Can You Believe Premarital Sex Is a Sin without Stigmatizing Unwed Motherhood?


Several years ago, in a Facebook conversation with a family friend, I argued that pro-life individuals should favor reducing the stigma on unwed mothers. I argued that when an unmarried woman decides whether to keep a pregnancy or have an abortion, the stigma unwed mothers face factors into her decision (whether consciously or not), and that reducing the stigma would make women in this position more likely to opt to keep their pregnancies. This family friend disagreed vehemently, arguing that … [Read more...]

It’s Not Just about Josh Duggar (Some Compiled Readings)


In the aftermath of the revelation that Josh Duggar had an Ashley Madison account, I want to pause to promote some articles making some good points. First and foremost is this absolutely superb blog post by Elizabeth Esther, who points out that this is not just about Josh Duggar:This isn't just about Josh Duggar. It's about an entire system of abuse (see also my article for TIME magazine). This isn't just about one guy's sexual screw-ups. It's about American Christian culture as a WHOLE and … [Read more...]

Josh Duggar Blames Porn and Satan in Public Statement


Josh Duggar has now released a public statement. Statement from Josh Duggar: I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife. I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those … [Read more...]

Bill Gothard Explains Road Safety (aka How Not to Get Raped)


Do you remember when that Saudi historian said that western women drive because they don't mind getting raped? He used the danger that occurs when a woman's car breaks down, leaving her open to sexual assault by any passerby, as a rationale for maintaining the Saudi ban on women driving. Well. Watch as this road safety module produced by Bill Gothard's Advanced Training Institute (a program for fundamentalist homeschoolers) takes a weird turn.(I was sent this module via Wende Benner of H … [Read more...]

Masturbation: A Selfish, Addictive, Vicious Cycle


I recently came upon two videos on why Christians shouldn't masturbate. For each, I will offer the video and then the transcript with commentary. While the unnamed actor in each video works to be hip, these videos are nonetheless good examples of how evangelicals tend to approach masturbation (and it's not pretty).First the video for women:I'm going to provide the transcript for each, with commentary. We'll start with the video for women, just to shake things up. Hey girl, I was j … [Read more...]

Sexual Predator Bill Gothard Defends Josh Duggar


Bill Gothard has come out in defense of Josh Duggar.'This is really quite different to what you think. It has been overblown, it is not like he is a sexual predator, he was a teenage boy. 'What he did, touching over the clothing, is not nearly what you think it is. It was wrong, but unfortunately there's a lot of this going on in many families today.'So does everyone remember when Gothard resigned from leadership of IBLP eighteen months ago after dozens of women accused him of … [Read more...]

Not Every Courtship Looks Like the Duggars’


So, courtships. In a post I wrote recently on the Duggars, I mentioned that I "went through a controlling and manipulative courtship process and then lived in fear that my mother would find out I was having sex during my engagement." A reader objected, and this exchange followed:So, I think it's time for a public service announcement: Not all courtships look the same. It seems that the high-profile Duggar courtships have so shaped public perception of what a courtship within this … [Read more...]