Kindergarten Approaches

Next fall, Sally will board a school bus, turn and wave, and leave for kindergarten. Sally is excited. She babbles on and on about kindergarten. But if I am honest with myself, I am scared. This may seem silly given that Sally currently attends full day preschool, and has been in daycare since she was little. But public school? As a K-12 homeschool graduate, public school is something that is still foreign to me.Lately, Sally has been peppering me with questions about kindergarten. This has … [Read more...]


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Respecting Every BODY

Today I was pushing Bobby on the swing at the park. Each time his swing came toward me, I reached forward and tickled him. He responded by smiling and laughing, leaning forward and grinning at me. Each time as he came toward me he became excited, anticipating my tickles. Then something changed. Bobby still laughed when I ticked him as he came toward me, but he did so in a forced, annoyed way, and he leaned away from my touch. He managed to get out an "uh-uh" in the midst of his laughter. And so … [Read more...]


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“Don’t Lie to Me, Mommy!”

Sean and I have a bit of a habit of "kidding" each other, and it's something we've carried over to how we interact with the children. To explain what I'm even talking about here, I'm going to have to give an example. "Mommy, are we rich?" Sally asked me recently. "Well, we have plenty to eat and a safe place to live and lots of friends, so I'd say yes, we're rich," I responded. This was not the best answer, maybe, but I wasn't exactly in the position to explain things like global inequalities … [Read more...]


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“Mom, school is boring!” Musings of a Homeschool Grad Turned Conventional School Mother

Sally recently declared school "boring." There's little that has made my stomach lurch as much as that simple proclamation. This homeschool graduate grew up hearing that going to school stifles curiosity and turns children into sardines and lab rats rather than creating innovative thinkers. My position on formal schooling shifted as I met graduates of public school in college and formed a more nuanced view of the subject, but the idea that attending school will rob my daughter of free thinking … [Read more...]


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“Those are for Boys!” and Other Stories

Two days ago I wrote about gender and confirmation bias and some of my own experiences as I raise my two young children, one girl and one boy. There's a lot I didn't write and there will be more posts on this topic to come, but I wanted to take a moment to highlight a few of the comments on that post, as many of my readers weighed in with their own experiences, either as children themselves or raising children today. Feel free to add more of your own stories in the … [Read more...]


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Bobby’s Trains and Confirmation Bias

Bobby's face was pressed against the glass surrounding the electric train set. The trains were running, whistling, and crossing each other's paths. It was his favorite part of the children's museum. Even at only one year of age, children have interests and show preferences, and one of Bobby's definite interests is trains.Just then, my husband Sean's Uncle Dale walked over and smiled at Bobby. "Look at him!" he said. "He's obsessed with that train. He's such a boy!" I frowned. I hate it when t … [Read more...]


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They called it “adultery” and made her confess

I have been reading about child sexual abuse perpetrated in the 1980s by Donn Ketcham, a missionary doctor in Bangladesh. The abuse came to light when one of his victims, a 14-year-old missionary kid, returned to the United States to visit relatives. While there, she told the pastor of her home church about her abuse. Her pastor interrogated her to ensure that she was being truthful and then handed her over to Russ Lloyd and Russ Ebersole, the first a Christian counselor and the second Donn … [Read more...]


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