Obtaining Consent Doesn’t End with Marriage

I am deeply troubled by She Only Said "Yes" Once, an article I recently came upon on Faith It by Pastor Reggie Osborne. It's very long. Let me give you a sample: I stood on a stage in the church I’d grown up in.  I can only vaguely remember my wedding, but I’ll never forget seeing Allison emerge from the hallway at the back of the sanctuary. Beautiful. . . .We stood before the pastor, and we went through the motions of the service.  It feels sacrilege to says this, but they were jus … [Read more...]


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What Makes a College “Safe”?

Earlier this year, Business Insider posted a list of the "25 safest college campuses in America." The #1 safest college on the list is Brigham Young. The report stated that "students at Mormon-based BYU hold themselves to a high standard of honesty and trust . . . creating a safe and comfortable campus" and that "students accept a moral code of conduct forbidding the use of drugs or alcohol." They quoted a student stating that "BYU provides an extremely safe environment for people of all ages, … [Read more...]


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Statutory Rape in Christian Homeschool Perspective

When I first started blogging five years ago, I was unaware of any cases of sexual abuse in my own evangelical homeschool community of origin. In the last two years, that has changed. I'm not going to give any names or details here. I do, however, want to talk about some overarching themes and ideas I've noticed."In another day and age, they would have just made him marry her.""Why should he go to jail? All he did was start a relationship."These are actual things I have heard said … [Read more...]


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By the Skin on My Teeth

Tweet by Katelyn Beaty: I'd love to read an essay right now titled, "Purity Culture/I Kissed Dating Goodbye Was Weird, and I Still Turned Out Okay as an Adult." Katelyn Beaty is a managing editor of Christianity Today. Her tweet was a response to the Life After I Kissed Dating Goodbye, a collection of stories by individuals harmed by Josh Harris's book of that name. Samantha Field has already pointed out that purity culture teachings aren't simply "weird," they comprise an oppressive system t … [Read more...]


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The Horrible Hypocrisy of the Burkini Ban

Remember that French burkini ban I wrote about last week? It's really happening. And now we have this fascinating (and horrifying) photo comparison:The top picture, which dates from the early twentieth century, depicts a male official measuring women's swimsuits to make sure they cover enough skin. The bottom picture, from Nice, France, this week, depicts a group of male police officers forcing a woman on a beach to strip, because she's covering too much skin.Because yes, French … [Read more...]


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“Burkini” Bans Shut Women out of Public Space

"Mr. Anderson, Mr. Anderson!" I called, trying to get his attention. Mr. Anderson was the church youth group leader. I was in middle school, and I was considering joining. I was from a large, conservative homeschool family, and at our hip, upbeat evangelical megachurch, that meant I didn't fit in with the other children. I had attended Sunday School only sporadically, and youth group would be a different experience---it would bring me face-to-face with my church's public school children and … [Read more...]


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New Website Tackles Josh Harris’s “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” with Powerful Message

As a teen, Joshua Harris' 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, played a fundamental role in shaping my perception toward dating, love, and romance. Today, several of my blogger friends have launched a website, titled Life After 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye', to highlight the stories of others whose relationships and life trajectories were fundamentally altered by Josh's book. They are asking for submissions, including both posts on personal blogs, which they can link up, and original essays. If your l … [Read more...]


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