Why the Brock Turner Letters Feel So Familiar

I wasn't going to write about convicted Stanford rapist Brock Turner. I really wasn't. Everyone else was writing about it it, I figured. Did I really need to write something too? There were enough voices out there, and the case was unfamiliar to me. But then I read about the letters. What letters, you ask? The letters Turner's friends and family members wrote to the judge urging him to be lenient in his sentencing, of course. These letters. One childhood friend wrote that Turner was “a mil … [Read more...]


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Supergirl’s Jeremy Jordan: My Gay Cousin Has Been Sent to a Christian Home for Troubled Teens

I have a good friend who was sent to a Christian home for troubled teens in Florida in the late 1990s. The stories she tells me are horrifying. The children were forced to work in the fields all day every day in the summer, and for long hours during the school year as well. While the home was co-ed, the girls were responsible for preparing and cleaning up all of the meals, on a rotation linked to their dormitories. The home used the ACE program, a curriculum used by Christian private schools and … [Read more...]


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Bill Gothard and the Dynamics of Abuse

Yesterday I found out that a Catholic priest who was accused of sexually abusing a 16-year-old girl decades ago has been made director of a teen pregnancy center. This made me think about all of the ways abusers within the church gain renewed access to positions of power (I'm sure it happens outside of the church as well, but this is the area I'm most familiar with). Curious, I looked up Bill Gothard to double check precisely what he's doing today. I arrived at www.billgothard.com. The website is … [Read more...]


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What We Need to Hear: How to Talk to Abuse Victims

Can we talk about how people respond to adult abuse victims?*Let me start by noting that I sometimes have trouble naming what happened to me as abuse. We typically associate abuse with adults beating children in an angry or out of control or sadistic way. That didn't happen to me. Instead, I had what many would see as an ideal childhood, growing up in the country with parents who read to me, played board games with me, and made even maintenance projects around the house fun, interesting, bo … [Read more...]


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Why Breitbart’s Anti-Trans Top Twenty-Five Bathroom Predator Stories Are Bunk

The recent spate of laws barring trans bathroom access has hit home hard. I know the numbers, the percentages of trans people who attempt suicide or are harassed in the bathrooms, but I also have several trans and nonbinary friends I consider myself close to, and watching them walk through these past few months has been gut-wrenching. As the anti-trans panic has ratcheted up, I've become increasingly worried for my friends, and for other trans people like them. What few people seem to realize is … [Read more...]


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Guest Post: Not a Nice Story

By DarcyOriginally posted on Darcy's Heart StirringsFrom babyhood they said "You are a dirty sinner, there is nothing good in you, you are destined for hell because of your nature."So we, small humans, awoke to a world where toddlers need the sin and foolishness beaten out of them with switches and wooden spoons and belts.They said "Only with Jesus are you worth anything."So as small children we begged Jesus to come into our hearts and make the dirty clean.They s … [Read more...]


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Saeed Abedini, Franklin Graham, and the Manipulative Abuse of Couples Counseling

Several weeks ago I wrote a blog post about Naghmeh and Saeed Abedini. In that post, I outlined Franklin Graham's response to the abuse allegations Naghmeh Abedini levied against her husband, Saeed Abedini. If you remember, Saeed was an evangelical pastor imprisoned in Iran until from 2012 until last month. Naghmeh spoke of Saeed's abuse in emails to supporters last November, and an evangelical magazine made these allegations public. Despite of the fact that Saeed pled guilty to misdemeanor dome … [Read more...]


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