Modern Girlhood and Candy Land’s Sweet Poison

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Raising a daughter in today's world is hard. We like to think of ourselves as light years ahead of the 1950s in terms of gender equality, but sometimes I don't see it. And, lately, Candy Land has been one of those places. I am so incredibly thankful that my husband's grandparents gifted us their old Candy Land board, because otherwise I would be scouring ebay for one. When I played Candy Land growing up, we had the 1984 version.Then, in 2004, the game was updated.With this … [Read more...]

Matthew Chapman, Child Marriage, and Homeschooling

Matthew Chapman

Yesterday I wrote about my concerns about child marriage in the Christian homeschooling world. In particular, I wrote about the Maranatha story, and included a mention of the marriage of Maranatha's daughter Lauren at age 16 to a man ten years her senior. I included a wedding picture from Lauren's wedding in the post, in order to make what I was talking about real. Blogger Lana of Wide Open Ground, who knew Lauren's family growing up, expressed concern at my use of that picture, saying that … [Read more...]

And Bobby Wore Heels

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I was getting ready to check out at the second-hand children's clothing shop when I realized I had a problem. When we had first arrived at the store Bobby had brought me a pair of white heeled girls' dress shoes just his size and had asked me to put them on him (he doesn't really have words yet, but that doesn't mean he can't communicate!). So I had, and he'd been running around in them with smiling from ear to ear ever since. And now that it was time to go, well, now he wouldn't let me take … [Read more...]

My Father, an Enigma

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"Libby, you could be an engineer. You have the mind for it."My dad made this comment while we were in the car, driving by a factory of some sort. I was probably around sixteen. My dad's comment was completely offhand, and I didn't bother to respond. Inside, though, I was baffled. Why would my dad suggest such a thing? Didn't he realize that my lot in life, the lot God had designed for me, was to be a homemaker, raising children, caring for my husband, and tending the home? Couldn't he see … [Read more...]

“The Female Sin of the Internet”

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The very first blogger to write about Vision Forum president Doug Phillips' statement of resignation and repentance (it seems he had conducted a lengthy affair) was Julie Anne of Spiritual Sounding Board. Julie Anne is a homeschooling mother of seven who spent years in a spiritually abusive fundamentalist church following the trends and theology of the most conservative circles of the Christian homeschooling movement. In 2012, for a variety of personal and family reasons, Julie Anne left and … [Read more...]

Awesome Comment Award: AnotherOne on Repentance

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Frequent commenter AnotherOne had this to say in response to Doug Phillips' resignation as president of Vision Forum: I don't know what's more nauseating, his own hypocrisy, or the orgiastic confession/repentance spiel. This is one of the things that pisses me off the most about patriarchal fundigelical culture. They set up a system that gives men absolute power and stokes the fires of their insufferable egos. Then they promote perspectives on sexuality and romance that are completely out of … [Read more...]

Christian Charm Course: How Feminine Are You?

How Feminine Are You

Last week I promised you to dig up a Christian Charm Course book and share some of what it teaches. My mother taught my sister and I from the book when we were probably 12 or 13, and it is an excellent example of both purity culture and evangelicalism's frequent insistence that women should strive to be traditionally "feminine." I've heard of this book being used both in homeschool settings and in Christian schools, to give an example of its influence.Anyway, I recently found that another … [Read more...]


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