Be Pretty, but Not Too Pretty

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I was struck by this particular line in Kate Schell's list of modesty rules:Be pretty, but not too pretty.After blogging abut Kate's list, I blogged about a No Greater Joy article in which the author equated dressing modestly with being beautiful. My daughters won’t dress like a strange woman either. Mine, at only 9 years old, knows that she should keep her body from a man’s eyes, reserving it for her future husband. In the grocery store one day, when my daughter was wearing a skirt tha … [Read more...]

The Cold, Unforgiving World of Geoffrey Botkin

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By AhabOriginally posted on Republic of GileadSome time ago, after I reviewed the Botkins' "Ready for Real Life" webinar series, a reader pointed me to a 2013 sermon by Geoffrey Botkin. On September 29th, 2013, Botkin delivered a sermon at Christ the King Church in Centerville, Tennessee (where he serves as an elder) entitled "How Bad Company Corrupts Good Morals, Part III", available at Sermon Audio. Geoffrey Botkin is the head of the Western Conservatory of the Arts, a ministry that pr … [Read more...]

Nine-Year-Old Sluts and Masturbating Dinner Guests

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While searching for an image to use to illustrate the concept "modesty," I came upon this image:I noticed that the image was from www.nogreaterjoy.org, so I clicked through. The article was titled "Sobering Issues---Modesty." It began with a letter from a woman who had read Created To Be His Help Meet and disagreed with Debi's treatment of Lydia in the story titled "Bad Bob." If you remember, Lydia, the youth pastor's wife, wore a tight skirt which, well, as the story tells it, basically … [Read more...]

The Modesty Rules—Not So Simple, Really

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I often heard, growing up, that dressing modestly wasn't about rules, it was about the heart attitude. In other words, if you were focused on the right thing---on God---you would naturally dress modestly, without having to run through a list of rules. You wouldn't even think about wearing short shorts, or showing your midriff, or wearing clothing that accentuates your bust.Of course, all of this ignores the fact that dressing in unapproved ways does not actually require intent to lead young … [Read more...]

Bob Jones University Rejects Key Recommendations of the GRACE Report

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Remember when I wrote about GRACE's investigation of how Bob Jones University handles sexual assault and other forms of sexual abuse? Well, GRACE released their report in December and BJU has mulled their course of action for several months now, but is now moving ahead---rejecting some of the GRACE report's key recommendations.To be fair to BJU, they have made some changes in recent years. A full-time women’s counselor was hired in 2012. In 2013, the university’s policies on sexual abuse wer … [Read more...]

What Courtship Was for Me

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I grew up in a community where courtship was not only the ideal but also the only option considered godly. Dating was for worldly people who didn't care about things like purity, marriage, or family. And yet, I don't think my parents actually sat down beforehand and hashed out how they were going to handle things. When I was grown and entered the world of romantic relationships, they seemed to be flying by the seat of their pants---in other words, their approach changed over time.My own " … [Read more...]

Evangelical Christianity’s Patriarchal Alternative to Fifty Shades of Grey

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This is probably the creepiest video you will watch this week:. . . yeah.Old Fashioned is a Christian movie alternative to Fifty Shades of Grey, released the same day last week. In the above video, the producers of Old Fashioned compare the hero of Old Fashioned, Clay, with Christian Grey, and frankly, it's not flattering---to either of them.In fact, I found this advertisement so bad I ended up transcribing it:It’s a hard thing for a dad to accept any man as being worthy of hi … [Read more...]


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