“I Just Want To Be Normal”

Recovering Grace just posted a piece called "I Just Want To Be Normal." As I've said before, me too. Here's an excerpt from the piece: “What does this song remind you of?” my husband asked, as the song Take My Breath Away played on the radio station.I thought for a second before responding, “I don’t know. — Nothing, I guess. What does it remind you of?”He laughed. “Top Gun!”“Oh.” I said, feeling that familiar embarrassment overtaking me. “I’ve never really seen the full movie.”He … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Looking Back on Being Homeschooled


Do you perceive of your academic or social abilities differently today than you did when you were being homeschooled? Joe: I had the best of both worlds.  I went to public school and had many friends who were home taught.  I can relate to both.  Had I been homeschooled, I would have thought that everyone who thought differently than me was to be ostracized. Latebloomer: Definitely! As a teen, I put the blame on myself for my lack of social skills, and I felt happy to be safe at home.  I bel … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Pros and Cons of Homeschooling

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What do you see as the pros and cons of having been homeschooled? Do you feel that your homeschool experience prepared you well socially? Academically? Joe: Homeschooling is right for some people and very wrong for others.  Many people see homeschooling as the opportunity for indoctrination of their children.  Others see it as the only path to educating their child, with the child having failed all other alternatives.  I like the latter reason for opting for homeschooling.  But, the fact is, mo … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Homeschooling, Academics, and Socialization


Briefly describe your experience being homeschooled, including the amount of interaction you had with other homeschoolers or non-homeschoolers (socialization) and what sorts of textbooks or homeschool program your family used (academics). Joe: Not being homeschooled, I have no experience with it at all.  But, we churched exclusively with homeschoolers.  We never had friends outside of this church and, if we did, were banned from them immediately.  Homeschooling was God's plan for everyone and p … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Reasons for Homeschooling

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Why and when did your parents originally decide to homeschool? Did their reasons for homeschooling change over time? Joe: My family knew nothing about homeschooling until we met the esteemed, Bill Gothard.  Then, when Mama fell in love with every word that dripped off his tongue, she viewed his homeschooling program as the only program worth belonging to.  Little did I know this would be a huge blessing in my life.  I considered it a curse at the time, as you will soon see. In 1992, Bill Go … [Read more...]

Homeschooling: An Educational Option or an Identity?

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Because I see drawbacks to homeschooling and intend to send my children to public school, I am often painted as "anti-homeschooling." But I don't really see myself like that. In fact, I have never ruled out the possibility of homeschooling at some point in the future. After all, if public schooling somehow goes horrifically wrong for my young daughter, I will look at what other educational options were available - private school, charter school, homeschool.I think this is where I differ from … [Read more...]

Homeschooling, the family, and agents of socialization


I attended an academic talk on homeschooling not too long ago, and one of the speakers asked this: For the homeschooled student, when does the family stop being the primary agent of socialization? He went on to explain that for most children, school becomes a primary agent of socialization alongside the family. This does not happen for homeschoolers, though, who generally continue to go where their family goes, see who their family sees, and be where their family is. The family continues to be … [Read more...]