Bigotry Is Taught

bigotry

"Some men want to kiss on other men and some women want to kiss on other women. Isn't that gross?!?"This is, quite simply, how I was introduced to the existence of gay people. I was only seven or eight at the time. And no, it wasn't another kid who said this to me - it was an adult and a relative.In contrast to this, a friend recently asked my preschool-age daughter Sally who she wants to marry when she grows up. She responded by stating emphatically that she plans to marry her friend … [Read more...]

Positive Parenting: “Yes Sally, I understand”

Mother Daughter

"Swish! Swish! Swish!"It was evening and I was in the kitchen cleaning up the dishes. Sally was playing with one of her daddy's belts, whipping it around, listening to the noise it made."Ouch!" I yelped as the belt caught my leg. "Sally, that hurt!" I got down on Sally's level to talk to her. "Listen honey, when you whip that belt around and hit someone, it hurts. You need to be careful."Sally nodded, but two minutes later she was at it again, whipping the belt through the air … [Read more...]

Things are different here: “Back Talk” and Healing

Balk Talk

"Bobby!" I swooped in quickly to scoop up my wailing baby. "Sally, you have to be careful!" I admonished my preschooler as I held the baby close. "You just tripped on Bobby!""But he was in my way!" Sally exclaimed, indignant.Like a marionette puppet jerked by its strings, my younger brother looked up from where he sat on the couch, and for a moment, time stopped. Sally had just back talked me. This sort of thing was not allowed in our house growing up. This sort of thing resulted in a … [Read more...]

Whose Politics Is It Anyway?

kids campaigning

Yesterday I was watching Rachel Maddow with Sally. Rachel had Elizabeth Warren on, and I turned to Sally and said "That's Elizabeth Warren. We like her." And then I froze. I know that I like Elizabeth Warren, but that doesn't mean that Sally does or has to. What was I saying?When I was a kid, my parents always said it like that. It was never about "this is the candidate mommy and daddy support"; instead it was always "this is the candidate we support." As in, the whole family. In fact, the … [Read more...]

“Little Bundles of Sin”: Evangelical Child Rearing

little bundle of sin

I recently ran across a truly excellent article on the politics of the conservative family (seriously, go read the whole thing). I found the section on children and child rearing especially pertinent to my own experiences and a helpful overview of a lot of the particularities of evangelical and fundamentalist views toward children and child rearing. I'm going to quote from this section, pausing every couple of paragraphs for some commentary. ...Drawing in part on their belief in original sin … [Read more...]

Kids need rules! Right?

rules

I am constantly surprised by how much I was taught as common sense child rearing growing up is completely turned on its head by positive parenting. For example, one huge emphasis growing up is that children need rules, limits, and boundaries. Having boundaries, I was taught, makes children happy and secure. This from James Dobson of Focus on the Family: You have discussed the need for establishing boundaries within the home. Do children really want limits set on their behavior?Most … [Read more...]

I have another piece on Offbeat Mama

Click here:Preschoolers and the Art of PersuasionEnjoy! … [Read more...]


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