On Coming When You’re Called and Fear-Based Obedience

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Yesterday I argued that we sometimes hold higher expectations for our children than we do for ourselves. One example I gave was when parents expect their children to jump up and come immediately when called while they themselves feel free to take a moment to finish something when someone else calls them.I grew up with parents who expected obedience to be "immediate, complete, cheerful, and without question." Anything short of this was considered disobedience. Half of my many siblings are … [Read more...]

When We Expect More of Our Children than of Ourselves

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Some months ago Sally left the family iPad in a store. She had been reading interactive storybooks when it ran out of batteries, so she put it on the rack under the cart and subsequently forgot about it. We didn't realize it was missing until we got home. Needless to say, I was not happy. Actually, I was really quite upset. Sean took Sally back to the store to look for it, but they couldn't find it. I'm afraid to say that I was more than a little stern with Sally. I didn't punish her (after al … [Read more...]

I Stand with Alecia Pennington

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I have spent some time reading Alecia Faith Pennington's story. First, I watched her short video, which you can see below:For those of you who didn't watch the video, Alecia explained that she doesn't have a birth certificate or social security number, and can't get either because her parents are refusing to cooperate. She further explained that without these documents she can't get a driver's license or a job, much less attend college or vote. I'd like to say I'm horrified, but I'm not, … [Read more...]

The State Doesn’t Own Your Kids . . . and Neither Do You

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Last week, Rand Paul had this to say on vaccines:  The state doesn’t own your children. Parents own the children. I'm becoming very very tired of this dichotomy. For individuals like Ron Paul---or Michael Farris---if parents do not "own" their children, the state "owns" them. Is it so hard to consider that perhaps children are not property? Is it so difficult to imagine that children could "own" themselves?And are those who advocate for universal vaccination are not arguing that the state " … [Read more...]

Not All Days Are Easy Days

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One day a few weeks ago, Sally completely lost it. I don't even remember what it was about, but she just let loose. She was crying and screaming and yelling---and knocking over furniture. Sally knows that being upset is okay, but that hitting people and throwing things or being otherwise destructive is not. It was the evening and Sean was home and I was in the kitchen working on supper with things on the stove, so when Sally began flipping chairs I called Sean in as backup.Sean picked Sally u … [Read more...]

What Makes a Person an “Atheist” Parent?

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I was going back through my feed reader lately, and came upon a post on the Friendly Atheist from December. In it the author, Kate Cohen, writes about her interest in how atheists are represented in TV shows and movies shown on TV. She focuses especially on the representation of atheist parents.She leads with this: I found one! I found one! I found an atheist mom on TV! She goes on to explain that she is talking about Doris Walker in Miracle on 34th Street. I've never seen Miracle on 34th … [Read more...]

Grown Children and Estranged Parents

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A recent headline caught my eye:Why Some Grown Kids Cut Off Their Parents Could their estrangement be caused by how we raised them?My immediate response was, wow, you think? Like, you abuse and mistreat your kids and then wonder why they don't want you in their lives when they grow up? Really? But as I read the article itself, I realized that this wasn't what the author meant. And as I read, I was increasingly horrified. The Rise Of Narcissism In The YoungParents tell stories of il … [Read more...]


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