Mothers are NOT always right


Humans of New York has been visiting Iran recently, and this story of a mother and daughter just popped up in my feed:I'm glad this woman's daughter is okay, though I'm bothered by the fact that she seems to care more about the fact that she was right about her daughter's boyfriend being bad news than she does about the fact that her daughter is now safe and no longer in an abusive relationship. It's not so much "I'm glad you're safe and happy now" as it is "I told you so." And can you sa … [Read more...]

Not Every Courtship Looks Like the Duggars’


So, courtships. In a post I wrote recently on the Duggars, I mentioned that I "went through a controlling and manipulative courtship process and then lived in fear that my mother would find out I was having sex during my engagement." A reader objected, and this exchange followed:So, I think it's time for a public service announcement: Not all courtships look the same. It seems that the high-profile Duggar courtships have so shaped public perception of what a courtship within this … [Read more...]

You always sound so angry!


From time to time I get a comment like this: Libby Anne,Why in all of your posts are you so angry. Not outright anger, just an undertone of anger. Its really unbecoming. We all love you and Jesus loves you too. You should repent and let his grace and love cover you or you might end up turning only more bitter and angry as you age . . . . and we all have experienced those people. ;-)In Christ,Kevin Sometimes I wonder if people like Kevin have actually read the Bible they claim to be … [Read more...]

The Pennington Point on Adult Kids Living at Home


I just stumbled upon a blog post Lisa Pennington wrote last August, a month before her daughter, Alecia Faith, left home. In this post, Lisa talks about how she handles having adult children living at home. Right now we have 4 adult kids living at home and 1 more graduated that’s just under the wire of official adulthood.This is a whole new level of parenting.  People say toddlers and teenagers are hard….we didn’t have big struggles with those ages.  But adults, that is a topic that needs so … [Read more...]

Israel Wayne on the (Patriarchal) Father’s Role


Israel Wayne is supposed to be a voice of reason in the Christian homeschooling community. A homeschool graduate himself, and now a homeschool father, he travels the convention circuit and has written blog posts criticizing various patriarchal homeschool leaders. It's a pity he's unaware that he is himself one of those patriarchal homeschool leaders.Unless you’ve been living under a rock lately, you’ve heard the smash pop hit, “Rude” by the group Magic!. It speaks about a young man, seeking p … [Read more...]

You Are Not Entitled to My Life

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Ever since reading her post about parents being "involved" in their adult children's romantic relationships, I've been bothered by a comment blogger That Mom left in her own comment section. In that comment, she condemned the "hands off" approach as unhealthy. Note that she's not talking about young children. She's talking about young adults. She argues that parents should be involved in every area of their young adult children's lives from careers to marriages.The thing is, I remember what … [Read more...]

The Botkins: Don’t Let Children Roll Their Eyes

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Ahab of the Republic of Gilead has begun reviewing the Botkins' Ready for Life webinar. I suggest you read his first installment in its entirety. Ahab's analysis is really quite good, and he includes numerous direct quotes. I wanted to highlight this quote, and add a little commentary: Discipline is not an option in your home. You have to bring discipline and order to your home. Disobedience is not an option in your home. Children cannot disobey parents, ever, either outwardly or passively. … [Read more...]