CTNAHM: Eve and Her Gullible Female Nature


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 174---175Last section, Michael engaged in some mental gymnastics. We were taught that women are supposed to obey their husbands, but their husbands aren't supposed to remind them of this. I guess that's what Debi's book is for. Today,we are talking about WHY women are meant to be in subjugation to their husbands. The answer is: Eve, of course. Not Created to Obey?Though it is none of our business what God … [Read more...]

If I Titled Blog Posts Like Buzzfeed Articles . . .


So I'm sure by now you're more familiar than you'd like with the way Buzzfeed and other similar websites title their articles. In a world where payment depends on the number of clicks, using clickbait titles becomes a bit of an arms race. So I thought I'd take a moment and look at how my blog posts' titles might look if I were to follow suit. 7 Reasons Michael Farris Really Is a Patriarch (Even If He Won't Admit It)You'll Never Believe What Doug Wilson Just Said about Homosexuality14 … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Don’t Sympathize with Your Husband


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 240---241In this passage we learn that being sympathetic is a bad thing. But we'll get to that in a moment. The Wife Does Make a DifferenceI once knew a young man who was well respected in the community, a strong leader both in his family and in the church. His young wife died and left him with several small children. In time, he married a very nice widow lady. By all appearances, they were happily married, but in a short time, the man began to … [Read more...]

Debi Pearl Defends Bill Gothard


How did I miss this? Several weeks ago, Debi Pearl weighed in on the ongoing Bill Gothard scandal. And guess what? Reading her post has caused me to lose the last little bit of respect I had for her (which is really saying something).In their books and on their blog, Michael and Debi have generally taken a hard line on the sexual abuse of children. Given this, Debi's response to the Bill Gothard situation seem incredibly out of place. Debi should be out there with Recovering Grace and all … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Don’t Command Your Wife to Obey

Man talking to wife

By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need a Help Meet, pp. 173---174We're in a new chapter, and I'm finding it really weird. The point of this chapter is that husbands aren't supposed to tell their wives to submit to them. Which, they shouldn't, but there seems to be the understanding that wives WILL submit. I'll let Michael explain. How Do I Get My Wife To Obey Me?In 1 Peter, we read the noted exhortation to women, "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your ow … [Read more...]

The Numbers on the Scale


I was incredulous as I stared down at the number. My brother-in-law's scale must be broken, I concluded. There was no way I weighed more now than I did when I was nine months pregnant with my son. A week later I found myself on a scale again, curious. This time it was a scale at my parents' house. And there they were---the same numbers.I weigh more today than I did before giving birth to Bobby two years ago. I got rid of my scale several years ago. In fact, until last week I hadn't been o … [Read more...]

Seven Phases of a Godly (Gothard) Courtship


So I'm going to dip my toes into Bill Gothard's Advanced Seminar Textbook once again, this time looking at a section titled "Seven Phases of a Godly Courtship" (pages 160---164). This, too, is a teaching I am unfamiliar with. Yes, I was taught courtship, but without specific "phases."Gothard uses the story of Ruth and Boaz to illustrate his seven phases, holding their story up as an example of a godly courtship. This seems odd, given that their story was a bit of a special circumstance. (If … [Read more...]