, this was a disaster.The tears flowed freely as we walked out to … [Read more...]

An Open Letter to Debi Pearl

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Dear Debi,I was very excited when I read your article of this past August, titled "The Roland Study." In that article, you began with this opening paragraph: My grandson Roland, who just turned one, has taught me more about the development of babies and toddlers than I learned my first sixty-plus years of life. It is not that he is such a fine teacher; it’s just that, now that I’m a grandmother, not responsible for meeting the daily needs of my children, I can seriously focus on what makes h … [Read more...]

Michael and Debi Pearl’s Life Story on Video

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I just found a video of Michael and Debi telling their life story earlier this fall. I haven't watched the whole thing yet, and don't have time to parse through it at the moment. If anyone here wants to post in the comments what is said, or important insights, please do. For some reason, I can't embed it (something about privacy settings), so you'll have to click through to Vimeo to view it.Michael & Debi Pearl: Our Life StoryI do want to make a caveat. No mocking, please. I'm not … [Read more...]

Could Debi Pearl Be Changing Her Mind on Child Training?

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I recently came upon an article by Debi on the No Greater Joy website. It was posted this past August, so it's relatively recent. I must say, when I first saw it yesterday I was quite surprised by it. Here's how it begins: My grandson Roland, who just turned one, has taught me more about the development of babies and toddlers than I learned my first sixty-plus years of life. It is not that he is such a fine teacher; it’s just that, now that I’m a grandmother, not responsible for meeting the dai … [Read more...]

“Breeders,” “Spawn,” and the Childfree

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Last week I wrote about prejudice against children (which some scholars have termed "childism"). Many commenters focused on conservatives who believe in spanking children and see teenage rebellion as something to be eradicated, and I was indeed talking about this group. This wasn't the only group I was talking about, though. In response to commenters' focus on conservatives, reader Monala had this to say. To be fair, though, some of the worst childist comments I've heard have come from people … [Read more...]


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