Statutory Rape in Christian Homeschool Perspective

When I first started blogging five years ago, I was unaware of any cases of sexual abuse in my own evangelical homeschool community of origin. In the last two years, that has changed. I'm not going to give any names or details here. I do, however, want to talk about some overarching themes and ideas I've noticed."In another day and age, they would have just made him marry her.""Why should he go to jail? All he did was start a relationship."These are actual things I have heard said … [Read more...]


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By the Skin on My Teeth

Tweet by Katelyn Beaty: I'd love to read an essay right now titled, "Purity Culture/I Kissed Dating Goodbye Was Weird, and I Still Turned Out Okay as an Adult." Katelyn Beaty is a managing editor of Christianity Today. Her tweet was a response to the Life After I Kissed Dating Goodbye, a collection of stories by individuals harmed by Josh Harris's book of that name. Samantha Field has already pointed out that purity culture teachings aren't simply "weird," they comprise an oppressive system t … [Read more...]


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The Horrible Hypocrisy of the Burkini Ban

Remember that French burkini ban I wrote about last week? It's really happening. And now we have this fascinating (and horrifying) photo comparison:The top picture, which dates from the early twentieth century, depicts a male official measuring women's swimsuits to make sure they cover enough skin. The bottom picture, from Nice, France, this week, depicts a group of male police officers forcing a woman on a beach to strip, because she's covering too much skin.Because yes, French … [Read more...]


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“Burkini” Bans Shut Women out of Public Space

"Mr. Anderson, Mr. Anderson!" I called, trying to get his attention. Mr. Anderson was the church youth group leader. I was in middle school, and I was considering joining. I was from a large, conservative homeschool family, and at our hip, upbeat evangelical megachurch, that meant I didn't fit in with the other children. I had attended Sunday School only sporadically, and youth group would be a different experience---it would bring me face-to-face with my church's public school children and … [Read more...]


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New Website Tackles Josh Harris’s “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” with Powerful Message

As a teen, Joshua Harris' 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, played a fundamental role in shaping my perception toward dating, love, and romance. Today, several of my blogger friends have launched a website, titled Life After 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye', to highlight the stories of others whose relationships and life trajectories were fundamentally altered by Josh's book. They are asking for submissions, including both posts on personal blogs, which they can link up, and original essays. If your l … [Read more...]


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Is Josh Harris Actually Taking Responsibility?

Josh Harris was interviewed on NPR recently. I know this because my husband started yelling at me to come into the kitchen right freaking now and I was like, wait, you can't just order me to drop everything like that, that's not how it works, and he was like, trust me, you're going to want to hear this. And there it was. Josh Harris on NPR, discussing his 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. After reading his apology two months ago to several bloggers who have, like me, spent years blogging … [Read more...]


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Virginia Reforms Troglodyte Marriage Law

According to the Washington Post, Virginia has amended its marriage law: Only adults can get married in Virginia, according to a new law replacing policies that made it possible for a girl 13 or younger to marry if she had parental consent and was pregnant. According to UNICEF, any marriage of an individual under age 18 is classified as a child marriage. That Virginia previously allowed girls as young as 13 to marry is shocking, but most U.S. states allow children of 16 or 17 to marry with … [Read more...]


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