Little Bundles of Sin? I Think Not.

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"My legs are tired mommy, my legs are tired!" Sally was insistent."We're almost home, honey, you can make it," I assured her. Bobby was in the stroller, and as he is just moving from babyhood to toddlerhood I wasn't going to make him walk."No I can't! My legs are going to fall asleep!" Sally was again insistent."Come on honey, I know you can do it," I said. "Just a little farther!"And at that moment, Bobby climbed out of the stroller, looked at his sister, and pointed back at the … [Read more...]

Raising Little Terrorists: Threats and Ultimatums Gone Wrong

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"Mommy, stop your typing right now, or I'll color on the table with this marker.""Sally!" I burst out, "I will not let you threaten me like that!"And then I had a sudden realization and my annoyance evaporated. Sally, age four, had been issuing ultimatums like this with increasing frequency over the previous week, but it was only at this moment that I put two and two together and figured out where this was coming from. Sally had learned to issue threats to get her way from me. Stop … [Read more...]

Parenthood, Selfishness, and Toxic Ideas

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I recently overheard some relatives of my husband say that not having children was a selfish choice, and that it was the choice to bear and raise children that was truly selfless. I cringed, but I was not involved in the conversation, so I didn't say anything. It did make me think, though, and I was reminded of a blog post I had come upon several days before with a very different message. It was titled "To the Women Who Choose Not To Have Kids."   To the women who choose not to have kids, I hav … [Read more...]

Sally and Me

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As I watched Sally at her preschool's winter program recently, something struck me in the gut, hard. Sally's upbringing will be so different from mine that it will in some ways be like we are from different cultures. I have talked before about growing up in the Christian homeschooling subculture being like being raised as a "third culture kid." I've talked about how our parents, raised in normal mainstream homes, could not understand the experience of growing up like we did, out of sync and in a … [Read more...]

“I Just Don’t Ask Them for Anything, Ever”

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I was watching the movie Tangled with my family when we came to the scene where Repunzel is nervously trying to get up the courage to ask her mother (who is actually her abductor, though she does not know that) if she can go and see the lights on her birthday. I turned to my teenage sister Hope and whispered to her."Do you ever feel like that when you want to ask mom and dad something?""Yeah, so I just don't ask them for anything, ever," she whispered back.In many ways, my parents … [Read more...]

Sally, Sean’s Wallet, and Moral Ethics

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When we go grocery shopping, I generally let Sally choose something small for herself. On a recent trip, Sally made a choice that was more expensive than the price range I generally ask her to stick to. I could have had her put it back, but I could see she was entranced, so instead I put back the little marshmallows for hot chocolate and a few other things."Sally, since you wanted that little doll, I had to put some things back," I told her in the car. "So we didn't get the little … [Read more...]

Modern Girlhood and Candy Land’s Sweet Poison

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Raising a daughter in today's world is hard. We like to think of ourselves as light years ahead of the 1950s in terms of gender equality, but sometimes I don't see it. And, lately, Candy Land has been one of those places. I am so incredibly thankful that my husband's grandparents gifted us their old Candy Land board, because otherwise I would be scouring ebay for one. When I played Candy Land growing up, we had the 1984 version.Then, in 2004, the game was updated.With this … [Read more...]


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