The Radical Notion that Children Can Have Anxiety Too

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By SamanthaOriginally posted on Defeating the DragonsI was in a conversation a few days ago that has stayed with me, and I think what I noticed is important. A few moms brought up how their children respond to church services, and as a part of that discussion, one mother mentioned that her son said “the music gave him a stomach ache.” Responses were along the lines of “well, no wonder, rock concerts in church aren’t very restful.” It seemed to me that they were chalking up this toddler’s … [Read more...]

I Co-sleep, But: Some Thoughts on Attachment Parenting

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I've written before about not feeling "crunchy" enough for my hippie college town. I'm not sure, though, whether I've touched directly on Attachment Parenting (AP). I know I've wanted to. When I first left the authoritarian parenting and corporal punishment behind, I found AP very attractive. What is AP? Attachment parenting focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children. That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and e … [Read more...]

Stop Saying Kids Aren’t Expensive!

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Ladies Against Feminism recently posted a piece titled Kids Aren’t Expensive But Greed Is. When I saw the title, I was reminded of my parents' constant insistence that children aren't expensive. I honestly do not understand why people make this argument. They could argue that while it costs money to raise kids, kids are worth every cent. They could argue that raising children creates memories, moments, and relationships that more than compensate for the financial drain they represent. But no, ins … [Read more...]

When We Expect More of Our Children than of Ourselves

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Some months ago Sally left the family iPad in a store. She had been reading interactive storybooks when it ran out of batteries, so she put it on the rack under the cart and subsequently forgot about it. We didn't realize it was missing until we got home. Needless to say, I was not happy. Actually, I was really quite upset. Sean took Sally back to the store to look for it, but they couldn't find it. I'm afraid to say that I was more than a little stern with Sally. I didn't punish her (after al … [Read more...]

How Spanking Sounds to a Never-Spanked 5-Year-Old

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Have you ever wondered how the idea of spanking comes across to a child who has never been spanked? I wondered, too, and given that I have a never-spanked five-year-old, I thought I'd find out. This conversation is the result."Sally, do you think mommies and daddies should be able to hit their children?""No.""But what if their children do something wrong? Should parents be able to hit their children then?""No!""Why not?""They should use words, they're not … [Read more...]

Dolls, Yes; Ballerinas, No

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It may surprise some readers to know that in spite of my parents' patriarchal beliefs, they gave one of my brothers a doll for Christmas one year---because he had begged for a doll of his own. My parents believed that my brothers were preparing to be fathers, and that that meant boys playing with dolls was perfectly acceptable.There's lots more, too. There's the brother who built his own dollhouse so that he could get in on dollhouse play with his sisters. He carefully fashioned the rooms, … [Read more...]

Are Bugs “Boy” Things and Dolls “Girl” Things?

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This fall a little girl wrote to Abdo Publishing after becoming concerned that the book she was reading, "The Biggest Baddest Book of Bugs," was part of a series titled "Biggest, Baddest Books for Boys." "Some girls would like to be entomologists too.," she explained. Abdo wrote back, thanking her concern and agreeing to change the series title to "Biggest, Baddest Books." But there was something about the story that struck me: According to the local paper, the publisher responded and told her … [Read more...]


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