CTBHHM: Obey Your Husband so He Will Have Nothing to Beat Down

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 236---237I'll tell you right off that this section is a doozy. There is a lot to unpack here, and there are a lot of things that help explain where Debi is coming from when she writes what she does. This section may be triggering for survivors of abusive relationships. Dignity Befitting a QueenMy friend responded to her husband with dignity befitting a queen. He was proud of her beauty. He was proud of her dignity and poise. He was honored that such a … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: (Misplaced) Hope for an Abused Woman

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 232---236Remember that we are in the chapter on wives being "obedient" to their husbands. This section is titled "How to Win Your Lost Husband," and begins by quoting a letter she received. Dear Pearls,┬áMy husband is lost. He is full of anger. I feel hopeless of ever having a heavenly marriage. Has anyone ever emerged from the gloom and doom I am now in and achieved a heavenly marriage? Does God in his grace and mercy have a plan and promise on how to … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: “He will be your head, and you will follow him”

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Created To Need His Help Meet, pp. 229---231We now begin Debi's chapter on being obedient to one's husband. In this first section, Debi mainly just quotes Bible verses, and then interprets them for her readers. In this post I'll touch on some issues of interpretation, but I'll also bring out some other pieces that come up, including a passage that sheds light on Debi's view of the role of daughters, and more on Michael's view of church authority.Debi begins with a definition: Obedient: … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Be Entrepreneurs . . . but only at Home!

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 220---227In this passage we turn back to women and work, and Proverbs 31. Men value hardworking women who are eager to learn how to do new things. No man wants to be saddled with a slow, incompetent wife. I have often heard my sons and their friends talking about what they wanted in a wife. They all agreed that they did not want to marry "a maintenance chick." No young man wants to marry "a lazy, visiting, 'gotta eat out' gal."All men agree on this one … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Don’t Take Your Kids to the Doctor

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 219 A good woman has a lot to offer the marriage. A man is wiser and more successful in his endeavors because his wife has a great deal of informational resources and a lot of hard work to add to the mix. Not surprisingly, studies show that a man with a stay-at-home wife makes a higher income than a man with a working wife or a man without a wife. A stay-at-home wife frees a man up to be more productive at work because he doesn't have to worry about the … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Are You a Dumb Cluck?

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 217---219 Dear Mrs. Pearl,I am so tired and discouraged. I feel as though my husband just doesn't love me or care for his family as he should. The house is falling apart. The yard is full of trash. The last straw is that the sink is leaking so badly that the floor under the sink always stays wet. He is quick to help anyone who calls for help, but to get anything done around here is impossible. Last night we had a big fight because of the screen door. It has … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Your Husband Can’t Cover for You

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 216---217In this section, we see the alternative to the "good woman" Debi outlined in her three examples last week. In that passage she spoke of men who are lazy, or bad fathers, or dishonest, and informed women who may be wives of these men that it is their duty to cover for their husbands' faults and make them appear faultless to the world. This week she speaks of women who are spendthrifts, or who leave their children with sitters, or who take advantage of … [Read more...]


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