Evangelicals’ Sexual Double Bind

Evangelical Christianity frequently approaches sex in a strongly dichotomous way---sex before marriage is bad, sinful, and sick and corrupting while sex after marriage is good, godly, and mind-blowingly pleasurable. Many young evangelicals, however, have found that they can't flip a switch at marriage and instantly achieve the mind-blowingly pleasurable sex they were promised after decades of being shamed for their sexual thoughts or desires. In other words, it's not so simple.Rachel … [Read more...]


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Worth Waiting For

This Christianity Today article popped up in my feed reader today.The title reads "Jesus' Family Tree Shows Us He Is Worth the Wait."The article is about Jesus' genealogy, but that's not the way I read the headline the first time through. Evangelical purity culture played such a central role in my upbringing that the phrase "worth the wait" is intrinsically tied to abstinence teachings. As a result, my mind went straight to Jesus, and sex, and then froze---that can't be right. I sent … [Read more...]


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Jane the Virgin and Purity Culture Norms

If you've been watching the CW's third season of Jane the Virgin this fall, you know that Jane is a virgin no more. I've been meaning to write about the episode in which Jane---I hate the terminology here, "gives up her virginity" implies something was lost but "becomes sexually active" isn't as clear as it should be---but to be perfectly honest, I probably should have written about this show long before this moment.I've been watching the CW's Jane the Virgin since the first season was … [Read more...]


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Why I Lied About My Rape

A Guest Post by K. Matthews Note from Libby Anne: This post may be triggering to some readers. Sexual assault has been a frequent topic of conversation in 2016, and with that conversation always seem to come a few questions: What are rape and sexual assault? How can we ever trust women to tell the truth about them? Why might women lie about such topics? Well, here is why I did.When I first told just a few people about my rape, I lied. But I didn’t lie about it happening—I lied about i … [Read more...]


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Obtaining Consent Doesn’t End with Marriage

I am deeply troubled by She Only Said "Yes" Once, an article I recently came upon on Faith It by Pastor Reggie Osborne. It's very long. Let me give you a sample: I stood on a stage in the church I’d grown up in.  I can only vaguely remember my wedding, but I’ll never forget seeing Allison emerge from the hallway at the back of the sanctuary. Beautiful. . . .We stood before the pastor, and we went through the motions of the service.  It feels sacrilege to says this, but they were jus … [Read more...]


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What Makes a College “Safe”?

Earlier this year, Business Insider posted a list of the "25 safest college campuses in America." The #1 safest college on the list is Brigham Young. The report stated that "students at Mormon-based BYU hold themselves to a high standard of honesty and trust . . . creating a safe and comfortable campus" and that "students accept a moral code of conduct forbidding the use of drugs or alcohol." They quoted a student stating that "BYU provides an extremely safe environment for people of all ages, … [Read more...]


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Statutory Rape in Christian Homeschool Perspective

When I first started blogging five years ago, I was unaware of any cases of sexual abuse in my own evangelical homeschool community of origin. In the last two years, that has changed. I'm not going to give any names or details here. I do, however, want to talk about some overarching themes and ideas I've noticed."In another day and age, they would have just made him marry her.""Why should he go to jail? All he did was start a relationship."These are actual things I have heard said … [Read more...]


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