The Real Travesty of the “Hero Mom” Story

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I don't have a lot of time at the moment, but I did want to drop a quick note to say how disgusting I find white America's reaction to video footage of a black mother, Toya Graham, beating her teenage son as she drags him away from the violence between protesters and police in Baltimore. This mom has been dubbed "Hero Mom" "Mom of the Year" on media networks and twitter, trending from coast to coast.I want to be clear that I'm not angry so much with Toya Graham as I am with white A … [Read more...]

Condescending Self-Righteous Parents Make Parenting Sound Terrible

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I recently came upon a screed I found rather horrifying. It is titled "10 Things I Hate So Much It Destroys My Happiness." First of all, if you hate something so much it literally destroys your happiness, you may want to see a therapist. You should be able to hate things and still be happy. But honestly that's completely beside the point. I get that the title is hyperbole. I think I'm just feeling a bit nitpicky because . . . well. You shall see.I'm not going to cover each of the ten items. … [Read more...]

Why We Should Teach Children to Say “No”

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I recently came upon an a post by blogger MaryEllen titled Six Things My Kids Are Not Allowed to Say to Adults. With some trepidation, I clicked through. This is what I found: One of the most important things I want my children to learn is to respect authority. They will never learn to be obedient to God if they cannot first learn to be obedient to the adults God has placed over them.For that reason, we are very careful to enforce respectful speech when speaking to adults.This is not a … [Read more...]

What Kind of Atheist Parent Are You?

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Some months ago I mentioned Temperance Brennan in a blog post on atheist parenting, and my readers had a lot to say. To be specific, many of my readers argued that it was unfair that Brennan, an atheist, felt the need to defer to her Catholic partner, Booth, and let their daughter, Christine, be baptized. I did not write a followup post at the time, but my thoughts have been percolating and I think I'm ready to put them on paper. Or rather, in pixels, I suppose.Let's turn to an analogy for a … [Read more...]

Stop Stressing Out and Give Your Kid a Snuggle

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As a working mother, I often feel guilt about the amount of time I spend---or don't spend---with my children. Partly it's because my own mom was a stay-at-home mom who taught me that working mothers have effectively abandoned their children. Thanks mom! Partly it's because mothering has become ratcheted up to the nth degree these days. You're enrolled in mommy-and-me yoga classes and feed your children organic locally grown carrots and peas, right? Sigh.A recent study suggests that this gui … [Read more...]

The Radical Notion that Children Can Have Anxiety Too

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By SamanthaOriginally posted on Defeating the DragonsI was in a conversation a few days ago that has stayed with me, and I think what I noticed is important. A few moms brought up how their children respond to church services, and as a part of that discussion, one mother mentioned that her son said “the music gave him a stomach ache.” Responses were along the lines of “well, no wonder, rock concerts in church aren’t very restful.” It seemed to me that they were chalking up this toddler’s … [Read more...]

I Co-sleep, But: Some Thoughts on Attachment Parenting

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I've written before about not feeling "crunchy" enough for my hippie college town. I'm not sure, though, whether I've touched directly on Attachment Parenting (AP). I know I've wanted to. When I first left the authoritarian parenting and corporal punishment behind, I found AP very attractive. What is AP? Attachment parenting focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children. That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and e … [Read more...]


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