Raised Quiverfull: A Homeschooling Future?

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Do you plan to homeschool/are you homeschooling your children? Why or why not? If you do plan to homeschool, in what ways will you/do you do it differently from your parents? Joe: We tried for two years and were miserable failures.  Not only did we discover we had no life outside of child rearing and [...]

On Positive Parenting and Saying “I’m Sorry”

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Today I yelled at Sally. I was trying to finish a project and she was getting in the way again and again and I just snapped. I stormed upstairs to finish what I was working on in peace, leaving Sally downstairs with her daddy. I knew yelling like that was not right and I knew [...]

Raised Quiverfull: Junior Mother

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If you were an older daughter, do you feel that you were expected to play “mother” for your younger siblings? Explain. Joe: I wasn’t the older daughter but I can explain about my eldest sister. She was not expected to play the mother and not even expected to be responsible if anything happened to any [...]

Raised Quiverfull: Siblings and Responsibilities

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How many siblings did you grow up with? Did responsibilities in your family differ by gender, with the girls having certain chores and the boys having others? Explain. Joe: My Mama was a very unique woman.  I’ll explain in a bit.  But first, I was the dead middle child of seven siblings.  The oldest was [...]

Sex Abuse, the First Stone, Judge Not, and All That

On Sunday I put up a post about Voice of the Martyrs’ president, Tom White, who recently committed suicide in the midst of being investigated for allegedly sexually molesting a ten year old girl. This post generated a lot of comments, mostly from conservative religious commenters who are not, to my knowledge, regular readers of [...]

On Raising Progressive Children

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The other day my daughter asked me why I wear a ring. I told her it’s because I’m married, and I called my husband over and showed her his ring, too. I told her that when two people get married they wear rings. But of course this meant I had to explain what “getting married” [...]

“I don’t like those loud voices”: Children and Demons

“Mommy, I don’t like those loud voices.” I turned to my daughter, sitting in her car-seat behind me. “What loud voices?” “Those loud voices.” She was pointing behind her, toward the rear windshield. There were no loud voices. I had the radio on quietly, but there is no rear speaker.

Emotional Incest, Part 1: Definitions

“Emotional incest” is a tricky term because it sounds as though it implies a sexual relationship when it doesn’t. Some scholars use the term “covert incest” instead, but that doesn’t really help because it retains the word “incest.” Other scholars have used the term “enmeshment,” “co-dependency,” and “emotional abuse” is another related concept as well. [...]

So many kids they’re easy to lose…

A reader recently alerted me to an article about a five-year-old who was left at Chuck E. Cheese after a birthday party – and whose absence was not noticed by her parents until the next morning. A 5-year-old girl was placed into emergency custody with caseworkers from child protective services after being left at a [...]

Homeschooling, vaccinations, and a giant loophole

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I’ve seen some recent discussion of the existence of a religious exemption from vaccination requirements. It has occurred to me that people may not know about what I call “the homeschooling exemption.” In most states, vaccination requirements are made so that a children are not allowed to start kindergarten until they have all of their vaccinations. [...]

On sacrificing your children

I wrote a whole ago about an article by a secular woman dating an evangelical man, and how that man as an evangelical believes he must love and serve God before even his serious girlfriend. In evangelical and fundamentalist circles, this same idea applies even to parents’ love for their children. One must always love [...]

Prince of Egypt modifies a Bible story

I recently re-watched the 1998 animated movie Prince of Egypt. I’ve always loved that movie, with its beautiful animation and awesome songs (it’s a bit of a musical). And that was all just as I remembered it, and just as moving. But there was one thing I noticed this time through that I don’t remember noticing before. [...]