Educating My White Privilege

Police Shooting Missouri

I started this post some time ago, but recent events have made me feel that now is the time to finish and post it. Several days ago black teenager Mike Brown was gunned down by police. He was unarmed and had his hands in the air, and still the police officer shot him again, and again, and then left him for dead.I have a lot of privilege. I am white. I was raised in an upper middle class family. I am cisgendered and present as straight. I grew up in an evangelical community that was 100% wh … [Read more...]

“And How Many Daddies?”

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I recently ran into my friend Amy and her son Joey when I was downtown for an event with my daughter Sally. Amy had a similar evangelical upbringing to mine, and is today happily married to her partner of fifteen years, Kate. Their son Joey is two. I've gotten together with Amy for lunch on occasion, and when we ran into each other again last week we repeated, again, that we should get out families together sometime---when we weren't so busy. I introduced Sally to Amy and Joey and then we parted … [Read more...]

Taken for a Lesbian Couple

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"You two are adorable, and your children are beautiful," the nice-looking older woman told my friend Beth and I as she paused at our table. She then gave us a knowing smile and moved on."Did she think we were together, or did I imagine that?" Beth asked, turning to me."You definitely didn't imagine that," I replied with a bemused smile.Beth and I were at an outdoor concert that day, our collective four children in tow. We'd left our husbands at home to get some work done in peace, … [Read more...]

This Is How Change Happens

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Some weeks ago I was a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding. The other bridesmaids and I went out on the town and spent some time hanging out, just chatting and enjoying our time together (and trying to keep the bride's stress level down!). Then, as we were chatting, one of the bridesmaids---we'll call her Amy---mentioned that her cousin had just come out as transgender. There was a momentary pause. Amy said she wasn't sure about the whole pronouns thing, and she just seemed really unsure about it … [Read more...]

Upworthy, Duke, and Ableist Slurs

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I recently came upon an Upworthy article that asked the following question: Which one of these is not like the others: 1. That's so dumb. 2. That's so stupid. 3. That's so annoying. 4. That's so gay.To me the answer was obvious: The first two are ableist slurs and the last one is a homophobic slur. Only the third one does not personal characteristics like sexual orientation or physical or mental normatively as derogatory slurs. Given this introduction, I assumed the article as going to … [Read more...]

Let It Gay? Subversive Messages from Disney’s Frozen

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Over Christmas break I visited my parents to find not only my younger siblings but also my conservative evangelical mother obsessing over Frozen. I was shocked. I had to ask myself---did they even watch the same movie? Did they not see the messages I did? Did they hear the same lyrics? How could they see Frozen and not realize that it was about self acceptance and freedom from others' expectations---and moral standards?It seems at least one blogger did pick up on some of those themes: The ga … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Why I am a Radical Activist for All Things Evil

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A Guest Post by Ryan StollarOriginally posted on Overturning TablesI’ve never thought of myself as a radical activist. I’ve never fought for something that I thought was “evil.” What I value most in life are compassion, love, and respect. Compassion for the abused, love for my neighbor, and respect for marginalized voices. I fight for these things, so I guess in that sense I am an activist.But somehow, over the years, I have found myself maligned by old friends, distant acquain … [Read more...]


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