CTBHHM: It Is Acceptable to God

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 262-263 This is the last of Michael Pearl's section of Debi's book. In this section, remember, Debi's husband Michael is explaining, from the Bible, when there are exceptions from wifely obedience---and when there are not. This section is called "Enduring Suffering Wrongfully," and it's really, really bad. Michael begins by quoting I Peter 2:13-17.13 Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake: whether it be to the king, as … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: God Does Not Override a Man’s Authority

Created To Be His Help Meet, 260-261We're in the section where Michael takes up the pen and explains the exceptions to the requirement for wives to obey their husbands. Last week we learned that it's all about spheres of authority---if a husband is inside his sphere of authority, his wife must obey; if he steps outside of his sphere of authority, his wife need not obey. But what is inside of the husband's sphere of authority and what is not? This week we learn the answer to that … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Spheres of Authority

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 259-260In this section Debi asks Michael to write about when a woman is permitted to disobey her husband. Michael goes on for pages and pages, so we will only deal with the first few sections here. All Authority Belongs to GodPaul taught that we are to obey the higher powers, and yet there were times when he and the apostles obeyed God instead. We know that when the Jewish or Roman government commanded the early church to act contrary to Scripture, Peter … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which Shannon Smashes Her Husband’s Computer

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 255-258We're in a new chapter! It's titled "To Obey or Not to Obey (That is the Question)." The chapter starts with a long letter. Dear Pearls,About 6 months ago, I noticed that every evening my husband started going to our spare room to "work" on his computer. One of our younger daughters often cried when he was around, and so he said he was giving her space and trying to avoid upsetting her. Besides, he was tired and wanted some peace after working all … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: How to Make an Appeal

Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 253Since the very beginning of her book, Debi has been promising readers that she will tell them how to "make an appeal" to their husbands. Here, on page 253, she finally does so---and it takes her exactly one page. Learning to Make an AppealThere were a few times in our early married life when I had differences with my husband that I felt had to be resolved. I felt I had to speak to him and that he must listen. Frankly, if you are in a relationship your … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: What about the Head Covering?

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 248---250Once again, Debi starts with a letter. Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,I wonder if you would explain to me just what it means when Scripture says that a woman should wear a covering. A good friend sent me a booklet called "Should She Be Veiled." God has convicted her about wearing a covering, and she wanted to share the joy of the covering with me. My husband things I am silly and refuses to even talk about the issue. He told me I could do what I … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Question of Birth Control

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 247---248Debi starts this section with a letter: Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,Our family is in despair. I have stood on the promises of God against all counsel, and it appears it was not enough. I have six children and one on the way. My husband told me if I got pregnant again, he would leave me and I would never hear from him again. I guess he meant it. We have not heard from him for three months, and he left us without any means of support.My oldest two … [Read more...]