Busting the Mommy Myth

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Last week I wrote a post commenting on an article titled Motherhood: The Strongest Bond, writer Denise Stirks. Denise argued that moms have a special bond born of their love for their children. She talked about the empathy she feels for other moms, whether it be a mom trying to quiet her baby on an airplane or a mother trying to arrange childcare so that she can cover her shift. She spoke of this bond and common empathy for other mothers as though it is universal and almost magic.I critiqued … [Read more...]

Stop Saying Kids Aren’t Expensive!

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Ladies Against Feminism recently posted a piece titled Kids Aren’t Expensive But Greed Is. When I saw the title, I was reminded of my parents' constant insistence that children aren't expensive. I honestly do not understand why people make this argument. They could argue that while it costs money to raise kids, kids are worth every cent. They could argue that raising children creates memories, moments, and relationships that more than compensate for the financial drain they represent. But no, ins … [Read more...]

Yes, I’m a Mom. I Have Also Been a Child.

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I recently came upon an article titled Motherhood: The Strongest Bond. For whatever reason, the article title was later changed to The Most Powerful Thing You Can Say to Another Mom. The basic idea is that we who are mothers are united in a powerful way by our love for our children and our willingness to sacrifice for them, and that that gives us a common sense of understanding for each other.Here's an excerpt from the article:. . . And later I was getting dinner at a takeout r … [Read more...]

Sorting Out the Good from the Bad

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In yesterday's blog post, I compared my relationship with my own children with my mother's relationship with my younger siblings, and with me as a child. I wrote as follows: As my own children have grown, it has become striking how different the relationship I have with them is from the relationship my mother has with my younger siblings who still live at home. Her relationship with her children is built on authority and obedience; my relationship with mine is built on mutual respect and trust. … [Read more...]

On Coming When You’re Called and Fear-Based Obedience

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Yesterday I argued that we sometimes hold higher expectations for our children than we do for ourselves. One example I gave was when parents expect their children to jump up and come immediately when called while they themselves feel free to take a moment to finish something when someone else calls them.I grew up with parents who expected obedience to be "immediate, complete, cheerful, and without question." Anything short of this was considered disobedience. Half of my many siblings are … [Read more...]

When We Expect More of Our Children than of Ourselves

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Some months ago Sally left the family iPad in a store. She had been reading interactive storybooks when it ran out of batteries, so she put it on the rack under the cart and subsequently forgot about it. We didn't realize it was missing until we got home. Needless to say, I was not happy. Actually, I was really quite upset. Sean took Sally back to the store to look for it, but they couldn't find it. I'm afraid to say that I was more than a little stern with Sally. I didn't punish her (after al … [Read more...]

I Stand with Alecia Pennington

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I have spent some time reading Alecia Faith Pennington's story. First, I watched her short video, which you can see below:For those of you who didn't watch the video, Alecia explained that she doesn't have a birth certificate or social security number, and can't get either because her parents are refusing to cooperate. She further explained that without these documents she can't get a driver's license or a job, much less attend college or vote. I'd like to say I'm horrified, but I'm not, … [Read more...]


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