CTBHHM: In Which Shannon Smashes Her Husband’s Computer


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 255-258We're in a new chapter! It's titled "To Obey or Not to Obey (That is the Question)." The chapter starts with a long letter. Dear Pearls,About 6 months ago, I noticed that every evening my husband started going to our spare room to "work" on his computer. One of our younger daughters often cried when he was around, and so he said he was giving her space and trying to avoid upsetting her. Besides, he was tired and wanted some peace after working all … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: How to Make an Appeal


Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 253Since the very beginning of her book, Debi has been promising readers that she will tell them how to "make an appeal" to their husbands. Here, on page 253, she finally does so---and it takes her exactly one page. Learning to Make an AppealThere were a few times in our early married life when I had differences with my husband that I felt had to be resolved. I felt I had to speak to him and that he must listen. Frankly, if you are in a relationship your … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: What about the Head Covering?

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 248---250Once again, Debi starts with a letter. Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,I wonder if you would explain to me just what it means when Scripture says that a woman should wear a covering. A good friend sent me a booklet called "Should She Be Veiled." God has convicted her about wearing a covering, and she wanted to share the joy of the covering with me. My husband things I am silly and refuses to even talk about the issue. He told me I could do what I … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Question of Birth Control

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 247---248Debi starts this section with a letter: Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,Our family is in despair. I have stood on the promises of God against all counsel, and it appears it was not enough. I have six children and one on the way. My husband told me if I got pregnant again, he would leave me and I would never hear from him again. I guess he meant it. We have not heard from him for three months, and he left us without any means of support.My oldest two … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which Debi Further Confuses Poor Sue Ann


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 243---245Now we come to a section titled "Three Key Issues: Remarriage, Birth Control, and Head Coverings). Remember that we are still in the chapter on being obedient to your husband. 1. But I'm Already RemarriedDear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,It is sad to know you have missed God's will for your life. I want God's will and wiht the help of my church, I am willing to lay my life down for Christ.My first husband left. He filed for divorce (I never would, … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sweet Little Teresa’s Story

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 241---242Remember that we are still in the chapter on obedience to one's husband. In this section, Debi uses the story of "sweet little Teresa" to discuss hopeless cases and the way a wife can make a difference. Is There Yet Hope?There is hope. We can hope in God's Word when circumstances and counsel are all to the contrary.I once heard about a sweet and godly lady named Teresa, married to a godless, dope-head criminal who made his living dealing … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Don’t Sympathize with Your Husband


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 240---241In this passage we learn that being sympathetic is a bad thing. But we'll get to that in a moment. The Wife Does Make a DifferenceI once knew a young man who was well respected in the community, a strong leader both in his family and in the church. His young wife died and left him with several small children. In time, he married a very nice widow lady. By all appearances, they were happily married, but in a short time, the man began to … [Read more...]