What Kind of Atheist Parent Are You?


Some months ago I mentioned Temperance Brennan in a blog post on atheist parenting, and my readers had a lot to say. To be specific, many of my readers argued that it was unfair that Brennan, an atheist, felt the need to defer to her Catholic partner, Booth, and let their daughter, Christine, be baptized. I did not write a followup post at the time, but my thoughts have been percolating and I think I'm ready to put them on paper. Or rather, in pixels, I suppose.Let's turn to an analogy for a … [Read more...]

Stop Stressing Out and Give Your Kid a Snuggle


As a working mother, I often feel guilt about the amount of time I spend---or don't spend---with my children. Partly it's because my own mom was a stay-at-home mom who taught me that working mothers have effectively abandoned their children. Thanks mom! Partly it's because mothering has become ratcheted up to the nth degree these days. You're enrolled in mommy-and-me yoga classes and feed your children organic locally grown carrots and peas, right? Sigh.A recent study suggests that this gui … [Read more...]

The Radical Notion that Children Can Have Anxiety Too


By SamanthaOriginally posted on Defeating the DragonsI was in a conversation a few days ago that has stayed with me, and I think what I noticed is important. A few moms brought up how their children respond to church services, and as a part of that discussion, one mother mentioned that her son said “the music gave him a stomach ache.” Responses were along the lines of “well, no wonder, rock concerts in church aren’t very restful.” It seemed to me that they were chalking up this toddler’s … [Read more...]

I Co-sleep, But: Some Thoughts on Attachment Parenting


I've written before about not feeling "crunchy" enough for my hippie college town. I'm not sure, though, whether I've touched directly on Attachment Parenting (AP). I know I've wanted to. When I first left the authoritarian parenting and corporal punishment behind, I found AP very attractive. What is AP? Attachment parenting focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children. That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and e … [Read more...]

Busting the Mommy Myth

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Last week I wrote a post commenting on an article titled Motherhood: The Strongest Bond, writer Denise Stirks. Denise argued that moms have a special bond born of their love for their children. She talked about the empathy she feels for other moms, whether it be a mom trying to quiet her baby on an airplane or a mother trying to arrange childcare so that she can cover her shift. She spoke of this bond and common empathy for other mothers as though it is universal and almost magic.I critiqued … [Read more...]

Stop Saying Kids Aren’t Expensive!


Ladies Against Feminism recently posted a piece titled Kids Aren’t Expensive But Greed Is. When I saw the title, I was reminded of my parents' constant insistence that children aren't expensive. I honestly do not understand why people make this argument. They could argue that while it costs money to raise kids, kids are worth every cent. They could argue that raising children creates memories, moments, and relationships that more than compensate for the financial drain they represent. But no, ins … [Read more...]

Yes, I’m a Mom. I Have Also Been a Child.


I recently came upon an article titled Motherhood: The Strongest Bond. For whatever reason, the article title was later changed to The Most Powerful Thing You Can Say to Another Mom. The basic idea is that we who are mothers are united in a powerful way by our love for our children and our willingness to sacrifice for them, and that that gives us a common sense of understanding for each other.Here's an excerpt from the article:. . . And later I was getting dinner at a takeout r … [Read more...]