What’s a Girl to Do?


One interesting thing about feed readers is the order you sometimes find yourself reading pieces. Take this morning, for instance.First I read an article titled Everybody in dresses: Why does gender neutral clothing always mean ‘boy’ clothes for girls? by Audra Williams. Williams discusses a commercial for a new line of clothes Ellen Degeneres created for GAP Kids. According to GAP, the line is “more than just a clothing collection. It is a social movement meant to empower young girls to be t … [Read more...]

What My Cisgender Children Have Taught Me About Gender Identity


As a parent, I am very passionate about breaking down the gendered rules society expects my children to play by. I decided early on that I would not push my children into gendered play, and indeed, that I would try not to gender play to begin with. In fact, I push the boundaries even in areas like clothing. When my son Bobby was born, I put his older sister's perfectly good outgrown pink baby clothes on him (I would have bought gender neutral baby clothes to start with, but we were given a … [Read more...]

The Battle for the Target Toy Aisle


Yesterday I found myself in Target in search of a tablet charger. On the way to the electronics section I walked by the toy aisles. And then I stopped and stared. I knew that Target had decided to remove the gendered labeling from its toy aisles, but there's a difference between hearing the announcement and seeing the result. It was beautiful. Don't get me wrong, the toys themselves are as gendered as ever, but with the plain wood backing the division was less obvious.Some might think this a … [Read more...]

Bill Gothard Explains Road Safety (aka How Not to Get Raped)


Do you remember when that Saudi historian said that western women drive because they don't mind getting raped? He used the danger that occurs when a woman's car breaks down, leaving her open to sexual assault by any passerby, as a rationale for maintaining the Saudi ban on women driving. Well. Watch as this road safety module produced by Bill Gothard's Advanced Training Institute (a program for fundamentalist homeschoolers) takes a weird turn.(I was sent this module via Wende Benner of H … [Read more...]

What’s wrong with Minecraft’s new pocket edition skins?

Minecraft skins

I mentioned several months ago that Minecraft Pocket Edition only allowed players to play as Steve. This wasn't a big deal if you played on your own (you wouldn't generally actually see yourself, after all), but became more of an issue when playing with others on a shared wifi connection. Well, Minecraft has since updated its app, and users now have their pick of a variety of characters.Yay!Well, almost yay.You can choose Steve or Alex (as my readers pointed out on a previous po … [Read more...]

The Tomboy in Skirts


My six-year-old daughter Sally wears dresses, well, basically, all the time. If she's not wearing dresses, she's wearing skirts. I can't think of the last time I saw her in shorts, and she swore off pants last year. Too uncomfortable, she said. When it's cold, she wears leggings under her dresses. Dresses, dresses, always dresses.  This is weird to me. I grew up in a conservative evangelical homeschool culture that valued female domesticity. When I was 13, I swore off pants. I believed women … [Read more...]

Patriarchy and the Gender of God


I recently came upon an interesting blog post by Sarah Moon of the progressive Christian channel on Patheos. In it Sarah pushed back against a blog post in which Roger Olson of the evangelical channel on Patheos argued against calling God "mother." While I'm no longer religious myself, I was struck by the role gender constructs played in Roger's post.Roger starts by noting the following: Some Christians struggle with calling God “Father” for three reasons. First, some say addressing God as F … [Read more...]