Adventures in Parenting: On Reasoning with Toddlers

This is part of a series in which I am re-posting a number of posts I've written in the past on issues involving parenting and Michael and Debi Pearl. I think these posts may be of interest to new readers, and if you're a reader who has been around with me since the beginning, they may be worth a re-read. This post was originally published here.Last night I had a parenting adventure that was both reassuring and sobering. It involved a situation all parents face in exasperation many times in … [Read more...]

Parenting Is Not A Contest

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This is part of a series in which I am re-posting a number of posts I've written in the past on issues involving parenting and Michael and Debi Pearl. I think these posts may be of interest to new readers, and if you're a reader who has been around with me since the beginning, they may be worth a re-read. This post was originally published here.   Last week my husband and I saw a movie on campus. As usual, we brought our small daughter with us. She behaved very well, sometimes sitting beside … [Read more...]

Casting the Pearls back to the Swine

For the next couple of days, I'm going to be re-posting a number of posts I've written in the past on issues involving parenting and Michael and Debi Pearl. I think these posts may be of interest to new readers, and if you're a reader who has been around with me since the beginning, they may be worth a re-read. This post was originally published here.    It is a strange reality that Michael and Debi Pearls’ child training methods were driven into me so firmly as a child that I didn’t even thi … [Read more...]

The Pearls’ discipline dichotomy: Or, my day at the grocery

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I was recently in a small local supermarket with my daughter. There were two other families there, one a fundamentalist woman with her two daughters and the other a young couple with their two small children.Quick tangent for background: Michael and Debi Pearl use scare tactics to convince parents to follow their harsh discipline methods. They basically tell parents, "you see those screaming, uncontrollable children in the grocery, or that frazzled mother run ragged by her disobedient and … [Read more...]

Authoritarian Parenting and Adult Children

Writing on this blog is like watching synapses in my brain suddenly connect. I love the Ah ha! moments and I've just had another one, thanks to a comment on my last post: I find it hard to love my mother after such a type of chilhood... I think fear doesn't dissipate so easily. I have long wondered why my transition to adulthood has been so difficult. I want to be able to stand by my parents adult to adult, equal to equal - which is, of course, what we now are. But the truth is, I'm scared of … [Read more...]

“For your own good”: The insidiousness of spanking

"I'm doing this for your own good.""Believe it or not, this hurts me more than it hurts you.""Someday you'll thank me for this."It strikes me that Michael Pearl and others like him - even James Dobson - create a situation in which parents feel that if they love their children, they must hit them, whether they want to or not. For Pearl, Dobson, and others like them, it's the parents who don't hit their children who are unloving.Michael Pearl says that if you do not hit your … [Read more...]

How Many More Must Die?

And so it continues. Another child has died as a direct result of Michael Pearl's teachings. How many more must die?MOUNT VERNON, Wash. - The parents of an adopted girl who died of exposure in her own backyard after she had been starved and abused for months pleaded not guilty to the charges Thursday.Larry P. Williams and Carri D. Williams of Sedro Woolley were arrested last week and later charged with homicide by abuse and assault of a child in the first degree in Skagit County … [Read more...]


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