I’m not collecting children anymore

For me, the whole Quiverfull mentality ended up being little more than a child collecting contest. Now, any truly Quiverfull woman will deny this. "It's not about how many children you have or don't have," she would say. "It's about being open to every blessing God sends your way, be that only a few or a dozen or more." But it's all there in the language, if you really listen."God has blessed me with seven lovely children.""God only saw fit to bless me with four.""We're hoping God … [Read more...]


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Kids need rules! Right?

I am constantly surprised by how much I was taught as common sense child rearing growing up is completely turned on its head by positive parenting. For example, one huge emphasis growing up is that children need rules, limits, and boundaries. Having boundaries, I was taught, makes children happy and secure. This from James Dobson of Focus on the Family: You have discussed the need for establishing boundaries within the home. Do children really want limits set on their behavior?Most … [Read more...]


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Staying together “for the children”?

Growing up, I believed that divorce was wrong and completely out of the question. Marriage was for life. Period. When I eventually stopped seeing divorce as a sin, though, I still felt for a long time that even if a marriage wasn't working, if there were children involved the couple needed to stay together regardless. For the children, right? Over the last few years, though, my thinking on this has changed, and I want to take a moment to explain why.Let's imagine that we as a society outlaw … [Read more...]


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“Conservative Kid Grows Up”

Ed of Dispatches from the Culture Wars just posted an interesting piece called "Conservative Kid Grows Up." I found it interesting because, quite simply, it's my story too. And for many of you, it's your story as well. Here are a couple excerpts from a news story on it: Jonathan Krohn took the political world by storm at 2009’s Conservative Political Action Conference when, at just 13 years old, he delivered an impromptu rallying cry for conservatism that became a viral hit and had some pegging … [Read more...]


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On homeschooled children and being “well behaved”

"Is she homeschooled?""What?" I stammered, looking up from the ribbon I was examining. Sally and I were at Hobby Lobby to pick up some cloth for a project."Is your daughter homeschooled?" It was the store attendant who cuts the cloth in the fabric area who was asking."No," I replied. "Why?""Oh, she acts like a homeschooled child. She's so well behaved, like all the homeschooled children who come in here."I told her about positive parenting and explained what it entailed, and … [Read more...]


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Worthwhile Reads: Having It All Is Not a “Woman’s Issue”

Having It All: Not a "Woman's Issue" As an aside, I have a secret fantasy of gathering a team of men to go to every male-dominated discussion (on specific issues in the law or a certain genre of film or investigative journalism or whatever) and when it’s Q& A time, earnestly ask the male panelists how they balance work and family.As a not-aside, the harder question is what to do here. I think there are a few solutions, at least for the heteros among us:First, don’t marry or move in o … [Read more...]


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Raised Quiverfull: Looking Back on Your Childhood

How did you perceive your childhood at the time compared to how do you see it now? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: At the time, I felt like a lot of things about myself were sinful—my sexuality, my negative feelings of frustration/anger, my opinions, and even my poor social skills.  I genuinely wanted to have a deep relationship with God that would let me be satisfied no matter what my circumstances were.  I believed that my challenges were God’s way of making me a better person, and I belie … [Read more...]


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