The Lesbian Duplex 9: An Open Thread


I was going to start another general chatter thread (that's my "Lesbian Duplex" feature) when last night conversation on another thread turned to helping a specific longtime commenter, Mrs. Grizzley, figure out how to leave an abusive marriage. I'm dedicating this chatter thread to her and others like her. While I won't limit conversation here solely to this topic, I'd like to encourage conversation about recognizing and leaving abusive relationships.For those of you interested in helping M … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Blessings and Vessels

blessing vessels

Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 291Today is the very last page of Created To Be His Help Meet. In ClosingGod is awesome and terrible in his judgements. He is also full of mercy, and of grace. His strong desire is to bless his people, but too often by our "carelessness," we force him to judge. I believe he wearies of judgement. By our "carelessness"? That phrasing is just weird. It's like suggesting that child who is careless and spills something is forcing her mother to punish her. But … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “I Am His Water”


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 288-89Believe it or not, next week will be the last installment of our Created To Be His Help Meet series. We're finally there---at the end of the book. I feel like we need to do something to celebrate---after all, I've been at this for over two years! I'm thinking about finding a way to better organize these posts, and writing some concluding posts summarizing key themes and concerns. I'm also thinking about what book to do next. I may put To Train Up A … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Why Was Marian’s Husband So Loving?


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 286-86 Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,I thought you might be interested to hear of my husband's passing, and what a blessing it is to have been married to a husband who lived what you teach. He went out to do yard work in the afternoon of September 24 and as he went out the door, he turned and said to me, "It has been a wonderful life with you." Those were the last words I ever heard him say. He came in a few minutes later, went into a back room, and dropped dead … [Read more...]

What Ebola Tells Us about Ourselves


I remember having conversations about ebola while it was still "safely" in West Africa. I remember reading that part of the problem in West Africa was that many people had become convinced that ebola was a government hoax, and that among some there was a distrust of "western" medicine. We wouldn't have to worry about ebola if it came to the U.S., others assured me, because we wouldn't have these problems, and ebola would be quickly contained.Now granted, there are other differences---we have … [Read more...]

Complicating the “Islam Is Especially Violent” Narrative


There is a common narrative in the West that Islam is more violent that other religions. I want to is complicate this overly simplistic---and, frankly, wrong---narrative. It is absolutely true that some Muslims use Islam to justify violence, but those who use this to tie Islam to violence are quick to erase peaceful Muslims (who don't tend to make the news) and quick to ignore violence perpetrated by the West. In this post I will look at justifications of violence against civilians, human rights … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: A Young Wife Should Be “Bored and Lonely”


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 283-84In this passage Debi explains how marital bonding takes place. I hope you're ready, because it's bad. Early RootsThe seeds of bonding are planted early in the marriage. When a young wife gets bored and lonely being at home by herself, she spends her days preparing for her husband's return each evening, and she looks forward to their weekends together. She spends the lonely hours planning for him, cooking for him, cleaning for him, and eagerly … [Read more...]