What We Need to Hear: How to Talk to Abuse Victims

Can we talk about how people respond to adult abuse victims?*Let me start by noting that I sometimes have trouble naming what happened to me as abuse. We typically associate abuse with adults beating children in an angry or out of control or sadistic way. That didn't happen to me. Instead, I had what many would see as an ideal childhood, growing up in the country with parents who read to me, played board games with me, and made even maintenance projects around the house fun, interesting, bo … [Read more...]


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Why Breitbart’s Anti-Trans Top Twenty-Five Bathroom Predator Stories Are Bunk

The recent spate of laws barring trans bathroom access has hit home hard. I know the numbers, the percentages of trans people who attempt suicide or are harassed in the bathrooms, but I also have several trans and nonbinary friends I consider myself close to, and watching them walk through these past few months has been gut-wrenching. As the anti-trans panic has ratcheted up, I've become increasingly worried for my friends, and for other trans people like them. What few people seem to realize is … [Read more...]


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Guest Post: Not a Nice Story

By DarcyOriginally posted on Darcy's Heart StirringsFrom babyhood they said "You are a dirty sinner, there is nothing good in you, you are destined for hell because of your nature."So we, small humans, awoke to a world where toddlers need the sin and foolishness beaten out of them with switches and wooden spoons and belts.They said "Only with Jesus are you worth anything."So as small children we begged Jesus to come into our hearts and make the dirty clean.They s … [Read more...]


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Saeed Abedini, Franklin Graham, and the Manipulative Abuse of Couples Counseling

Several weeks ago I wrote a blog post about Naghmeh and Saeed Abedini. In that post, I outlined Franklin Graham's response to the abuse allegations Naghmeh Abedini levied against her husband, Saeed Abedini. If you remember, Saeed was an evangelical pastor imprisoned in Iran until from 2012 until last month. Naghmeh spoke of Saeed's abuse in emails to supporters last November, and an evangelical magazine made these allegations public. Despite of the fact that Saeed pled guilty to misdemeanor dome … [Read more...]


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Naghmeh Abedini, Franklin Graham, and the Silencing of Evangelical Abuse Victims

Let me start with a word of background. Saeed Abedini converted from Islam to Christianity in 2000. In 2002 Saeed met Naghmeh, an American citizen who grew up in Boise, and together they became active in the Iranian house church movement. They married in 2004 and left for the U.S. when the Iranian government cracked down on this movement in 2005. When Saeed returned to Iran to visit family in 2009, he was detained by authorities and forced to sign a pledge to forgo any house church activities. A … [Read more...]


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Mary Lambert and the Ups and Downs of Being a Survivor

In the time I've spent around survivor communities, one thing I've noticed is an alternating feeling of euphoria and despair. It is not uncommon for a person to feel they can take on the world one day and to feel like all they want to do is curl up and hide the next day. I've watched this happen in various online communities as someone freshly liberated from an abusive home environment will post one day about how incredibly happy she is, as though she is floating, and the next day she'll post in … [Read more...]


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A Summary of Allegations against Bill Gothard and IBLP

It has been nearly two years since Bill Gothard stepped down from leadership at his ministry, the Institute for Basic Life Principles (IBLP), amid a growing number of accusations that he sexually harassed and molested girls and young women in his employ. This past October, a group of individuals filed a negligence lawsuit against IBLP. This lawsuit has been amended, and Bill Gothard is now named as well.This week, Homeschoolers Anonymous obtained the text of the lawsuit, which involves … [Read more...]


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