CTBHHM: Beautiful Sarah, and Abraham’s Lie

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 275-277This week we start a new chapter---"Heirs Together in the Grace of Life"---and we get another Bible story---Sarah. Are you ready? Sarah the Beautiful If I had been the one authorizing exceptions, I would have released Sarah from obeying her husband on at least two occasions, but I would have been wrong. Sarah chose to obey Abraham even when he lied and told her to lie because he was afraid of what could happen if the king knew she was his wife. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which Debi Explains Abigail

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 270-272This week we get to see Debi's treatment of David, Abigail, and Nabal. Abigail's StoryThe Scripture records one "exception" story, where a woman was forced by the law of the land and the preservation of her people to act contrary to her husband's will. It is the famous love story of David and Abigail. Actually, Esther also acted contrary to her husband's will to save her people. It's worth noting that there are other cases where women have acted … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Bottomless Line

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Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 270Today Debi sums up her section on when women are allowed to disobey their husbands. Next week we'll cover the story she finishes this section with---that of Abigail. The Bottom LineIf a wife has an attitude of rebellion, she can find a thousand different exceptions to obedience. But if a wife is really seeking God and asking for wisdom from on high, she will be able to discern the difference between her own controlling spirit and those rare instances … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: So Your Husband Says Not to Go to Church . . .

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 269-270Here we come to the last example Debi offers regarding when it is okay to not obey your husband. Next week we will see her attempt to sum up what she's saying here, and the week after we will see her mangle the story of Abigail in the Old Testament. My Husband Doesn't Want Me to Go to ChurchDear Debi,My husband says I can't go to church in the evening anymore. I feel if I do not have this sweet time of fellowship, I will not be able to … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: From Thievery to Tax Fraud

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 267---269Are you ready for another super-confusing section where Debi tries once again to paint a line between when you can disobey your husband and when you must obey, but only succeeds in making things more confusing? Well buckle up, because that's where we're headed! ThieveryDear Mrs. Pearl,I have tried very hard to obey God and my husband, but I am afraid I will end up in jail if I keep helping him. He makes me stand "watch" at truck stops, while … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Cross-Dressing (with a Dose of Transphobia)

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Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 267Remember that we're in the section where Debi is discussion exemptions from obedience to one's husband. The trouble is that, as readers have pointed out, she's not actually explaining where the line is. Instead, she's throwing out extreme examples where it's okay to disobey. This is not all that helpful to women in much more typical situations, and in fact it (not unsurprisingly) reinforces the idea that disobeying one's husband can only be done in extreme c … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sodomite Predator

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Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 266Now that we've finished with Michael's lengthy exposition, we're back to Debi. Practical ExamplesYou may still be confused as to when you are to obey and when not. We will list some of the questions and issues we receive in the mail and discuss them one by one. In this post, we'll look at her first example. Sodomite Predator(E-mail that was answered immediately)Dear Pearls,Something terrible is happening, and we do not have any friends … [Read more...]


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