Homeschooling under the Influence


After I wrote my posts on academics and socialization, I realized that there is another way homeschooling affected my life---and it's no less significant. In fact, it's a whole lot more significant. Quite simply, homeschooling affected my life because it changed my parents. When I was born, my parents were fairly ordinary evangelical Christians. That didn't last. Their involvement in the homeschool movement introduced them to new ideas they had not before been exposed to---ideas put forward by … [Read more...]

How I Lost Faith in the “Pro-Life” Movement

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UPDATE: Welcome readers from facebook and elsewhere! Please subscribe through the buttons at the right if you enjoy this post.The spring of my sophomore year of college I was president of my university's Students for Life chapter. The fall of my junior year of college I cut my ties with the pro-life movement. Five years later I have lost the last shred of faith I had in that movement. This is my story.I was raised in the sort of evangelical family where abortion is the number one … [Read more...]

Whose Politics Is It Anyway?

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Yesterday I was watching Rachel Maddow with Sally. Rachel had Elizabeth Warren on, and I turned to Sally and said "That's Elizabeth Warren. We like her." And then I froze. I know that I like Elizabeth Warren, but that doesn't mean that Sally does or has to. What was I saying?When I was a kid, my parents always said it like that. It was never about "this is the candidate mommy and daddy support"; instead it was always "this is the candidate we support." As in, the whole family. In fact, the … [Read more...]

When It Really Is about Controlling Women

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A reader offered the following in a comment on a recent post on abortion: "What I had really wanted to say is that, except in the case of a rape, the pregnancy had to have resulted from a voluntary decision on the part of the woman, and therefore she should take responsibility for it, and carry the baby to term." I've been encountering this argument with growing frequency, and it really bothers me. Just last week my awesome husband helped me understand why. Put simply, this argument lays bare … [Read more...]

What the history of feminism has to teach Atheism+


As many of you certainly know, over the past year there has been a lot of talk within organized atheism about creating inclusive spaces – making sure that women, minorities, and LGBTQ individuals feel safe and welcome at conferences, in local groups, and in the online community. I think that one of the most important things to come out of all of this is that we need to oppose hostile environments. We need to make sure that everyone, regardless of their sex, race, or gender orientation is c … [Read more...]

Just Obey: Christian Patriarchy as Spiritual Abuse


I have heard the term "spiritual abuse" thrown around the blogosphere lately and I just realized that I wasn't really sure of a good definition of the term. I did some digging around on the internet and found a variety of definitions and aspects. There doesn't seem to be one consensus on what the term means, exactly. Some bloggers give it a wide definition while others give it a very narrow one.But as I thought about spiritual abuse, I kept coming back to one thing. Spiritual abuse involves … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy to Men: You don’t have to grow up!


What are the qualities we generally associate with maturity? The ability to see things from others' perspectives? The ability to accept that the world doesn't revolve around you, and that things don't always go the way you want them to, and that you just have to deal with that? The ability to cooperate with others, to communicate and find compromises that everyone can be happy with?Yeah, under Christian Patriarchy, a man doesn't have to do any of that. Because he's the head of the family, … [Read more...]