Confessions of a Frustrated Pinterest Science Girl Mom

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Lately, I've been thinking about redoing Sally and Bobby's bedroom. We've done some deep cleaning over the summer and have redone some things in the kitchen and living room, and it's about time I took that energy upstairs. Since the children spend most of their time playing in the living room these days, I wanted to take a good, long look at their bedroom and and see how I could make it more functional and usable.Sally, as I've mentioned, is a science kid. So I went to pinterest and typed in … [Read more...]

In Which Sally Learns about Sexism

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This year's Fields Medal went to Maryam Mirzakhani, an Iranian mathematician at Stanford. The Fields Medal is the mathematics equivalent of a Nobel Prize, and this is the first time in its history that it has been awarded to a woman.Someone sent me a link to this story, and told me I should show it to my daughter Sally, with her interest in science. There's only one problem---Sally doesn't know that women have yet to achieve equality in the maths and sciences. In fact, she doesn't know … [Read more...]

The Children in the Sandbox

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Over the holidays I read a novel by Jodi Picoult. I enjoyed the book, but there was one passage that bugged me. In it a mother acts as narrator, and explains that we're all supposed to say there is no real difference between boys and girls, but that that is a "polite fiction." She says all you have to do is look into any sandbox at any park, and you'll see the girls preparing food and the boys smashing things with trucks. Except that this is not in fact my experience.Look, my son Bobby loves … [Read more...]

Why I Put My Son in Dresses

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So I recently came upon an article titled My Son Wears a Dress and That's OK with Me. In it, a father explains his two-year-old son's penchant for wearing dresses like his four-year-old older sister. Every morning my four-year-old daughter, Sydney, drags a chair into her closet and plucks a dress off of the rack. I try to lean her in other directions---“Why don’t we try shorts today?”---but Sydney’s stubborn. And I think she deserves the freedom to choose what she wants to wear.My son, Asher … [Read more...]

You Are Not Entitled to My Life

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Ever since reading her post about parents being "involved" in their adult children's romantic relationships, I've been bothered by a comment blogger That Mom left in her own comment section. In that comment, she condemned the "hands off" approach as unhealthy. Note that she's not talking about young children. She's talking about young adults. She argues that parents should be involved in every area of their young adult children's lives from careers to marriages.The thing is, I remember what … [Read more...]

It Starts at Five

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Sally is five years old and will be heading off to kindergarten in the fall. She climbs trees and looks for worms in the dirt and gets bruises on her shins. She's an active and perfectly normal little girl. On a recent visit to my parents' house, Sally showed off a new dress to my mother. This dress, which has a slit up to the knee on one side, has become one of Sally's favorites. Why? Because she says it makes her look like Elsa from the movie Frozen, of course!"Grandma, look at my dress!" … [Read more...]

What Is Real—and What Is Not

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Now five years old, Sally has been working overtime trying to differentiate between "real" and "pretend." She has finally determined that fairies and magic are not real. I'm not completely sure how she determined this, but it matters a lot to her right now. This is a natural stage of development for children her age, this desire to distinguish between "real" and "pretend." Still, part of me is a bit nostalgic. I liked her fantasy world in which fairies were as real as kittens. I mean, at one … [Read more...]


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