Is Josh Harris Actually Taking Responsibility?

Josh Harris was interviewed on NPR recently. I know this because my husband started yelling at me to come into the kitchen right freaking now and I was like, wait, you can't just order me to drop everything like that, that's not how it works, and he was like, trust me, you're going to want to hear this. And there it was. Josh Harris on NPR, discussing his 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. After reading his apology two months ago to several bloggers who have, like me, spent years blogging … [Read more...]


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Virginia Reforms Troglodyte Marriage Law

According to the Washington Post, Virginia has amended its marriage law: Only adults can get married in Virginia, according to a new law replacing policies that made it possible for a girl 13 or younger to marry if she had parental consent and was pregnant. According to UNICEF, any marriage of an individual under age 18 is classified as a child marriage. That Virginia previously allowed girls as young as 13 to marry is shocking, but most U.S. states allow children of 16 or 17 to marry with … [Read more...]


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Why the Brock Turner Letters Feel So Familiar

I wasn't going to write about convicted Stanford rapist Brock Turner. I really wasn't. Everyone else was writing about it it, I figured. Did I really need to write something too? There were enough voices out there, and the case was unfamiliar to me. But then I read about the letters. What letters, you ask? The letters Turner's friends and family members wrote to the judge urging him to be lenient in his sentencing, of course. These letters. One childhood friend wrote that Turner was “a mil … [Read more...]


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Courtship doesn’t save you heartache. It amplifies it.

I recently came upon a link to an article on a conservative Christian website comparing courtship with dating. Skimming the piece, I noticed one bit in particular that I found troubling, having grown up in a courtship culture myself. Benefits?So what are the benefits of pursuing the possibility of marriage without becoming boyfriend/girlfriend?You will be able to avoid having to:-- Experience the broken oneness and pain of one minute being someone’s partner and the next minute being … [Read more...]


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Josh Harris Apologizes

Last year Joshua Harris announced that he was leaving the ministry and going to seminary. He spoke of his life as being lived backwards, and his words resonated with me and with others who grew up in the Christian homeschool movement. Josh published his career-making book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, in 1997, when he was only 21. His book had a huge impact on not only the Christian homeschool movement but also evangelicalism more broadly, and frankly, messed a lot of things up for a lot of us g … [Read more...]


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Christian Homeschool Leader Announces Conference for Arranging Child Marriages

This November, in Wichita, Kansas, fundamentalist and conservative evangelical parents will gather at a conference to create betrothals for their marriageable children---with emphasis on the word children. This conference is called Let Them Marry and will be held by fundamentalist writer Vaughn Ohlman. I've avoided writing about Ohlman here for a while now, but this conference is so the last straw.Let me start with how a parent can know if their child is ready to be married off: 1) The … [Read more...]


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Catholics, Evangelicals, and Sexual “Purity”

Yesterday I posted an email from a reader about a speaker at her Catholic high school. I spent some time dissecting a number of the things this reader reported that the speaker said, and spoke briefly about the differences and similarities in evangelical and Catholic teachings about sex, purity, and marriage. Today I want to get into these differences in a bit more depth and look a bit further at this particular speaker---Jason Evert---and his organization.Jason Evert has an MA in theology … [Read more...]


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