Conversations with Preschoolers

Can I say how much I love having a preschooler?My life is peppered with the most fascinating conversations. Watching Sally learn and figure things out is beautiful, and often also quite humorous.Let me offer this exchange by way of example:"I'm going to marry Daddy when I grown up.""Oh no you're not! I already married him. You have to pick someone else, because he's taken." "Then I'm going to marry Bobby." "Sorry honey, you can't marry your brother." "Why no … [Read more...]

Medusa, the Weeping Angels, and Mary’s Fairy Godmother

Last night I was in the middle of reading Sally a book of Greek mythology when she stopped me. She was excited and wanted to tell me something. She pointed to a picture of Medusa."That's an angel," Sally said."What? Are you sure?" I responded, surprised. How could she think that monster was an angel?"Yes. That's an angel." She was sure.And then I suddenly it all made sense and I understood not only why Sally identified Medusa as "an angel" but also why she identified the angel w … [Read more...]

Kate Winslet on Body Image

I just today came upon this image and wanted to share:"As a child, I never heard one woman say to me I love my body. Not my mother, my elder sister, my best friend. No one woman has ever said, I am so proud of my body. So I make sure to say it to Mia, because a positive physical outlook has to start at an early age." ~ Kate WinsletI love this sentiment. It's so true. Expect more blogging on this topic to come! Raising a daughter in our society today can be complicated. … [Read more...]

Jesus, Doctor Who, and My Preschooler

"What is that?"Sally had a Bible story book in her hand, and was pointing to the empty tomb. The picture showed the tomb with the stone rolled away, a radiant Jesus standing outside talking to Mary Magdalene, and two sleeping Roman guards off to the side."That's the empty tomb," I told her. "After Jesus died they buried him there, and then he rose again. That means he came alive again."Sally looked from the picture to me, confused. I wrote last month that ever since I overheard Sally … [Read more...]

When Bobby Wants His Daddy

Last night Sean held Bobby while I finished unloading the dishwasher with Sally. Sean then asked if I would hold Bobby so that he could put butter on some bread. I went to take Bobby, but Bobby instead threw his arms around Sean's neck and moved away from me. Sean smiled and held Bobby closer as I offered to butter the bread.When Sally was born, Sean wasn't sure what exactly to do with her. My schedule was more flexible, so I ended up caring for Sally the vast majority of the time. It wasn't … [Read more...]

Beating the Shame Game: On the Stigma of Early Marriage and Young Parenting

It seems that there is a very narrow time frame when it is acceptable to have children in our society. If you have children too early, you will be judged for it, and if you have children too late, well, you'll be judged for that as well. And of course, exactly what age is acceptable for child bearing varies from region to region and subculture to subculture.I grew up in a family and community where early marriage and early child rearing was seen as desirable. Perhaps not surprisingly, I mar … [Read more...]

Some Thoughts on Child Custody

Blogger Sheldon recently responded to my post on why my son Bobby needs feminism too, and while he praised the basic core of my post, he added this concern: She talks about patriarchy being causing problems for men, but I notice this problem has been overlooked (whether intentionally or unintentionally, I don't know).The divorce/family court system in the US very rarely gives full custody to men, or at the very least a decent shared custody agreement, very likely because of th … [Read more...]


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