Finding My Cohort

Darcy recently wrote a blog post called Of Homeschooling and Cohort Effect. I'm going to quote from it at length, but I'm going to start with some thoughts of my own, because Darcy got me thinking once again.I remember the first time I met someone else who was homeschooled but had similarly left that world, daring to think for herself and marry without approval. I met Natalie when I was newly married, and it was earth shattering. It was like meeting another American while abroad in an area … [Read more...]

Navigating the Cultural Transition

It's funny just how much religion permeated every inch of my life growing up. Evangelicalism and fundamentalism don't just involve abstract beliefs, but are actually cultures with their own phrases, activities, and icons. Bible club, church camp, "quiet time," jean's all encompassing. Growing up evangelical or fundamentalist, every single little bit of your life is affected by your family and church's religious beliefs. There are even dialects - jean skirts are more typical of … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Culture Shock

Since most of the world doesn’t understand Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy culture, do you feel this creates barriers in friendships or in romantic relationships? Do people have a hard time understanding you and your past? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: It seems like people are much more interested in who I am now than in who I used to be.  Personally, I try not to bring up my past until a relationship or friendship feels more established.  It is often hard to avoid though because there are a … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: On Sticking Out

Do you still feel as though you are “different” or that your past experiences emotionally isolate you from society? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: I definitely feel the effects of my past even today.  Because I was isolated from my peers in my formative years, social interaction takes a lot more concentration for me than for others.  In a way, it’s kind of like I’m operating in a foreign culture with different rules about what is acceptable and offensive.   Additionally, conversations in this … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Mainstream Culture

How were you first exposed to “mainstream” American culture? What were your first impressions? Joe: I was public schooled all my life and so lived in this "mainstream" culture first hand.  I say "lived in" because it was beaten into us that my siblings and I were sojourners in a foreign country.  Martyrs for the cause of patriarchal Christianity.  The only reason we had to be in this culture was because our evil father had forced it upon us. But I wanted it.  I wanted a girlfriend.  I wanted t … [Read more...]

Stranger in a Strange Land: Harry Potter and Me

I just realized something. Harry Potter and I have something in common. Harry was raised a muggle, and when he learns he is a wizard and begins attending Hogwarts he is forever not knowing things everyone assumes he should know. The bedtime stories every wizard kid grows up with? He's clueless. And on and on. Sometimes - no, frequently - someone assumes he knows something only to be shocked that he doesn't know it, and then to remember "oh, right, you were raised a muggle."As I have written … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Looking Back on Being Homeschooled

Do you perceive of your academic or social abilities differently today than you did when you were being homeschooled? Joe: I had the best of both worlds.  I went to public school and had many friends who were home taught.  I can relate to both.  Had I been homeschooled, I would have thought that everyone who thought differently than me was to be ostracized. Latebloomer: Definitely! As a teen, I put the blame on myself for my lack of social skills, and I felt happy to be safe at home.  I bel … [Read more...]