Raised Quiverfull: “Typical” and “Atypical”


In what ways was your family a “typical” Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull family? In what ways was it “atypical”? Joe: We were “typical” insomuch as we attended a conservative church, made decisions only from the Bible, appeared completely normal on the outside, and claimed that our lives would be lived out as was set forth in all patriarchal/Quiverfull beliefs.  We believed doctors were beyond evil and everything could be cured with a clove of garlic or drinking apple cider vinegar. Our lives … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Coming under the Influence

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How did your parents first come under the influence of Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull teachings? What leaders did they follow and what publications did they receive? Joe: When I was seven, my parents divorced.  This was 1987, the sort of peak to the “ministry” of the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), run by the Christian guru, Bill Gothard (Billy Boy G.).  At the time, Mama attended a weekly marriage counseling seminar called Rebuilders, a program put out by IBLP.  The pastor who ran … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Older Quiverfull Daughters and Parenting

Quiverfull ideology states that older daughters learn the skills they will need to be a mother by practicing on their younger siblings. By essentially "raising" a handful of children while in high school, older quiverfull daughters prepare themselves for their own roles as mothers. A growing number of articles by women who grew up as older daughters in quiverfull families is challenging this idea.Preparing for Marriage and Kids, by LisaThe Fun Mom, by MelissaDiapers, Crowd Control, … [Read more...]

Dear Libby: How can I be a good role model?

Dear LibbyI have a situation that I thought you may be able to help me with.  I'm a liberal Christian whose brand of faith has more to do with living out Jesus' example of love than anything else -- I tend to identify more with Quakers than most denominations I've run across, but the absence of a meetinghouse in my area has kept me from becoming more involved.I have a dearly, dearly beloved aunt who, over the years, has become increasingly fundamentalist in her political and religious … [Read more...]

One of the Bravest People I Know

Melissa of Permission to Live is quite literally and without exaggeration one of the bravest people I know. I've linked to her work before, but if you haven't spent time on her site, you really should. She's starting an important new series. Head over and read her introduction and then stick around as she posts the entire thing in the coming weeks. Here's an excerpt from her introduction, and then I'll offer some further background on Melissa: I am about to publish the most intensely vulnerable … [Read more...]

A reader asks: Am I angry at my parents?

A reader recently asked about my feelings towards my parents: Do you harbor any feelings of *resentment* towards your parents because they indoctrinated you? In previous posts you have used some harsh language to describe your upbringing, how it hurt you emotionally then, how it has hurt you emotionally now. Do you target any feelings of anger back at your parents? Some other atheists and I recently discussed this online, and most of them felt sorry for their parents and a bit disappointed in … [Read more...]

“Teach Them Diligently”

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This weekend is the "Teach Them Diligently Convention" in Spartansburg, South Carolina. According to the website, The Teach Them Diligently Convention was born out of a recognized need for more events celebrating the focus of Christian Homeschool Families—which is to disciple their children to glorify God. It's not surprising that the "about" section on the website would begin with the following Bible verse: And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shal … [Read more...]