Emotional Incest, Part 4: The Pain

In Part 1 I discussed the definition of emotional incest, in Part 2 I discussed its relationship with the stay-at-home daughter dynamic of the Christian Patriarchy movement, and in Part 3 I discussed other ways emotional incest can occur as well. I am now going to turn to the problems and pain emotional incest causes.Emotional incest causes a multitude of problems, but I'm only going to address the three I see as most significant: first, it creates a relationship triangle between the parents … [Read more...]

Emotional Incest, Part 3: Daddy’s Little Princess and Mommy’s Big Boy

In Part 1 I looked at the definition of emotional incest and in Part 2 I looked at how integral father/daughter emotional incest is to the Christian Patriarchy movement. I want to take a moment here to point out some other ways emotional incest can play out, both in families not involved with the Christian Patriarchy movement and between mothers and sons in families in the Christian Patriarchy movement.First, this from Wikipedia: Jungian analyst and author Marion Woodman describes psychic in … [Read more...]

Emotional Incest, Part 2: The Botkins

In Part 1 I discussed the definition of emotional incest. Today I will look at teachings of leading Christian Patriarchy organization Vision Forum and its close affiliates, the Botkins, which for all intents and purposes mandate emotional incest.Vision Forum teaches that adult daughters are to stay at home until they marry. More than that, it teaches that they are under their father's authority just as they will after marriage be under their husband's authority, and that while they remain at … [Read more...]

What is it with Disney?

This weekend I watched The Little Mermaid, and, just like Tangled, there are parallels here, too. Nothing as blatant, maybe, but it's there.Ariel's father forbids her from contact with humans. But Ariel is not content with life under the sea - instead, she is fascinated by humans. Then Ariel makes contact and finds they're not so bad. In fact, she falls in love with one. How does her father respond? He freaks out completely. He lectures Ariel, telling her that humans are all the same, that … [Read more...]

Diapers, Crowd Control, Parenting, and Me

When I had my daughter, I didn't have the sort of jitters most new parents have - the fears about not knowing what to do, about breaking the baby, about embarking on a whole new unfamiliar journey. Why? Because I'd already raised more children than the vast majority of parents ever will.When I was in high school, I met a man with two young children, and when he heard how many siblings I'd had and the role I'd played in raising them, he said "I think you have more experience with this than I … [Read more...]

Beautiful Girlhood v. Courageous Boyhood

Remember how I centered my story, The Beautiful Girlhood Doll, on Vision Forum's qualities of beautiful girlhood? Well, I just today found out that Vision Forum also has a list of the qualities of courageous boyhood.Before I begin my side by side analysis of these qualities, can I say how much it bothers me that girls are to be "beautiful" while boys are to be "courageous?" Of course, when they speak of beauty they are speaking of the inside not the outside, but still. This dichotomy is … [Read more...]

Your Virginity is YOURS – Not Your Daddy’s

I just came across this:Golden Isles Father Daughter Purity BallYou really should go to the link and look at the pictures. Let me give you some examples below:Here's the thing. I have nothing against a girl deciding not to have sex until marriage, but that needs to be her choice. It's not her dad's choice, not her pastor's choice, not her mom's choice, not anyone else's choice. If a girl decides she wants to not have sex until marriage, it's her … [Read more...]