CTNAHM: Let’s Talk in Circles!


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, 179-180In case you were thinking that men in the Christian Patriarchial culture sure have it easy, Michael is here today to tell you that you're wrong. Being a man brings with it the great, great burden of responsibilty. Poor things, it almost makes me want to serve my husband more... Not Created to ServeMy wife is telling your wives to serve their husbands. I am thankful she serves me, but we need to keep in … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: How to Make an Appeal


Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 253Since the very beginning of her book, Debi has been promising readers that she will tell them how to "make an appeal" to their husbands. Here, on page 253, she finally does so---and it takes her exactly one page. Learning to Make an AppealThere were a few times in our early married life when I had differences with my husband that I felt had to be resolved. I felt I had to speak to him and that he must listen. Frankly, if you are in a relationship your … [Read more...]

Stuff White People Say


When we talk about "privilege" one thing we mean is that it can be easy to miss the little everyday indignities or challenges minorities face when you are not yourself a minority. I remember reading an article written by a black alumnus trying to explain to his white brothers and sisters in Christ what it was like to be a minority at an evangelical college. He talked about all those little things, things white students may not even notice, and how they pile up.I thought these videos did a … [Read more...]

The Strong-Willed Child: Dedication


While my parents drew primarily on the child-rearing advice offered in Michael Pearl's To Train Up a Child, they also read James Dobson. There are many differences between Dobson and the Pearls. Dobson is evangelical rather than fundamentalist and is more widely known; Dobson has a degree in psychology, which lends him a aura of credibility; and the language of Dobson's books is more scientific and thus comes across as more credible. In spite of these differences, I don't recall my parents ever … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Love Never Enslaves!


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 177---178Today we're distinguishing between women being subservient to their husbands, and women being subservient to all men everywhere. Oh, and the fact that Michael thinks women and children deserve dignity. Cuz that was news to me. Domestic Subjection OnlyIn the Christian world there exists a general concept that women are privates walking among an equal number of generals, all of whom must be saluted … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: What about the Head Covering?

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 248---250Once again, Debi starts with a letter. Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,I wonder if you would explain to me just what it means when Scripture says that a woman should wear a covering. A good friend sent me a booklet called "Should She Be Veiled." God has convicted her about wearing a covering, and she wanted to share the joy of the covering with me. My husband things I am silly and refuses to even talk about the issue. He told me I could do what I … [Read more...]

Tilting at Straw Feminists

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A couple of weeks ago I posted about seeing an offensive sexist shirt at my local YMCA, and then speaking with the staff about developing a policy on sexist, etc., messaging on clothing. As I read through the comments left by the variety of self-ascribed Men's Rights Activists and their supporters that descended on that post, I was struck by how thoroughly they misunderstand feminists like myself. It's almost like they're too busy creating a straw-feminist effigy of me to actually read what I … [Read more...]