Jesus, Doctor Who, and My Preschooler


"What is that?"Sally had a Bible story book in her hand, and was pointing to the empty tomb. The picture showed the tomb with the stone rolled away, a radiant Jesus standing outside talking to Mary Magdalene, and two sleeping Roman guards off to the side."That's the empty tomb," I told her. "After Jesus died they buried him there, and then he rose again. That means he came alive again."Sally looked from the picture to me, confused. I wrote last month that ever since I overheard Sally call … [Read more...]

When Bobby Wants His Daddy

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Last night Sean held Bobby while I finished unloading the dishwasher with Sally. Sean then asked if I would hold Bobby so that he could put butter on some bread. I went to take Bobby, but Bobby instead threw his arms around Sean's neck and moved away from me. Sean smiled and held Bobby closer as I offered to butter the bread.When Sally was born, Sean wasn't sure what exactly to do with her. My schedule was more flexible, so I ended up caring for Sally the vast majority of the time. It wasn't … [Read more...]

Beating the Shame Game: On the Stigma of Early Marriage and Young Parenting

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It seems that there is a very narrow time frame when it is acceptable to have children in our society. If you have children too early, you will be judged for it, and if you have children too late, well, you'll be judged for that as well. And of course, exactly what age is acceptable for child bearing varies from region to region and subculture to subculture.I grew up in a family and community where early marriage and early child rearing was seen as desirable. Perhaps not surprisingly, I mar … [Read more...]

Some Thoughts on Child Custody

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Blogger Sheldon recently responded to my post on why my son Bobby needs feminism too, and while he praised the basic core of my post, he added this concern: She talks about patriarchy being causing problems for men, but I notice this problem has been overlooked (whether intentionally or unintentionally, I don't know).The divorce/family court system in the US very rarely gives full custody to men, or at the very least a decent shared custody agreement, very likely because of th … [Read more...]

Critical Thinking and Compromise: Sally Strikes a Deal


"Sally, it's cold outside and we're about to go out. I would like you to put on some warm clothes.""No mommy, I want to wear this."Sally was wearing her sarong, a Christmas gift. It was light, colorful, and silky, a rectangular piece of cloth wrapped around her body and tied behind her neck. Outside, though, the snow was almost six inches deep and still coming down."I know you love your sarong, but we're going out and it's winter and it's cold and there's snow outside, so you really … [Read more...]

“Jessica says she won’t be my friend anymore”


Sally and were sitting together wrapping presents for her preschool friends when she frowned slightly and then looked up at me a bit sadly."Jessica says she won't be my friend anymore."Jessica has been Sally's best friend at preschool for over a year now. Every day when I take Sally to preschool, Jessica comes running up to her in excitement. "Sally! Sally! Come see what I'm doing!" And then they run off together, laughing."Jessica says she won't be my friend anymore."Already? … [Read more...]

Listening Can Be Hard: On Children and Disconnects


It was breakfast on a Saturday morning, and we needed to get out the door. Sally, however, had broken her biscuit into little pieces and then pushed them off her plate. The table was a mess."I want another biscuit!" she announced."What? You already had a biscuit and you broke it into pieces!" I responded."But I want a new one!""Honey, it tastes the same even when it's broken in pieces. I promise. Just eat it, it's almost time to go.""No! I need a new biscuit!"At this … [Read more...]