Raised Quiverfull: Advice for Others

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What advice do you have for other young adults currently questioning or leaving Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: Your questions are there, deep down: be honest with God and yourself and acknowledge them.  God is big enough to handle your questions.  Then try to find answers for those questions with the mind that God gave you.  It can be a scary journey but life is much richer and more interesting when you venture out of the box that you were raised in … [Read more...]

Courtship, Part 1: Eroding Girls’ Self Confidence

When I was in high school, I looked forward to the day when I would take part in a parent-guided courtship. It's what I wanted. The idea that I could go out myself and find my own spouse was incomprehensible to me. In fact, I even said that I would be open to an arranged marriage. More than that, there was even a point where I wanted an arranged marriage. Why, you ask? Let me explain.The idea that adult daughters should obey their fathers - an idea central to Christian Patriarchy - is … [Read more...]

Another Documentary: “Daddy, I Do”

I just found another purity documentary. For a review, click here, and for the documentary's website, click here. For the trailer, see below:  … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy and Bodily Ownership

My mother taught my sisters and I that our bodies belonged to our father. She told us that if we wanted to alter our bodies by a piercing or tattoo, that had to go through him - even if we were adults. She told us that once we married, our bodies would belong to our husbands, and we would likewise have to get permission from them to alter our bodies in any way.Christian Patriarchy teaches that every female has a god-given male authority, or male "head," to whom she must submit. And submit … [Read more...]

The Purity Culture’s Guinea Pigs: Its Daughters

A reader named Carol left the following comment on one of my posts regarding purity balls, purity rings, and the like: These moms and dads obviously were not raised this way, did not start believing in this claptrap until they had daughters, they have absolutely zero proof that staying pure, I mean, not even holding hands? until marriage ensures a successful marriage. I won’t even say happy because that seems beside the point. And apparently, their marriages are successful anyhow, in spite of t … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Stay at Home Daughters

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In what ways were boys and girls in your family raised differently vocationally (i.e., the boys pushed toward careers and the girls pushed toward homemaking)? How did this play out as you came of age (apprenticeship, college, staying home, etc.)? Joe: The girls were not allowed to go to college.  Not until they escaped from the prison anyway.  Also, for years, Mama hated the idea of college due to Bill Gothard's ignorance, and forbade any of the boys to plan their secondary education.  But, as … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Junior Mother

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If you were an older daughter, do you feel that you were expected to play “mother” for your younger siblings? Explain. Joe: I wasn't the older daughter but I can explain about my eldest sister. She was not expected to play the mother and not even expected to be responsible if anything happened to any of her younger siblings.  Every one of us had the responsibility to be obedient and worshipful of Mama at every minute of every day.  My sister did take on the responsibility of being the seein … [Read more...]


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