CTBHHM: Cross-Dressing (with a Dose of Transphobia)


Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 267Remember that we're in the section where Debi is discussion exemptions from obedience to one's husband. The trouble is that, as readers have pointed out, she's not actually explaining where the line is. Instead, she's throwing out extreme examples where it's okay to disobey. This is not all that helpful to women in much more typical situations, and in fact it (not unsurprisingly) reinforces the idea that disobeying one's husband can only be done in extreme c … [Read more...]

What Heather Suffered at Bill Gothard’s Hands


I recently read what is I think the most moving story I have read yet on the Bill Gothard scandal. In it a young woman, who goes by Heather, tells her story, written in the form of a letter to Gothard. Gothard began an inappropriate physical relationship with her when she was eleven---eleven---but that was really only the beginning. Honestly, from reading Heather's story, I get the feeling that she doesn't feel that the footsie at age 11 or the caressing and feeling-up at age 15 was the worst … [Read more...]

Strong-Willed Child: Comically Absurd Examples of “Willful Defiance”


By VictoriaOriginally posted on Saving Victoria StrongThe Strong-Willed Child, chapter 1, pp. 18-19And now Dobson shall whine about “the experts” again. “Let me repeat my observation that the most popular textbooks for parents and teachers fail even to acknowledge that parenthood involves a struggle or contest of wills.” And let me repeat my observations that parenthood doesn’t involve a contest of wills unless you want it to. You do have the option to accept your child for who they … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sodomite Predator


Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 266Now that we've finished with Michael's lengthy exposition, we're back to Debi. Practical ExamplesYou may still be confused as to when you are to obey and when not. We will list some of the questions and issues we receive in the mail and discuss them one by one. In this post, we'll look at her first example. Sodomite Predator(E-mail that was answered immediately)Dear Pearls,Something terrible is happening, and we do not have any friends … [Read more...]

Strong-Willed Child: Where Children Test Limits, Egads!


By VictoriaOriginally posted on Saving Victoria StrongThe Strong-Willed Child, chapter 1, pp. 16-18A quick note on my wording: it was most cathartic to write this section sort of like it’s an open letter in part to Dobson and in part to my own parents, hence usually referring to parents with the pronoun “you”. I’m not at all speaking to the good parents out there.This next section begins by discussing the fact that children test limits. “They (children) will occasionally disobey … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: It Is Acceptable to God


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 262-263 This is the last of Michael Pearl's section of Debi's book. In this section, remember, Debi's husband Michael is explaining, from the Bible, when there are exceptions from wifely obedience---and when there are not. This section is called "Enduring Suffering Wrongfully," and it's really, really bad. Michael begins by quoting I Peter 2:13-17.13 Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake: whether it be to the king, as … [Read more...]

Strong-Willed Child: Bullying Slumber Parties


By VictoriaOriginally posted on Healing Victoria StrongThe Strong-Willed Child, chapter 1, p. 16Remember how Dobson condoned bullying behavior from children yesterday? Well, now we shall see that Dobson raises his children to at least tolerate and possibly even perpetrate such awful behavior. It begins when his (at the time) fifth grade daughter has fourteen girls (classmates) over for a slumber party. “I met most of them (the daughter’s friends) for the first time that weekend, yet … [Read more...]