CTBHHM: God or Husband—Whom Do I Obey?

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 210---211Debi just finished telling her readers that God's desire is for mothers to be keepers in the home, and that if they leave their children with others (even for as little as ten minutes) their children could end up molested or worse. She went so far as to say that not being a stay at home mother was to commit blasphemy against God. Now she addresses an important question, because she has put her readers in a bit of a dilemma. Whom Do I Obey? What … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Stay at Home or Your Child Will Be Molested

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 208---209Debi is really good at scaring women into doing just as she says. Have you noticed that? If you don't submit to your husband and have sex with him any time he asks . . . you will end up divorced and living in a dumpy duplex. And so on. Well, this week we begin the chapter titled "Keepers at Home." And according to Debi, if you are a mother and don't stay home with your children as commanded by God, well, there will be consequences. Scary … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: David’s Sin Was All Bathsheba’s Fault

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Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 207I have written so often about the tendency of what I call "the purity culture" to blame women for men's sexual actions. Even rape is too often blamed on the woman doing something to deserve it, inciting his lust with her clothing or her actions. Modesty is preached as the solution, and women are told to cover up. Women become responsible for men's sexual actions. In this, the last section of Debi's chapter on being "chaste," we see this idea taken to a … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Bad Bob

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 204---207Alright, story time! I've been waiting for this section for ages because . . . well.If you're new here, you've stumbled upon my page by page review of Debi Pearl's how to be a good wife manual Created To Be His Help Meet. Debi Pearl and her husband Michael run No Greater Joy Ministries, a fundamentalist ministry popular among conservative Christian homeschoolers. Michael is also the author of To Train Up A Child, a child rearing manual which I hav … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Catch 22

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 202---204We're still in the section on modesty, and here we get to the question of pants, which is a heated topic in so many fundamentalist circles. Once we're through that, we'll get a taste of what Debi thinks of fat* women, and in getting said taste we'll touch on an important Catch-22 women face in the purity culture Debi promotes. What About Pants? We cannot leave this subject without dealing with an issue that comes up over and over again. Is it … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Wear a Sack

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 201---202We're in Debi's chapter on being "chaste," and not surprisingly, we're discussing modesty. I actually found this passage really interesting myself, because there are several times when Debi departs from the conventional evangelical script---though not in good ways. A chaste woman is a modest woman. God speaks of a woman maintaining her chastity and purity by the clothes she wears. "In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Finding a “Decent” Woman

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 199---201This week we start Debi's chapter on being "chaste." Remember, she's going through the proscriptions in Titus 2: 4---5. Last week we finished her chapter on being "discreet." Let's get started! Dear Mr. Pearl,I am a 24-year-old male and looking for a wife. It is not as easy as it seems to find a decent girl. I want one who not only says she is decent, but LOOKS as though she is. A friend of mine married one of the girls of the church. She wasn't … [Read more...]


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