When It Really Is about Controlling Women

Controlling Women

A reader offered the following in a comment on a recent post on abortion: "What I had really wanted to say is that, except in the case of a rape, the pregnancy had to have resulted from a voluntary decision on the part of the woman, and therefore she should take responsibility for it, and carry the baby to term." I've been encountering this argument with growing frequency, and it really bothers me. Just last week my awesome husband helped me understand why. Put simply, this argument lays bare … [Read more...]

What the history of feminism has to teach Atheism+

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As many of you certainly know, over the past year there has been a lot of talk within organized atheism about creating inclusive spaces – making sure that women, minorities, and LGBTQ individuals feel safe and welcome at conferences, in local groups, and in the online community. I think that one of the most important things to come out of all of this is that we need to oppose hostile environments. We need to make sure that everyone, regardless of their sex, race, or gender orientation is c … [Read more...]

Just Obey: Christian Patriarchy as Spiritual Abuse

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I have heard the term "spiritual abuse" thrown around the blogosphere lately and I just realized that I wasn't really sure of a good definition of the term. I did some digging around on the internet and found a variety of definitions and aspects. There doesn't seem to be one consensus on what the term means, exactly. Some bloggers give it a wide definition while others give it a very narrow one.But as I thought about spiritual abuse, I kept coming back to one thing. Spiritual abuse involves … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy to Men: You don’t have to grow up!

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What are the qualities we generally associate with maturity? The ability to see things from others' perspectives? The ability to accept that the world doesn't revolve around you, and that things don't always go the way you want them to, and that you just have to deal with that? The ability to cooperate with others, to communicate and find compromises that everyone can be happy with?Yeah, under Christian Patriarchy, a man doesn't have to do any of that. Because he's the head of the family, … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: The Family Responds to Questioning

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How did your parents and siblings respond to you questioning/rejecting their beliefs? How did those you grew up with respond? Joe: When I met, Kristine, the woman I have been married to for almost 11 years, I had already left my singly mother who very sincerely and deeply followed Bill Gothard.  Regardless of her lifestyle. I still felt that I needed to be completely open with her about everything in my life.  Knowing she would be hateful toward Kristine, I told her anyway - and she was h … [Read more...]

Authoritarian Parenting and Adult Children

This is part of a series in which I am re-posting a number of posts I've written in the past on issues involving parenting and Michael and Debi Pearl. I think these posts may be of interest to new readers, and if you're a reader who has been around with me since the beginning, they may be worth a re-read. This post was originally published here.   I have long wondered why my transition to adulthood has been so difficult. I want to be able to stand by my parents adult to adult, equal to equal … [Read more...]

“A Religious, Authoritarian Culture”

I just came upon an article called "Are you raising your children in a religious, authoritarian culture?" and I thought you all might find it interesting. The author, Janet Heimlich, has written a book called Breaking Their Willon religious child abuse. She has also written an article on Michael Pearl. What I found most interesting about this particular article, though, was that Heimlich gives a list of ten beliefs held by "religious, authoritarian cultures." I thought I'd use this article to go … [Read more...]


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