A Living Disappointment

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My mom has been doing a good job keeping just how disappointed she is in me and in my life choices to herself these days. A couple of years ago she went all out and left me in tears, wanting to curl into a ball, and ultimately in therapy. These days, she just purses her lips. Usually. Recently, though, we had a conversation in which she confirmed what a huge disappointment she views me as. It's not that I didn't know, but it's hard to hear said.To my mother, I am a living disappointment. You … [Read more...]

Let It Go

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This song from Disney's Frozen just reduced me to tears.I may gripe about the pinkification of the Disney princesses, but I've got to hand it to them here. Tangled was much the same, but this? Wow. This is amazing. I haven't even seen the movie, I've only seen this one song, and already the tears are flowing. Such catharsis.Here are the lyrics: The snow glows white on the mountain tonight Not a footprint to be seen A kingdom of isolation And it looks like I'm the queenThe … [Read more...]

Lost and Found: A Friendship, a Shunning, and an Apology

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While I talk a lot about my background here on the blog, I generally maintain some level of distance. Today I want to narrow that distance by sharing an email from a young woman who was a good friend of mine growing up. We'll call her Kate. Her email reduced me to tears and reveals a lot about just how this sort of culture functions---and about how and why shunning occurs.Kate was a good bit younger than I but was one of my closest friends during my high school years. She was homeschooled … [Read more...]

Selfishness and Detoxing after a Quiverfull Upbringing

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Reader Chrissy, who grew up in a large Quiverfull family, recently sent me an email with a question. I'm reprinting it here before adding my thoughts and opening the floor for input and discussion. I have a question for you, Libby, about something I have been pondering recently. It would seem that I am not a very helpful person. I rarely lend a hand unless there is something "in it for me". I am over-the-top helpful at my job, because I am invested in my paycheck and want to keep it coming. I … [Read more...]

Raised Evangelical: Isaac’s Story

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A post in the Raised Evangelical series.Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.My name is Isaac. I am a nineteen-year-old male living in the buckle of the Bible belt. I grew up in various states but was exposed to the same culture and beliefs regardless of where I went.My experience with faith and faith culture is a little different from that of most … [Read more...]

Raised Evangelical: Joy’s Story

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A post in the Raised Evangelical series.Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.My name is Joy; I am a 42-year-old wife and working mother of 2. I was raised in an evangelical home that was fairly well-integrated into mainstream culture. My mother is a conservative evangelical and my father is a progressive evangelical (think Jim Wallis).  I grew up to question so … [Read more...]

Raised Evangelical: Julie’s Story

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A post in the Raised Evangelical series.Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.Hi, my name is Julie. I’m twenty years old. I was brought up with a mixture of evangelical and fundamentalist beliefs. I am the middle child in a family of ten kids, though we were not Quiverfull, my dad just wanted a large family. I was a Christian until I was eighteen and then I drift … [Read more...]


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