Gender, Gender, Everywhere

I was recently at an appointment in a medical office with my preschool son, Bobby. As he is sometimes want to do, Bobby was wearing a dress. The dress was flowered, with a wide skirt that swirls out when he twirls. He usually wears pants or shorts, but he loves dress-up and has a small collection of dresses of his own, and I figure, if girls can wear pants as well as skirts, why shouldn't boys be allowed to wear skirts if they so desire? It wasn't his appointment and we hadn't been there before, … [Read more...]


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“Do I look like a boy, or a girl?”

My daughter Sally recently put on a new outfit and turned to me with a question."Do I look like a boy, or a girl?" she asked."You look like Sally," I told her.This exchange was brought to mind when reading Jessica Winters' Slate article, "Are You a Boy or a Girl?" In the article, Winters speaks of people's frustration when they can't immediately identify the gender of her eighteen-month-old daughter.Like a lot of 18-month-olds, my daughter is epicene; even if she’s out on the to … [Read more...]


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Time for This Millennial Mom to Buy Some Barbies!

Okay, okay, so the title of this post is slightly over the top. This past Christmas was a bit more heavy on consumerism than I'd planned and I've sworn off getting my children new toys until their birthdays, but I have to say, I am pleasantly impressed with the new direction Mattel is taking Barbie. The toy company has just announced  a move away from its classic look toward a greater embrace of diversity in body shape. The dolls in the image below are only some of the 33 new Barbies the company … [Read more...]


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Hi! Married Feminist Mother Here!

Last summer Ladies Against Feminism posted an article titled "Speak for Yourself: Why Single Feminists Should Not Speak for Married Mothers." I've been ruminating over this article ever since and it's still bothering me. For one thing, I'm finding it highly ironic that the author of this piece, Marian Shah, is herself not a mother, while I, the feminist in the room, am a mother. For another thing, the author doesn't seem aware of third wave feminism. And finally, the author's words do not … [Read more...]


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What No One Said about Rey (Star Wars Spoilers!)

By now most of you have probably seen Star Wars: The Force Awakens, which opened on December 18th. My daughter has been pretending to be Rey nearly constantly since seeing the movie, and my son has spent all day today telling everyone he comes in contact with that he is BB8. (At three, I think the robot BB8 is actually the character he identifies with most strongly.) Learning proper light saber usage (can you say Christmas presents?) has suddenly become very important in our household!I have … [Read more...]


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It’s Not Just a Guy Thing—Oh Wait, Yes It Is

When I saw that a prominent Christian blogger, Tim Challies, had posted an article about sinning with your eyes titled It's Not Just a Guy Thing, I was excited. Ever since the Victorian Era de-sexed women, evangelicals have generally positioned things the sin of lust squarely in male territory. Now to be clear, I have a problem with this entire construction, and I don't believe visual sexual enjoyment is wrong---though exploitation clearly is. But when I saw the article title, I expected to find … [Read more...]


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Liberating Moments: Ex-Pentacostals Cut Their Hair

If you've come out of a form of fundamentalism, you may have had a moment of sheer liberation---something symbolic and small in one sense, but also huge and fraught with meaning. I had many such moments, especially early on. I remember one in particular, when I took a dress I had valued for being "old fashioned" and "modest" and cut it up, remaking it into a dress that was hip and slightly risqué. It felt quite liberating, and meant a lot to me!All this came to mind when I watched this y … [Read more...]


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