Be Still My Heart: Crushes and Guy-Girl Friendships

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By some quirk, the families we spent the most time with all had girls my age, and no boys my age whatsoever. I don't know why this was the case, because it wasn't like my mom was intentionally avoiding befriending people who had sons my age. Yes, there were a few families with boys my age in our homeschool community, and occasionally we were in the same co-ops with them. But in my family, it was difficult to form friendships with kids if their parents weren't friends of my parents, so I never … [Read more...]

Michael Pearl and a Victorian Poem

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I recently came upon a poem by J. E. Pollock. It was published in 1883 and was called "Woman's Influence." It's very Victorian, and it helps show just how many of Michael and Debi's ideas come straight from that era rather than from the Bible. Here's the poem (and here's the Michael post that most directly relates): WOMAN'S INFLUENCEBy J. E. PollockWHAT bliss that private life attains, How happy is that earthly lot, How blest to man that sacred spot Where woman's genial influence … [Read more...]

When Christian Homeschooling Violates Title IX

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Bill Gothard has long been big in Christian homeschooling circles. Thanks to Jeri Loftland, I was recently pointed to a website on which Gothard lays out some of his ideas concerning education. I'm going to quote Gothard's list and then pull out a select few items for further discussion. So without further ado, on to Gothard's "Advanced Seminar Session 16: Successful Education."The ultimate goal of education is not to produce a degree, but to produce many godly generations. God … [Read more...]

College Was To Be My Dowry

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My dad told me he was going to pay for my college education as a dowry for my future husband. He said it would be wrong to settle my future husband with debt wracked up for my education when I was going to be a stay at home mom and would never work outside of the home anyway. This is what came to mind when I read the recent viral post Six Reasons Not To Send Your Daughter To College.If I was only ever supposed to be a stay at home mom, you may be wondering, why did my parents bother to send … [Read more...]

Guest Post: A Confession

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A Guest Post by TimOriginally posted on Wine and MarbleTim blogs at Good and LostI have been avoiding this all day. All week. In one way or another, I’ve been avoiding this all my life.Some of you may think you know me, but you don’t, not really. You know a version of me, meticulously maintained, that I’ve spent my life pretending to be. And I am afraid — so very afraid — that if I let that image fall, you won’t like what you see. I’m afraid you’ll laugh at me, that you’ll think I … [Read more...]

The Harlot v. the Godly Woman

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I just ran upon this image on facebook. It is from the website Dan's Pulpit, and compares the "Harlot" to the "Godly Woman." Have a look:I was going to get all in depth examining all of the implications and issues involved here, but then I found myself short on time and thought instead I'd hand it over to you all to dissect. So, what do you think? What all is going on with this sort of contrast? If you spent time as an evangelical or fundamentalist, how have you seen this contrast … [Read more...]

My Brothers Too: Purity Culture and Double Standards

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Every time purity culture issues come up---purity rings, purity balls, saving your first kiss for the wedding---someone inevitably makes an argument about double standards. Sometimes these commenters are absolutely right---modesty discussions almost without fail involve a double standard---but other times, well, it's not so simple.In the conservative evangelical homeschool circles I ran in as a teen and young adult, boys didn't get a pass on not having sex before marriage. Guys were expected … [Read more...]


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