I Once Courted Too (Some Thoughts on Jessa Duggar)

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Reader Marguerite had this to say in a comment on a recent post about Jessa Duggar's courtship: Since I am not directly familiar with purity culture, I find this all very shocking. Jessa is an adult, and yet her father is dictating to her whom she can even associate with, reading all her texts, and in general completely controlling her life. I doubt she feels that she has any other options at this point, which makes her more or less a helpless pawn in her parents' hands. At twenty! I find this … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Courting a Stranger

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As you may know, the Duggars announced last week that their daughter Jessa is now courting. I've watched the conversation surrounding this announcement, and to be honest, my gut reaction has been to wish people would leave the poor girl alone. This is as close as Jessa is allowed to come to dating, and she almost certainly has all of the happy jitters that come with first love. I remember that time myself and have a lot of empathy for Jessa, and some of the more snarky responses I've seen have … [Read more...]

A Response to a Failed Courtship—A Humorous Poem

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In google searching for something totally unrelated, I came upon a humorous poem about a failed courtship. As someone raised in this mentality, I found it familiar---and quite funny---and thought I'd share. It's written like a letter from a girl's prospective suitor to her father, sent after learning (from the father, of course) that the girl had rejected his suit. And weirdly, this poem was posted approvingly on the website of Scott Brown, Vision Forum ally and courtship promoter … [Read more...]

Things Women Hear in the Church

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I ran across two different articles today, each of which would have probably seemed only more appalling to me if they weren't simply parroting things I heard growing up as a conservative evangelical.The first was called True Love Doesn't Wait, written by a married father of six. The basic premise? Church singles need to stop waiting for true love and just get married already. The author responds to a blog post made popular in the fury of Christian blogging on purity that followed a post on … [Read more...]

Homeschooling under the Influence

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After I wrote my posts on academics and socialization, I realized that there is another way homeschooling affected my life---and it's no less significant. In fact, it's a whole lot more significant. Quite simply, homeschooling affected my life because it changed my parents. When I was born, my parents were fairly ordinary evangelical Christians. That didn't last. Their involvement in the homeschool movement introduced them to new ideas they had not before been exposed to---ideas put forward by … [Read more...]

A Documentary Look at Courtship

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There's a documentary being madeĀ about the courtship of a young woman named Kelly. Kelly's story is interesting for a number of reasons (for example, she was raised in a secular home, converted to Christianity, discovered and embraced the Christian Patriarchy movement, and then, in her thirties, found "spiritual parents" to walk her through the courtship process). Let me start by giving you the documentary's trailer:The documentary is still in production, and its website is actually a … [Read more...]

Removing the Romance from Pride and Prejudice

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As the leaders of Christian homeschool movement embrace the (supposedly) virtuous past as a contrast to our (allegedly) hedonistic presence - emphasizing female chastity and male chivalry and even, yes, holding historically themed tea parties - they often seem to zero in on the nineteenth and early twentieth century as a sort of ideal era. And yet, this fascination with the Victorian era, along with the years immediately before and after it, often includes an embrace of literature that seems to … [Read more...]


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