Groundbreaking New Spanking Study

I recently came upon an article in the Scientific American discussing a fascinating new study just out in the Journal of Family Psychology. The study is titled "Eavesdropping on the family: A pilot investigation of corporal punishment in the home." As the report explains:We used audio recordings to investigate how parents use corporal punishment (CP). This is a prime topic to study because the extensive literature on the topic relies almost exclusively on self-reports. As the report goes on … [Read more...]


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The “United” Front?

One of the first parenting blogs I read was Dulce de Leche. Dulce also grew up homeschooled and had a similar transformation to my own. Her children are some years older than my own, and reading her positive parenting posts were transformative to me as a new and questioning mother. Since those early years, Dulce and I have become friends, and we now message each other now and again about this or that, and watch each other's children grow.Anyway, I've been wanting to write for a while about … [Read more...]


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When Toxicity Demands a Break

In case you haven't noticed, I'm taking a bit of a break from my series on To Train Up a Child. It was just starting to get to me, delving into it like that week after week. Don't worry, the series will be back once I've had a bit of a breather.In the meantime, have a dose of laughing babies to wash the Pearls' parenting advice out of your system: … [Read more...]


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Study Suggests Political Indoctrination May Backfire

I recently came upon this in the Atlantic: [M]any parents try to instruct their children and impart their views, perhaps hoping their kids become carbon copies of themselves, or become the people they wish they were themselves.For some parents, this quest takes on a missionary zeal: They work to indoctrinate their children with a designated political viewpoint from an early age, raising them to be young ideologues. But new research suggests trying to plant those seeds during potty training … [Read more...]


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In Which I Explain Easter to Sally

We saw my family over the Easter holiday, and in preparation I wanted to make sure Sally knew the Easter story. She already knew pieces, and as I helped pull it together I was trying to figure out how to bridge fact and fiction, or at least what scholars think happen historically and what exists in the grey area beyond that."These stories were all written down a very long time ago," I told her. "Sometimes with things written a long time ago it can be had to tell what part happened and what … [Read more...]


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The Valentine’s Day Disaster

I started this post several months ago, but never finished it. Given the conversation here on the blog lately about setting limits for children and saying "no," I thought I'd finish it and post it, because it seems relevant. The events in this post happened last February, right before Valentine's Day. I'm not going to finish with a lesson or moral, I'm just going to tell the story of one evening.It all started when I took four-year-old Sally and one-year-old Bobby to the dollar store after I … [Read more...]


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Self-Motivation and External Consequences

Unlike most of my parenting posts, this one is going to be high on theory and low on anecdotes. This discussion---which focuses on what it means that an adult or child "has to" do this or that---was prompted by reader Rebecca Horne in the comments section of my post on how I teach my daughter that "sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do." I want to start by saying that I don't have all of the answers, and that this is more of a thinking post than something that is fully settled in … [Read more...]


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