A Time To Conceal and a Time To Tell


Sometimes I come upon an article that speaks to my experiences and struggles so well that I just want to give the author a giant squeeze. Sometimes I come upon an article that explains something about myself that even I hadn't been able to articulate. An article I came upon yesterday was one of these. Let me excerpt the main points and then explain what I mean. The article is called "Why I Don't Tell People I Was in a Cult." I am part of a minority group that I call "People with a Big Story" f … [Read more...]

Saving Children from Africa: A Quiverfull Adoption Fad


Remember that little Lydia Schatz, disciplined to death by her parents, was adopted from Liberia? Well, this wasn't an abnormality. It was actually kind of a thing in quiverfull homeschooling families. I knew this as a kid because I noticed the trend in quiverfull publication Above Rubies magazine, which my family began subscribing to sometime in the 1990s. Throughout the early and mid 2000s, this magazine was peppered with images of families like the one shown above, this one a photo of Above … [Read more...]

Lost and Found: A Friendship, a Shunning, and an Apology


While I talk a lot about my background here on the blog, I generally maintain some level of distance. Today I want to narrow that distance by sharing an email from a young woman who was a good friend of mine growing up. We'll call her Kate. Her email reduced me to tears and reveals a lot about just how this sort of culture functions---and about how and why shunning occurs.Kate was a good bit younger than I but was one of my closest friends during my high school years. She was homeschooled … [Read more...]

The Three Weavers, part I: Introducing a Morality Tale

The Three Weavers

So with her father's blessing light upon her, she rode away beside the prince; and ever after, all her life was crowned with happiness as it had been written for her in the stars. As a teenager, my ideas about love and romance were actually influenced just as much by Annie Fellows Johnston's 1904 purity morality tale, The Three Weavers, as they were by Joshua Harris' I Kissed Dating Goodbye. This was brought to mind recently by a series in which blogger Lana of Wide Open Ground has been running … [Read more...]

Selfishness and Detoxing after a Quiverfull Upbringing


Reader Chrissy, who grew up in a large Quiverfull family, recently sent me an email with a question. I'm reprinting it here before adding my thoughts and opening the floor for input and discussion. I have a question for you, Libby, about something I have been pondering recently. It would seem that I am not a very helpful person. I rarely lend a hand unless there is something "in it for me". I am over-the-top helpful at my job, because I am invested in my paycheck and want to keep it coming. I … [Read more...]

Homeschooling under the Influence


After I wrote my posts on academics and socialization, I realized that there is another way homeschooling affected my life---and it's no less significant. In fact, it's a whole lot more significant. Quite simply, homeschooling affected my life because it changed my parents. When I was born, my parents were fairly ordinary evangelical Christians. That didn't last. Their involvement in the homeschool movement introduced them to new ideas they had not before been exposed to---ideas put forward by … [Read more...]

Birth Control: The Movie

birth control the movie

Fred Clark has been writing a lot about evangelical Christians' growing opposition to birth control. Just five years ago it would have been unthinkable for American evangelicals to rally against contraception. Religious opposition to contraception was strictly a Catholic thing and evangelicals, as Protestants, did not accept the baroque theological arguments supporting that Catholic teaching.That has begun to change. White evangelicals have begun adopting Catholic language and Catholic … [Read more...]