“It’s like their brains time-travel back to 1952″

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In the past, I've done what I've called "awesome comment award." I want to start doing something similar but more regular. I have a lot of readers who say many interesting things, and some of their comments call for a bit more spotlight.Today I want to highlight a comment by reader snowmentality, left last week on one of my posts, "What's Your Favorite Princess?"I love that Sally had the self-confidence to say "I don't have a favorite princess." At her age, I probably would have just nam … [Read more...]

Obedience, Empathy, and the Laundry Hamper

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I was chatting with a friend about the results of a recent pew survey when she asked a question I found very, very interesting. I mean, if you teach a kid empathy, tolerance, and responsibility---do they need to be obedient? Or will they just do the things that are in the best interests of everyone? Like, "Hey, could you do the dishes?" "Sure." Because they realize they should help out with the house.  This is an excellent point.Let me offer an example: I would like my daughter Sally to pu … [Read more...]

Are You Crunchy Enough?

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A couple of weeks ago we ran into a family at the park. We'd run into them several times before, and Sally had taken to their daughter, Ella. This time we learned that Ella will be attending kindergarten at the same school as Sally this fall. After we left the park, I remarked to Sean that it might be good to have this family over---that we might get on well with them. "But then, I don't know how crunchy she is," I added. I was referring to Ella's mother, and Sean asked what I meant. The truth i … [Read more...]

Confessions of a Frustrated Pinterest Science Girl Mom

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Lately, I've been thinking about redoing Sally and Bobby's bedroom. We've done some deep cleaning over the summer and have redone some things in the kitchen and living room, and it's about time I took that energy upstairs. Since the children spend most of their time playing in the living room these days, I wanted to take a good, long look at their bedroom and and see how I could make it more functional and usable.Sally, as I've mentioned, is a science kid. So I went to pinterest and typed in … [Read more...]

In Which Sally Learns about Sexism

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This year's Fields Medal went to Maryam Mirzakhani, an Iranian mathematician at Stanford. The Fields Medal is the mathematics equivalent of a Nobel Prize, and this is the first time in its history that it has been awarded to a woman.Someone sent me a link to this story, and told me I should show it to my daughter Sally, with her interest in science. There's only one problem---Sally doesn't know that women have yet to achieve equality in the maths and sciences. In fact, she doesn't know … [Read more...]

The Children in the Sandbox

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Over the holidays I read a novel by Jodi Picoult. I enjoyed the book, but there was one passage that bugged me. In it a mother acts as narrator, and explains that we're all supposed to say there is no real difference between boys and girls, but that that is a "polite fiction." She says all you have to do is look into any sandbox at any park, and you'll see the girls preparing food and the boys smashing things with trucks. Except that this is not in fact my experience.Look, my son Bobby loves … [Read more...]

Why I Put My Son in Dresses

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So I recently came upon an article titled My Son Wears a Dress and That's OK with Me. In it, a father explains his two-year-old son's penchant for wearing dresses like his four-year-old older sister. Every morning my four-year-old daughter, Sydney, drags a chair into her closet and plucks a dress off of the rack. I try to lean her in other directions---“Why don’t we try shorts today?”---but Sydney’s stubborn. And I think she deserves the freedom to choose what she wants to wear.My son, Asher … [Read more...]


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