Respect: I do not think it means what you think it means

I grew up hearing that men needed to "respect" women, and that one of the biggest problems in our society was that men had stopped respecting women. Except that there's something really strange going on here, because feminists, myself included, also believe that men need to respect women. It's just...they don't mean the same thing. Actually, they sort of mean the opposite thing.Leaders in the Christian Patriarchy movement says that men don't respect women today because they don't open doors … [Read more...]

Abortion, “God’s Plan,” and “Selfish” Women

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I've often said that when I was pro-life it was because I honestly believed the embryo/fetus was a person with a soul. This is true, but there's something more. The reality is that I had no idea what women who found themselves with unplanned pregnancies faced. I had no understanding of the reasons someone would choose to end a pregnancy.I was raised by a stay at home mother who had baby after baby without ever a threat to her health or the family's finances. No pregnancy was planned, but … [Read more...]

The Problem with “Gender Roles”

Here is an excerpt from a comment recently posted by a reader going by the name JW. Since he asks his question honestly and politely, I thought I’d respond with a post in kind. “In the articles I have read of various feminists I always tend to read some kind of grudge within. It is as if the world is terrible because it seems to 'demean' women and deprive with of inequality. Yet, yes, there is inequality in this world and it is the right thing to do to fight for them but with feminism this del … [Read more...]

Gender Blind Spots

Sometimes I think that being raised the way I was I notice things that others don't. Sometimes it seems like I see mainstream American society miming the beliefs of Christian Patriarchy in uncomfortable ways. It's like there are these damaging gender blind spots that no one notices and everyone buys into. Take, for example, Michelle Obama's recent email promoting her campaign group, Women for Obama.As I have traveled across the country, I have had the privilege of meeting incredible women … [Read more...]

Beautiful Girlhood v. Courageous Boyhood

Remember how I centered my story, The Beautiful Girlhood Doll, on Vision Forum's qualities of beautiful girlhood? Well, I just today found out that Vision Forum also has a list of the qualities of courageous boyhood.Before I begin my side by side analysis of these qualities, can I say how much it bothers me that girls are to be "beautiful" while boys are to be "courageous?" Of course, when they speak of beauty they are speaking of the inside not the outside, but still. This dichotomy is … [Read more...]

Men and Women in Christian Patriarchy: Masters and Slaves or Equals?

My parents always taught me that men and women were equal. Indeed, I was never made to feel inferior for being a woman. My parents taught me that men and women were different and had different roles to play, but that men and women and their roles were also equal and of equal worth. The male role is to provide for his family and protect them, to engage in politics and spiritual warfare, to have a career and make the decisions for his family. The female role is to keep the house and home, raise … [Read more...]

Hollywood Pay Gap

I came upon this article in The Guardian today and found it fascinating. It really says a lot about the relationship between the pay gap and gender roles, and reveals how far we still have to go. Forbes List Exposes Hollywood Wage Gap Angelina Jolie may be Hollywood's highest-paid female actor but she trails Leonardo DiCaprio by $47m. What's going on?Forbes Magazine released its annual list of the top-earning male Hollywood actors this week. Hollywood star salaries have always been out … [Read more...]