Emotion Control

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Michael and Debi Pearl's five children are now raising children of their own. Each says they are following the same methods their father laid out in To Train Up A Child, which he first published in 1994, and several of them have begun writing regularly for the No Greater Joy newsletter. As I read their articles, I often wonder whether they are adding their own spin to their father's childrearing methods.The Pearls have begun applying this three-part personality system to children. A recent a … [Read more...]

“Those are for Boys!” and Other Stories

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Two days ago I wrote about gender and confirmation bias and some of my own experiences as I raise my two young children, one girl and one boy. There's a lot I didn't write and there will be more posts on this topic to come, but I wanted to take a moment to highlight a few of the comments on that post, as many of my readers weighed in with their own experiences, either as children themselves or raising children today. Feel free to add more of your own stories in the … [Read more...]

Bobby’s Trains and Confirmation Bias

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Bobby's face was pressed against the glass surrounding the electric train set. The trains were running, whistling, and crossing each other's paths. It was his favorite part of the children's museum. Even at only one year of age, children have interests and show preferences, and one of Bobby's definite interests is trains.Just then, my husband Sean's Uncle Dale walked over and smiled at Bobby. "Look at him!" he said. "He's obsessed with that train. He's such a boy!" I frowned. I hate it when t … [Read more...]

“But you look so young!”

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"You have two children?" my colleague exclaimed, "But you look so young!" By the standards of my left-leaning town, I am a very young mother. As a result, I get this sort of thing a lot. Usually I try to explain about how yes, I am a young mother, but I had unusual circumstances, or that it was a good thing because it meant I wouldn't go on the job market with pregnancy and babies still ahead of me when I finish my graduate degree. This time, though, I decided to try something … [Read more...]

And Then She Called Me “Libby”

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Over the holidays my preschool age daughter Sally started calling me Libby. For a couple of days, it was all she used to address me. "Libby, can you get me a drink of milk?" "Libby, can I have a snack?" "Libby, is it okay if I go play in the basement?" I think I can now understand why some parents go by their first names with their children. There is definitely something leveling about it.Sally has long occasionally called Sean and I by our first names. For instance, I'd say "Sally, could … [Read more...]

When Homeschool Parents Call Other Parents “Selfish”

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I was raised in the homeschool movement. I grew up on its ideas and its rhetoric. And yet, I send Bobby to daycare and Sally to preschool and will be sending both to public school when they are old enough. This runs smack up against the ideals of good parenting I was raised with, and in the eyes of some homeschool parents, it de facto makes me selfish. I was reminded of this by a facebook comment by a homeschool parent I noticed in the discussion of Virginia's HJ 92.I highlight this co … [Read more...]

No, Explanations Are NOT a Problem

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I have to admit, I rarely come upon things that do this much of a dance on my blood pressure. But this . . . wow. It's an article from Shepherd Press, reposted by conservative Christian actor Kirk Cameron on his blog. It is called "The Problem with Explanations." Throughout this piece, I'm going to assume that Kirk Cameron posted it on his blog because he agrees with it. Let's take a look, shall we? God has not called parents to explain but to train. Explanations often lead to frustration and … [Read more...]


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