Matthew Chapman, Child Marriage, and Homeschooling

Matthew Chapman

Yesterday I wrote about my concerns about child marriage in the Christian homeschooling world. In particular, I wrote about the Maranatha story, and included a mention of the marriage of Maranatha's daughter Lauren at age 16 to a man ten years her senior. I included a wedding picture from Lauren's wedding in the post, in order to make what I was talking about real. Blogger Lana of Wide Open Ground, who knew Lauren's family growing up, expressed concern at my use of that picture, saying that … [Read more...]

And Bobby Wore Heels

dress shoes

I was getting ready to check out at the second-hand children's clothing shop when I realized I had a problem. When we had first arrived at the store Bobby had brought me a pair of white heeled girls' dress shoes just his size and had asked me to put them on him (he doesn't really have words yet, but that doesn't mean he can't communicate!). So I had, and he'd been running around in them with smiling from ear to ear ever since. And now that it was time to go, well, now he wouldn't let me take … [Read more...]

When God Took a Journey in a Cave

storytelling

We were walking to the car one night when Sally commented on the stars."Do you what makes them stay up there?" I asked her."God put them there!" Sally exclaimed."Who is God?" This was the first time I'd heard her use the term."God is Jesus," she replied."But what is God?""Mom!" Sally exclaimed. "God is just his name! He has two names, God and Jesus!""Well, then how did he put the stars in the sky?""I will tell you the story," Sally responded with a smile, and her … [Read more...]

Interfaith Marriage and Interfaith Parenting: A Reader Asks

interfaith

A reader recently emailed me with some questions and I thought you all might be able to help him out. First I'll quote from his emails (he has given me permission to do so) and then I'll give some guidance for your responses. I married my Baptist wife while I was still searching within Christianity. I was enjoying going to a Presbyterian church in Tulsa because the sermons the pastor preached were often from a viewpoint that I hadn't heard in the version of Christianity I experienced growing … [Read more...]

“Breeders,” “Spawn,” and the Childfree

childfree

Last week I wrote about prejudice against children (which some scholars have termed "childism"). Many commenters focused on conservatives who believe in spanking children and see teenage rebellion as something to be eradicated, and I was indeed talking about this group. This wasn't the only group I was talking about, though. In response to commenters' focus on conservatives, reader Monala had this to say. To be fair, though, some of the worst childist comments I've heard have come from people … [Read more...]

Michael Pearl Is Not Original

susanna wesley

Michael Pearl's To Train Up a Child is not original, not in the least. It's actually a rehashing of ideas that had been floating around in evangelicalism and fundamentalism for literally hundreds of years. Let me offer a few excerpts from various evangelical or fundamentalist sources to illustrate what I'm talking about.First, have a look at what Susanna Wesley wrote in 1732: When turned a year old (and some before), they were taught to fear the rod, and to cry softly; by which means they … [Read more...]

Freaking Out over Adolescent Rebellion . . . during WWII

rebels

I grew up hearing that young people today were especially sinful, rebellious, and hedonistic. I grew up hearing that young people were rejecting faith in God and turning to juvenile delinquency in larger numbers than in the past. I grew up hearing that as a result of parents turning away from corporal punishment, adolescents were wayward, drug addicted, and suicidal like never before. Then I learned in college about the 1960s and the Baby Boomers. I realized that this idea that adolescent … [Read more...]


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