CTBHHM: Wear a Sack

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 201---202We're in Debi's chapter on being "chaste," and not surprisingly, we're discussing modesty. I actually found this passage really interesting myself, because there are several times when Debi departs from the conventional evangelical script---though not in good ways. A chaste woman is a modest woman. God speaks of a woman maintaining her chastity and purity by the clothes she wears. "In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Finding a “Decent” Woman

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 199---201This week we start Debi's chapter on being "chaste." Remember, she's going through the proscriptions in Titus 2: 4---5. Last week we finished her chapter on being "discreet." Let's get started! Dear Mr. Pearl,I am a 24-year-old male and looking for a wife. It is not as easy as it seems to find a decent girl. I want one who not only says she is decent, but LOOKS as though she is. A friend of mine married one of the girls of the church. She wasn't … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sex, Charles, and Lesbians

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 196This week we continue with Debi's questions not to ask your husband. 7. Do you ever think of just loving me in the spiritual way instead of always the carnal? I am so hungry for some deep spiritual understanding and communication.Something deep inside him is so dissatisfied, so frustrated that she responds intimately only when she feels right about it. It speaks nothing of his manhood. His soul is sick all the way to its core. He falls asle … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Men Can’t Take Criticism (Ever)

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 194---195This intro matter confuses me a bit. The Skinny SwineLack of Judgement"Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Proverbs 14:1). "A wise woman doesn't attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions. Her questions will be sincere inquiries concerning his will." The skinny woman who inspired this next list of questions doubtless saw herself as a kind person, wonderful mother, and f … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Debi Speaks on Ruth’s Sex Life (and a Stove)

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 192---194In this section we get a letter from a woman named Ruth, and Debi's response to it. Remember that we are in the section on being "discreet," so presumably this relates (somehow). Dear Mrs. Pearl,I know that joy comes from complete submission to God and to your husband. Does that mean I should not be frustrated and just plain tired? I have a question. Should one be quiet when you know your husband is making a poor decision? Doesn't being a helper … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Discretion and the Jewel in the Pig’s Nose

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 188---189Here we begin the chapter titled "To Be Discreet." Debi of course starts by quoting Titus 2 once again, given that she is going through it's pieces one by one and the phrase "that they may teach the young women . . . to be discreet" is the subject of this chapter. She then defines "to be discreet": To be discreet: Prudent; wise in avoiding error and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose; circumspect, courteous, polite, honest … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sexually Abused Children as Broken, Diseased

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Created To Be His Help Meet,  pp. 185---186This week we get to read the end of Debi's chapter on loving one's children. The HallThere is no permanent cure for genital herpes and many other forms of STDs. Yet one in five young teens in the USA has a sexually transmitted disease. Many statistics also tell us that one in four little girls will be sexually "messed with" by the time they are four years old. One in four little boys will be the victims of homosexual abuse. Our children are in … [Read more...]


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