A Clarification Part 1: Things I Don’t Have A Problem With

This morning I heard from several readers who echoed a similar refrain. They told me that their wives are homemakers because they want to be homemakers and find it fulfilling, that they homeschool (or will homeschool) because they enjoy it and find it a good fit for their family, and that I should remember that [...]

Evangelicalism, Fundamentalism, Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull, and the Homeschool Movement

When you have a lot of different terms floating around, it’s easy for things to get mixed up. So let me be clear about something: evangelicalism, fundamentalism, Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull, and the homeschool movement are not synonymous. In an attempt to avoid confusion, I’m going to take a moment to define each and to explain how [...]

“We don’t ‘do’ teenagers”

As I approached puberty, my parents told me that “we’re not going to do that whole teenager thing.” They said that this whole idea of teenage angst and rebellion is a modern social construct, and that the word “teenager” was less than a hundred years old. Children, they asserted, were supposed to move straight from [...]

An Ideological Straight-Jacket

I just realized that in my last post I made the my home and those of other daughters who leave sound like a sort of prison complete with wardens. I will explore that idea here, and argue that the children of Christian Patriarchy essentially grow up in ideological straight-jackets. The parents of Christian Patriarchy have one [...]

My life as a daughter of Christian Patriarchy

On Saturday I had a post published on Butterflies and Wheels, so I thought I’d share it here as well. My goal was to explain some of this to people one the outside who aren’t familiar with Christian Patriarchy or Quiverfull. Deep within America, beyond your typical evangelicals and run of the mill fundamentalists, nurtured [...]

This Was Me

I came upon this video today. You see the oldest daughter, Olivia? I was her, down to the old fashioned dresses and meticulously curled hair. Everything she said and did, I said and did. Just as she loves and glories in her role, so did I. And when I was twelve, I too had six [...]

A Trust Problem

My parents have a trust problem. I’ve said elsewhere that the parents of the Christian Patriarchy movement seem to be unable to trust their adult daughters. In fact, as I’ve already pointed out, they frequently don’t even trust their adult daughters to be able to think for themselves. Depending on the family, sons may face [...]

Half An Army?

I have a sister who would make a better drill sergeant than nurse, and yet she plans to study nursing. This sister could be a CEO or a military officer or a politician, but she has never even considered being any of those things. She literally does not realize they are options. Nursing in contrast [...]

Mass Produced Children?

Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar assure the world that they have enough love in their hearts for all nineteen of their children. Well okay, who am I to doubt a parent’s love for his or her children! But I have to ask, how much time do they have for each child? What the Duggars appear [...]

Children Are Not Trophies

  When there were eight children in my family, I had a friend who was also one of eight. Then my mother had another baby. What do you think my friend did? She was so jealous of me that she didn’t talk to me for three months. Finally, she came to me and confessed her [...]

Girls Gone Extreme

I admit it. Some of what happened I did to myself. I took what my parents taught me and ran with it, embracing Christian Patriarchy and all that it included almost more than they did. My like-minded friends and I pushed each other to be more extreme. I embraced it, all of it, with all [...]

Giving the Child the Rod

I don’t know exactly when it happened, but at some point early on my mom handed me the rod. She told me I was to spank my younger siblings if they misbehaved or broke any rules and she was not in the room. The rule was that I could spank any sibling at least five [...]