CTBHHM: Don’t Sympathize with Your Husband

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 240---241In this passage we learn that being sympathetic is a bad thing. But we'll get to that in a moment. The Wife Does Make a DifferenceI once knew a young man who was well respected in the community, a strong leader both in his family and in the church. His young wife died and left him with several small children. In time, he married a very nice widow lady. By all appearances, they were happily married, but in a short time, the man began to … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Speak No Evil of Anyone, Ever

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 238---240This section, titled "Another Kind of Anger," is kind of all over the place. Remember that last week Debi told her readers that men are prone to sudden anger and that wives should take care not to provoke that anger in their husbands, and not to let it bother them when their husbands go off on them. In this section, Debi deals with what she calls "bitter" anger. However, as we shall see, this section is a bit confusing as she goes back and forth … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Michael Compliments Himself—by Complimenting Debi

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By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 165---167After what I'm calling the Great Internet Blackout '14 (turns out backhoes and cables don't mix...you'd think the phone/internet/tv people would have realized this prior to digging), I'm back with another review. Because I've been away for awhile, I'm treating all of you lucky readers to an extra-long section! Don't you feel blessed to be able to read more of Michael's inspiring words? WrinkleA … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Men Are Powder Kegs (so Don’t Provoke Them)

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 237---238Today we learn that Debi thinks all men are explosive powder kegs who lash out in sudden anger at a moment's notice. I'm not surprised by this, but I sure am sad. How to Minister to a MAD HusbandIt is common for men to react with sudden anger when things do not go their way. They can get mad over a lawnmower, a faulty appliance, or a child talking too much. It is unregulated testosterone seeking a conflict. It is not usually conflict-induced, … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Obey Your Husband so He Will Have Nothing to Beat Down

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 236---237I'll tell you right off that this section is a doozy. There is a lot to unpack here, and there are a lot of things that help explain where Debi is coming from when she writes what she does. This section may be triggering for survivors of abusive relationships. Dignity Befitting a QueenMy friend responded to her husband with dignity befitting a queen. He was proud of her beauty. He was proud of her dignity and poise. He was honored that such a … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: (Misplaced) Hope for an Abused Woman

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 232---236Remember that we are in the chapter on wives being "obedient" to their husbands. This section is titled "How to Win Your Lost Husband," and begins by quoting a letter she received. Dear Pearls,┬áMy husband is lost. He is full of anger. I feel hopeless of ever having a heavenly marriage. Has anyone ever emerged from the gloom and doom I am now in and achieved a heavenly marriage? Does God in his grace and mercy have a plan and promise on how to … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “He will be your head, and you will follow him”

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Created To Need His Help Meet, pp. 229---231We now begin Debi's chapter on being obedient to one's husband. In this first section, Debi mainly just quotes Bible verses, and then interprets them for her readers. In this post I'll touch on some issues of interpretation, but I'll also bring out some other pieces that come up, including a passage that sheds light on Debi's view of the role of daughters, and more on Michael's view of church authority.Debi begins with a definition: Obedient: … [Read more...]


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