Why I’m Concerned about Josh Harris’ New Documentary

As a teen, I practically worshiped Josh Harris. Raised in a prominent homeschool family---his father was Greg Harris, a popular convention speaker---Harris was homeschool royalty, and at 21, he penned a book that would make him, too, a household name in homeschool families like mine. Harris' book, cleverly titled I Kissed Dating Goodbye, was published in 1997.In recent years, Harris has come in for harsh criticism from those of my generation. He has apologized---sort of---and has now embar … [Read more...]


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Evangelicals Are the Ones Obsessed with Sex

In an effort to deflect accusations that his patriarchal teachings give shield to abuse, Wilson has been writing a series of letters to Gabrielle, a fictional survivor of sexual abuse perpetrated by her father. In one of the most recent installments, Wilson gives Gabrielle advice on handling relationships during college. His advice included this cringeworthy passage: Whether or not you feel that way on any given day, you are a beautiful girl. And others will notice this, whether or not you are n … [Read more...]


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Evangelicals’ Sexual Double Bind

Evangelical Christianity frequently approaches sex in a strongly dichotomous way---sex before marriage is bad, sinful, and sick and corrupting while sex after marriage is good, godly, and mind-blowingly pleasurable. Many young evangelicals, however, have found that they can't flip a switch at marriage and instantly achieve the mind-blowingly pleasurable sex they were promised after decades of being shamed for their sexual thoughts or desires. In other words, it's not so simple.Rachel … [Read more...]


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Worth Waiting For

This Christianity Today article popped up in my feed reader today.The title reads "Jesus' Family Tree Shows Us He Is Worth the Wait."The article is about Jesus' genealogy, but that's not the way I read the headline the first time through. Evangelical purity culture played such a central role in my upbringing that the phrase "worth the wait" is intrinsically tied to abstinence teachings. As a result, my mind went straight to Jesus, and sex, and then froze---that can't be right. I sent … [Read more...]


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Jane the Virgin and Purity Culture Norms

If you've been watching the CW's third season of Jane the Virgin this fall, you know that Jane is a virgin no more. I've been meaning to write about the episode in which Jane---I hate the terminology here, "gives up her virginity" implies something was lost but "becomes sexually active" isn't as clear as it should be---but to be perfectly honest, I probably should have written about this show long before this moment.I've been watching the CW's Jane the Virgin since the first season was … [Read more...]


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Why I Lied About My Rape

A Guest Post by K. Matthews Note from Libby Anne: This post may be triggering to some readers. Sexual assault has been a frequent topic of conversation in 2016, and with that conversation always seem to come a few questions: What are rape and sexual assault? How can we ever trust women to tell the truth about them? Why might women lie about such topics? Well, here is why I did.When I first told just a few people about my rape, I lied. But I didn’t lie about it happening—I lied about i … [Read more...]


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Obtaining Consent Doesn’t End with Marriage

I am deeply troubled by She Only Said "Yes" Once, an article I recently came upon on Faith It by Pastor Reggie Osborne. It's very long. Let me give you a sample: I stood on a stage in the church I’d grown up in.  I can only vaguely remember my wedding, but I’ll never forget seeing Allison emerge from the hallway at the back of the sanctuary. Beautiful. . . .We stood before the pastor, and we went through the motions of the service.  It feels sacrilege to says this, but they were jus … [Read more...]


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