From “Legal” Coverture to “Visionary” Coverture

law of coverture

You remember that piece I wrote a while ago about a World Magazine writer explaining why she changed her name when getting married? Well, her husband has commented on that piece arguing that I misunderstood what was said in the essay, so I made added a correction to the end of my post. But doing so made me think again about the whole name changing thing - and about why it was seen as completely natural, obvious, and mandatory in the conservative evangelical community in which I was raised. And … [Read more...]

Whose Politics Is It Anyway?

kids campaigning

Yesterday I was watching Rachel Maddow with Sally. Rachel had Elizabeth Warren on, and I turned to Sally and said "That's Elizabeth Warren. We like her." And then I froze. I know that I like Elizabeth Warren, but that doesn't mean that Sally does or has to. What was I saying?When I was a kid, my parents always said it like that. It was never about "this is the candidate mommy and daddy support"; instead it was always "this is the candidate we support." As in, the whole family. In fact, the … [Read more...]

What the history of feminism has to teach Atheism+

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As many of you certainly know, over the past year there has been a lot of talk within organized atheism about creating inclusive spaces – making sure that women, minorities, and LGBTQ individuals feel safe and welcome at conferences, in local groups, and in the online community. I think that one of the most important things to come out of all of this is that we need to oppose hostile environments. We need to make sure that everyone, regardless of their sex, race, or gender orientation is c … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy to Men: You don’t have to grow up!

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What are the qualities we generally associate with maturity? The ability to see things from others' perspectives? The ability to accept that the world doesn't revolve around you, and that things don't always go the way you want them to, and that you just have to deal with that? The ability to cooperate with others, to communicate and find compromises that everyone can be happy with?Yeah, under Christian Patriarchy, a man doesn't have to do any of that. Because he's the head of the family, … [Read more...]

Crunchy Moms and My Desire to Belong

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A few weeks ago I linked to a blog post about circumcision on a website called Authentic Parenting. A reader emailed me, wondering if I knew that Authentic Parenting also promotes anti-vaccine links and misinformation, and asking if I meant to endorse the site itself. I replied that I did not realize that and that I am not anti-vaccinations and I added a disclaimer to my post. And then I remembered that I actually have a link to the Authentic Parenting website on my Positive Parenting Resources … [Read more...]

“Teach Them Diligently”

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This weekend is the "Teach Them Diligently Convention" in Spartansburg, South Carolina. According to the website, The Teach Them Diligently Convention was born out of a recognized need for more events celebrating the focus of Christian Homeschool Families—which is to disciple their children to glorify God. It's not surprising that the "about" section on the website would begin with the following Bible verse: And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shal … [Read more...]

Authoritarian Parenting and Adult Children

This is part of a series in which I am re-posting a number of posts I've written in the past on issues involving parenting and Michael and Debi Pearl. I think these posts may be of interest to new readers, and if you're a reader who has been around with me since the beginning, they may be worth a re-read. This post was originally published here.   I have long wondered why my transition to adulthood has been so difficult. I want to be able to stand by my parents adult to adult, equal to equal … [Read more...]


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