Guest Post: Not a Nice Story

By DarcyOriginally posted on Darcy's Heart StirringsFrom babyhood they said "You are a dirty sinner, there is nothing good in you, you are destined for hell because of your nature."So we, small humans, awoke to a world where toddlers need the sin and foolishness beaten out of them with switches and wooden spoons and belts.They said "Only with Jesus are you worth anything."So as small children we begged Jesus to come into our hearts and make the dirty clean.They s … [Read more...]


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How Should We Understand Children’s Political Agency?

I don't remember my first political activity, but my parents do. I'm told I was on the front page of the newspaper, campaigning against Hillarycare. Throughout my entire childhood I was thrust into the political spotlight, expected to campaign for my parents' political candidates and parrot my parents' views. At pro-life rallies, I made sure my smallest siblings held signs with slogans like "I'm a child, not a choice" or "Adoption, the loving option." While still a child, my father left … [Read more...]


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Demons and the Consequences of Feeding Children’s Fears

So, demons. I've written on this topic before, but it's been a while, and when I last wrote on this topic my children were too small to be scared of the dark. When I was a girl, I was taught that demons were real. My dad used to pray a "hedge of protection" around our house, to keep the demons out. My parents told me that there's an invisible world all around us, in which angels and demons are at war, constantly.At one point when I was girl, another woman in my parents' Bible study group … [Read more...]


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Please Don’t Deny Our Agency

I wrote the first draft of this post last summer. I wasn't satisfied with it as it was, so I set it aside and promptly forgot about it. A conversation with one of my sisters reminded me of the post, so I've pulled it out and dusted it up.In writing, last summer, about Josh Duggar's Ashley Madison account, I noted that: Josh and Anna didn’t have sex until they married, so they had no way of knowing whether they are sexually compatible. Further, Josh doesn’t believe in birth control and he and … [Read more...]


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One Million Moms Declares War on Children of Gay Parents

I was not at all surprised to read that American Girl is receiving criticism over including an article about a girl with two dads in their magazine, but as I read the criticism and then read the controversial article itself, I was profoundly saddened. I realize that on some level, the title of this article may seem like hyperbole, but bear with me, because what's going on here is important.Let's start with a recent Washington Post article, Maryland family faces harsh criticism after daughter … [Read more...]


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In Defense of Letting Kids Talk Back

I grew up in a family where "back talk" was not allowed. The result was that I often felt muzzled and suffocated. For example, when I was in trouble any attempt to explain what actually happened or to disagree with a selected punishment and suggest an alternative resulted in more "spanks" being added to my punishment total. I often felt compelled to say something---to speak out in the face of what appeared to me to be clear injustice---but any words I might say were silenced, replaced by incre … [Read more...]


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No, Praising Children Will Not Make Them Selfish

I grew up in a conservative home where I frequently heard about the problems of valuing children's "self esteem." Today, I live in a world where people often put down millennials by talking about how we all got participation ribbons as children, and somehow that means we all think we're extra special, or something like that.And then I come upon blog posts like this one, titled An open letter to my children: you're not that great: In the row ahead of me a family has taken hot pink duct tape a … [Read more...]


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