The Children in the Sandbox

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Over the holidays I read a novel by Jodi Picoult. I enjoyed the book, but there was one passage that bugged me. In it a mother acts as narrator, and explains that we're all supposed to say there is no real difference between boys and girls, but that that is a "polite fiction." She says all you have to do is look into any sandbox at any park, and you'll see the girls preparing food and the boys smashing things with trucks. Except that this is not in fact my experience.Look, my son Bobby loves … [Read more...]

Why I Put My Son in Dresses

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So I recently came upon an article titled My Son Wears a Dress and That's OK with Me. In it, a father explains his two-year-old son's penchant for wearing dresses like his four-year-old older sister. Every morning my four-year-old daughter, Sydney, drags a chair into her closet and plucks a dress off of the rack. I try to lean her in other directions---“Why don’t we try shorts today?”---but Sydney’s stubborn. And I think she deserves the freedom to choose what she wants to wear.My son, Asher … [Read more...]

Talking about Female-on-Male Domestic Violence

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I recently came upon a video in an article titled This Is What Happens When The Public Sees A Woman Abusing A Man. The video runs through a scenario of public domestic violence twice, first with the man abusing his female partner and second with the woman abusing her male partner. In the video, several individuals ultimately step in and stop the male-on-female abuse, but no one steps in to stop the female-on-male abuse.When this topic comes up, one explanation for the different response … [Read more...]

Unhelpful Things (Some) Atheists Say

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Yesterday, Ed Brayton wrote a post titled Atheists, Please Stop Saying These Things. I thoroughly enjoyed it and agreed with what he had to say. Below are summaries of his points (in his post he offers lengthy explanation under each). 1. Please stop saying that “we’re all born atheists.”2. Please stop trotting out simplistic reasons why people believe. 3. Please stop explaining the creation of religion in equally simplistic ways.4. Please stop conflating fundamentalism or Biblical li … [Read more...]

“Those are for Boys!” and Other Stories

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Two days ago I wrote about gender and confirmation bias and some of my own experiences as I raise my two young children, one girl and one boy. There's a lot I didn't write and there will be more posts on this topic to come, but I wanted to take a moment to highlight a few of the comments on that post, as many of my readers weighed in with their own experiences, either as children themselves or raising children today. Feel free to add more of your own stories in the … [Read more...]

Bobby’s Trains and Confirmation Bias

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Bobby's face was pressed against the glass surrounding the electric train set. The trains were running, whistling, and crossing each other's paths. It was his favorite part of the children's museum. Even at only one year of age, children have interests and show preferences, and one of Bobby's definite interests is trains.Just then, my husband Sean's Uncle Dale walked over and smiled at Bobby. "Look at him!" he said. "He's obsessed with that train. He's such a boy!" I frowned. I hate it when t … [Read more...]

“Homeschool Girls” Speak Back

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Last week I wrote about Louis Markos' article, "Why Homeschool Girls Are Feminism's Worst Nightmare." Today I want to highlight three comments by other "homeschool girls" like myself. I thought these three comments were particularly insightful, and did not want them to be simply buried in that comment thread.First comes Lasselanta's comment. I have met Dr. Markos once or twice. He is engaging, lively, and a good speaker, and his students enjoy his classes. He also frequently falls into the … [Read more...]


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