Raised Quiverfull: Marriage

In many ways, every Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull couple has a different dynamic. What sort of a dynamic did your parents have? Was one more sold on the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology than the other? Or, if you grew up in a broken family, how did this affect your experience? Joe: When Mama discovered patriarchy, my parents were already divorced.  My dad had attended an IBLP Basic seminar as a young college student.  He brought the materials home to his dad who promptly threw it a … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Church

What sort of a church did your family go to while you were growing up? Were the other families who attended the church also involved in the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull movement? Joe: Before my parents divorced in 1987, we attended an American Lutheran Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA.  It was quite a liberal church.  They had a female pastor and preached about cultural issues with little Scripture, along with the typical Lutheran liturgical traditions. A highlight of my life there was … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: “Typical” and “Atypical”

In what ways was your family a “typical” Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull family? In what ways was it “atypical”? Joe: We were “typical” insomuch as we attended a conservative church, made decisions only from the Bible, appeared completely normal on the outside, and claimed that our lives would be lived out as was set forth in all patriarchal/Quiverfull beliefs.  We believed doctors were beyond evil and everything could be cured with a clove of garlic or drinking apple cider vinegar. Our lives … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Coming under the Influence

How did your parents first come under the influence of Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull teachings? What leaders did they follow and what publications did they receive? Joe: When I was seven, my parents divorced.  This was 1987, the sort of peak to the “ministry” of the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), run by the Christian guru, Bill Gothard (Billy Boy G.).  At the time, Mama attended a weekly marriage counseling seminar called Rebuilders, a program put out by IBLP.  The pastor who ran … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: Older Quiverfull Daughters and Parenting

Quiverfull ideology states that older daughters learn the skills they will need to be a mother by practicing on their younger siblings. By essentially "raising" a handful of children while in high school, older quiverfull daughters prepare themselves for their own roles as mothers. A growing number of articles by women who grew up as older daughters in quiverfull families is challenging this idea.Preparing for Marriage and Kids, by LisaThe Fun Mom, by MelissaDiapers, Crowd Control, … [Read more...]

Dear Libby: How can I be a good role model?

Dear LibbyI have a situation that I thought you may be able to help me with.  I'm a liberal Christian whose brand of faith has more to do with living out Jesus' example of love than anything else -- I tend to identify more with Quakers than most denominations I've run across, but the absence of a meetinghouse in my area has kept me from becoming more involved.I have a dearly, dearly beloved aunt who, over the years, has become increasingly fundamentalist in her political and religious … [Read more...]

One of the Bravest People I Know

Melissa of Permission to Live is quite literally and without exaggeration one of the bravest people I know. I've linked to her work before, but if you haven't spent time on her site, you really should. She's starting an important new series. Head over and read her introduction and then stick around as she posts the entire thing in the coming weeks. Here's an excerpt from her introduction, and then I'll offer some further background on Melissa: I am about to publish the most intensely vulnerable … [Read more...]


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