CTBHHM: Speak No Evil of Anyone, Ever


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 238---240This section, titled "Another Kind of Anger," is kind of all over the place. Remember that last week Debi told her readers that men are prone to sudden anger and that wives should take care not to provoke that anger in their husbands, and not to let it bother them when their husbands go off on them. In this section, Debi deals with what she calls "bitter" anger. However, as we shall see, this section is a bit confusing as she goes back and forth … [Read more...]

Love Is a Broken Heart?


If you don't want Frozen spoilers, don't read this post, because I can't write it without spoilers. But then, if you don't want Frozen spoilers that means you still haven't seen the movie . . . so seriously, just go watch it and then come back and read the post.Prince Hans is the justification for the entire courtship ideal taught in the conservative Christian homeschooling subculture. It goes like this: There are men out there ready to prey on women, and women are so easily befuddled by … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Michael Compliments Himself—by Complimenting Debi

Debi Pearl

By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 165---167After what I'm calling the Great Internet Blackout '14 (turns out backhoes and cables don't mix...you'd think the phone/internet/tv people would have realized this prior to digging), I'm back with another review. Because I've been away for awhile, I'm treating all of you lucky readers to an extra-long section! Don't you feel blessed to be able to read more of Michael's inspiring words? WrinkleA … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Men Are Powder Kegs (so Don’t Provoke Them)

Anger 2

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 237---238Today we learn that Debi thinks all men are explosive powder kegs who lash out in sudden anger at a moment's notice. I'm not surprised by this, but I sure am sad. How to Minister to a MAD HusbandIt is common for men to react with sudden anger when things do not go their way. They can get mad over a lawnmower, a faulty appliance, or a child talking too much. It is unregulated testosterone seeking a conflict. It is not usually conflict-induced, … [Read more...]


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As I listened to the song Oh Rebecca last week, I began to cry. I played it again, and again, More tears, more feeling. Finally I began to write. Within only a few minutes I had composed what follows, a lament of sorts very different from my usual style. We look out upon a landscape we never expected. We can tell from the air around us that something is fundamentally broken and fractured. In front of us there is wilderness, and it is beautiful, but it also dramatic and bold in a way that can … [Read more...]

How Are Your Kids and/or Pets?

Kids Pets

A good number of regular commenters here have either children or pets. Not infrequently, my blog's comment sections turn to stories, anecdotes, questions, or tips about parenting or pet owning. Given the level of apparent interest, I thought I'd create a chatter post dedicated to just that. Share away!  … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Obey Your Husband so He Will Have Nothing to Beat Down


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 236---237I'll tell you right off that this section is a doozy. There is a lot to unpack here, and there are a lot of things that help explain where Debi is coming from when she writes what she does. This section may be triggering for survivors of abusive relationships. Dignity Befitting a QueenMy friend responded to her husband with dignity befitting a queen. He was proud of her beauty. He was proud of her dignity and poise. He was honored that such a … [Read more...]