CTBHHM: Blessings and Vessels

blessing vessels

Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 291Today is the very last page of Created To Be His Help Meet. In ClosingGod is awesome and terrible in his judgements. He is also full of mercy, and of grace. His strong desire is to bless his people, but too often by our "carelessness," we force him to judge. I believe he wearies of judgement. By our "carelessness"? That phrasing is just weird. It's like suggesting that child who is careless and spills something is forcing her mother to punish her. But … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “I Am His Water”


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 288-89Believe it or not, next week will be the last installment of our Created To Be His Help Meet series. We're finally there---at the end of the book. I feel like we need to do something to celebrate---after all, I've been at this for over two years! I'm thinking about finding a way to better organize these posts, and writing some concluding posts summarizing key themes and concerns. I'm also thinking about what book to do next. I may put To Train Up A … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Why Was Marian’s Husband So Loving?


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 286-86 Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,I thought you might be interested to hear of my husband's passing, and what a blessing it is to have been married to a husband who lived what you teach. He went out to do yard work in the afternoon of September 24 and as he went out the door, he turned and said to me, "It has been a wonderful life with you." Those were the last words I ever heard him say. He came in a few minutes later, went into a back room, and dropped dead … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: A Young Wife Should Be “Bored and Lonely”


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 283-84In this passage Debi explains how marital bonding takes place. I hope you're ready, because it's bad. Early RootsThe seeds of bonding are planted early in the marriage. When a young wife gets bored and lonely being at home by herself, she spends her days preparing for her husband's return each evening, and she looks forward to their weekends together. She spends the lonely hours planning for him, cooking for him, cleaning for him, and eagerly … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Playing Telephone with God


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 282Today we will cover a letter. Debi doesn't respond to it directly, using it as a stepping stone to more discussion of being a soul mate, but it's worth looking at for itself. Dear Debi,I found your website! What a blessing. I have learned so much from the submissive-wife-type comments. I am learning about being a submissive wife, and it is amazing to see my husband absolutely bloom before my eyes. Relationships and personalities are so varied. I'm … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: What “Companionship” Means in Pearl World


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 279-80This passage is an interesting one---or at least, I found it so. Part of me wanted to like it, because Debi is talking about the importance of spouses being soul mates. But it seems our definition of "soul mates" differs, because what she describes is profoundly one-sided.She begins with a letter: When Two Become OneDear Friends in Christ,I am a minister. I recently listened to a tape a pastor recorded about a woman learning to honor and … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which Debi Mangles Another Bible Character


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 277-279Today we get the rest of Sarah's story. In this section Debi reads into the Bible, urges abused women to blame themselves, and sees a Sarah I don't see. The Bible has lots of different stories that can be used to illustrate some really important points and themes (as with any body of mythology), but Debi seems bound and determined to take complex and interesting stories and make them two dimensional. While Abraham was learning to obey God, Sarah was … [Read more...]