Under Her Father’s Authority

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In many ways, my upbringing and background isn't that weird. Yes, I had twice as many siblings as most people have cousins, but in general my upbringing was very normal---for the evangelical subculture, that is. But when I tell people about my background, the thing that always trips them up is the part about unmarried adult daughters being under their fathers' authority, to the point of requiring complete submission and obedience. This is . . . weird, even for the evangelical world. But in the … [Read more...]

A Twisted Father/Daughter Relationship

Father Daughter Dance

There is nothing wrong with arguing that a strong father/daughter relationship is important---if, that is, you're also arguing that strong parent/child relationships in general are important. But there's something weird when you elevate the father/daughter relationship above these others and start arguing that fathers and daughters should find in each other what they would otherwise go looking for in sexual and romantic relationships.Voddie Baucham says that middle aged men should turn to … [Read more...]

Teenage Daughters and Their Fathers

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I recently wrote about a group called "Bright Lights" that focuses on urging girls to abstain not only from sex and dating but also from male friendships---until marriage, of course. One of the conference topics, according to their website, is "Giving Your Heart to Your Father." One of the commenters responded to that as follows: I think the "Your Father" in the title meant God, but I could be wrong since there is the creepy incestuous vibe in the purity movement. I replied and let her know … [Read more...]

Mark Driscoll (Re)Invents Patriarchy

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You know what is interesting? Essentially every time conservative evangelical leaders wax on about patriarchy, they act like what they're preaching is new and shiny and totally different from that bad woman-hating patriarchy thing we had in the past. As an example of this, I give you Mark Driscoll's January sermon, "Real Men: Men and Marriage," which Ahab of the Republic of Gilead has transcribed for us. In it, Driscoll preaches the same-old age-old patriarchy but appears to think that what he's … [Read more...]

Vision Forum Builds “Manhood” in the Wilderness

Hazardous Journeys

I talked just the other day about the strict emphasis leading Christian Patriarchy organization Vision Forum places on gender roles. One thing I mentioned briefly was the Hazardous Journeys Society. This organization was formed in order to help boys learn to be men in a society Vision Forum views as increasingly feminized.To be perfectly honest, the Hazardous Journeys Society makes me think of the Boy Scouts, founded during the age of British Imperialism out of concerns that civilized … [Read more...]

What’s the most important thing about you? Oh right.

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Vision Forum. When the catalog hit our counters we kids always crowded around. Or, I should say, catalogs. There were three. The first included books, mostly on theology and family living. Also videos and CDs. Mom and dad bought a lot of things from that catalog. The second was the All-American Boys Adventure catalog. That's the one we kids fought over. Wrist rockets, science kids, water canteens four outside explorations . . . just about every item in that one ended up circled as Christmas … [Read more...]

In Defense of Susan Pevensie

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I read the Chronicles of Narnia over again and again and again as a child. My dad read them aloud to us, and we read them to ourselves, and then we acted them out in the woods, creating wooden swords and bows and going on adventures. The oldest four of us, two boys and two girls, took on the roles of Peter, Susan, Edmund, and Lucy. This meant that I was Susan.I felt very conflicted about being Susan. On the one hand, I loved Susan - strong and beautiful and brave, one of the kings and queens … [Read more...]


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