“God” and the Borders of Belonging

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Several weeks ago, five-year-old Sally spent a great deal of time making something for her teacher and then left it at home on accident. When I noticed she had left it, I took it to the school to give it to her. The busses had only just dropped the children off, and when I reached Sally's classroom students were still coming in, putting their lunch containers on the shelf and taking off their jackets. As I left the school after giving Sally the gift she had made, the school's intercom came on … [Read more...]

More Thoughts on Teaching Consent to Young Children

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"When I was at Brogan's house, I kissed him," five-year-old Sally told me recently."Okay. Where did you kiss him?" I asked, curious what sort of kiss she meant."On the back of the head, because he didn't want me to so he was moving all around.""Wait a minute, now---""When we go over to Brogan's house again, I will run and catch him and kiss him again!" Sally proclaimed excitedly."Sally, what should you do if someone doesn't want you to kiss them?" I asked."Just get him … [Read more...]

“It’s like their brains time-travel back to 1952″

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In the past, I've done what I've called "awesome comment award." I want to start doing something similar but more regular. I have a lot of readers who say many interesting things, and some of their comments call for a bit more spotlight.Today I want to highlight a comment by reader snowmentality, left last week on one of my posts, "What's Your Favorite Princess?"I love that Sally had the self-confidence to say "I don't have a favorite princess." At her age, I probably would have just nam … [Read more...]

Obedience, Empathy, and the Laundry Hamper

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I was chatting with a friend about the results of a recent pew survey when she asked a question I found very, very interesting. I mean, if you teach a kid empathy, tolerance, and responsibility---do they need to be obedient? Or will they just do the things that are in the best interests of everyone? Like, "Hey, could you do the dishes?" "Sure." Because they realize they should help out with the house.  This is an excellent point.Let me offer an example: I would like my daughter Sally to pu … [Read more...]

Are You Crunchy Enough?

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A couple of weeks ago we ran into a family at the park. We'd run into them several times before, and Sally had taken to their daughter, Ella. This time we learned that Ella will be attending kindergarten at the same school as Sally this fall. After we left the park, I remarked to Sean that it might be good to have this family over---that we might get on well with them. "But then, I don't know how crunchy she is," I added. I was referring to Ella's mother, and Sean asked what I meant. The truth i … [Read more...]

Confessions of a Frustrated Pinterest Science Girl Mom

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Lately, I've been thinking about redoing Sally and Bobby's bedroom. We've done some deep cleaning over the summer and have redone some things in the kitchen and living room, and it's about time I took that energy upstairs. Since the children spend most of their time playing in the living room these days, I wanted to take a good, long look at their bedroom and and see how I could make it more functional and usable.Sally, as I've mentioned, is a science kid. So I went to pinterest and typed in … [Read more...]

In Which Sally Learns about Sexism

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This year's Fields Medal went to Maryam Mirzakhani, an Iranian mathematician at Stanford. The Fields Medal is the mathematics equivalent of a Nobel Prize, and this is the first time in its history that it has been awarded to a woman.Someone sent me a link to this story, and told me I should show it to my daughter Sally, with her interest in science. There's only one problem---Sally doesn't know that women have yet to achieve equality in the maths and sciences. In fact, she doesn't know … [Read more...]


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